Honing kiss technique, meshing styles

[anderZ]

Curious how others approach kissing new people. This is something Ive thought about for a while.

 

 

Its rare that I kiss a woman and things just feel perfect off the bat. Generally we both have to get familiar with one another and hone our technique. Id actually say my ex from 7 years ago is who really taught me how to kiss with passion btw. Before her, I cant believe what I was doing was anything I considered enjoyable lol

 

 

Anyways, do most people here try to work on kissing with someone? For some reason I always got the impression that a lot of people put much stock in the first couple kissing sessions. And they'll bail if its not fireworks right away. I always tried to show a girl what I liked, and also be showed what she liked

 

 

If you are someone who tries to guide someone toward a different kissing style, how have you done it? With a particular girl Im dating right now, non-verbal cues haven't worked...so I think I'm going to have to add a couple of quick remarks to see if she'll follow my lead.

 

 

 

 

PS - Bonus question: Has bad, ok, or good kissing been indicative of how good the sex later was with someone. In my experience that's been hit or miss, and not a great indicator.

[Grewd]

I've never really been a bad kisser, only really thought about my kissing once but left the thought as I found I was good. I just do what I like. Once I dated a woman who was a bad kisser, stiff lips and little action, felt tense and I don't enjoy that.

 

I have never been guided on kissing, it's natural for me. Once I have guided a woman, that was my girlfriend and it was because she had no experience. I actually had to explicitly explain to her about using tongue, she didn't read my cues because of lacking experience. Apart from that she was already good at kissing, despite no previous experience.

 

Kissing isn't a science, don't make it one. It's best done when improvised in the moment. The first times I just do what I do without fear of judgement. If there is any judgement it's the last time I'll be kissing them anyways, I have my standards on that.

 

Bonus answer: Kissing quality says nothing about sex quality. However I do enjoy sex more if there's some good kissing to go along with it, but not if the sex itself is really bad. It's possible to be good at sex and bad at kissing, the opposite is possible as well. So not a reliable indicator.

Edited March 29, 2016 by Grewd

[anderZ]

Thanks for chiming in. Anyone else?