samsmith12 Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 My ex broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. We haven't been speaking much over the last couple of days. I hung out with some friends yesterday (girls) and one of them were a girl that my ex never really liked. I have never been entirely clear on why. Anyway my ex saw a picture and video of myself and this girl together and I posted it (I definitely did not post it to make my ex jealous or upset) but she is now extremely upset with me and thinks I'm a bad person who deliberately went out to hurt her? Why do I feel so guilty? What should I do?
TaraMaiden2 Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 My ex broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. We haven't been speaking much over the last couple of days. You shouldn't be speaking to her, connecting with her or seeing her at all, let alone 'much'! I hung out with some friends yesterday (girls) and one of them were a girl that my ex never really liked. I have never been entirely clear on why. Anyway my ex saw a picture and video of myself and this girl together and I posted it (I definitely did not post it to make my ex jealous or upset) but she is now extremely upset with me and thinks I'm a bad person who deliberately went out to hurt her? Why do I feel so guilty? What should I do? Ignore her. Live your life the way you want. She's an ex. She dumped you. She has no right whatsoever, at all, in any way, to dictate or even influence who you see, what you do, where you go, or who with. Please take an hour or so, to read the NC Guide in my signature. It doesn't take an hour to read. But you should read it, and read it again, and again, and again, until you realise she shouldn't even figure in your life, let alone get to you with her immature histrionics. Forget feeling guilty. She dumped you. You shouldn't give a damn how she feels.
TaraMaiden2 Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 I thought I'd seen your name before, in this thread. of course. She messed around with other guys, now she says you're trying to hurt her? Man, she is seriously screwy, isn't she?? I'm guessing you're still a teenager. I could be wrong - but your feelings are being expressed in a very young way. Please leave well alone. Listen to ALL the advice you've been given - and follow it! Please truat me - yopu will feel all the better for it. You juat have to show some will-power....
Toodaloo Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 My ex broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. We haven't been speaking much over the last couple of days. I hung out with some friends yesterday (girls) and one of them were a girl that my ex never really liked. I have never been entirely clear on why. Anyway my ex saw a picture and video of myself and this girl together and I posted it (I definitely did not post it to make my ex jealous or upset) but she is now extremely upset with me and thinks I'm a bad person who deliberately went out to hurt her? Why do I feel so guilty? What should I do? You feel guilty because your ex made you feel guilty. Stop the contact with her. She didn't want you so you are free to do what ever you want. If you want to strip naked at the top of the empire states building and run round screaming "I am a pink tea pot" while covered in green paint you are free to do so... I will warn you that sometimes you do get tazered doing that and it hurts so just be fore warned... If you want to skip down the street in a pair of grey y fronts singing old musical songs... you are free to do so. Again. Young children make hide behind their parents so be forewarned... What you should do? Cut the cord. Go out with them all again if you had fun! Ignore your ex and get her off of your social media and phone. She chose not to be a part of your life any more so quite frankly its none of her business who you socialise with, which girl you snogged on Friday night or when you last took a dump.
Cherryz Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 Maybe a good idea to unfriend her and stop every contact. So both of you can get over each other. Keep going back and forward after breaking up is not helping anything. And i dont know how much of what you are saying is true. But out of respect its better not to go out right away after your break up with someone, out in the open with your new girlfriend. Or the new person you are dating. Maybe give it a few months. or a month at-least. Considerating the person you just broke up with her/his feelings.
Cherryz Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 Beside you do need a period of time to recover from the break up also. So if you take that time, it would be also enough time to kind of considerating your ex feelings. Even thou maybe you not directly busy with that.
Author samsmith12 Posted March 29, 2016 Author Posted March 29, 2016 CherryZ - I do not have a new girlfriend, nor am I dating anyone else at the moment. They were simply friends whom I met up with and spent the afternoon with. Nothing romantic or flirtatious in any way.
Toodaloo Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 Maybe a good idea to unfriend her and stop every contact. So both of you can get over each other. Keep going back and forward after breaking up is not helping anything. And i dont know how much of what you are saying is true. But out of respect its better not to go out right away after your break up with someone, out in the open with your new girlfriend. Or the new person you are dating. Maybe give it a few months. or a month at-least. Considerating the person you just broke up with her/his feelings. She broke up with him and he was just out with friends some of whom happen to be female. So no. This is all wrong.
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