jordan5983 Posted March 28, 2016 Posted March 28, 2016 Me and my girlfriend Chloe were dating for three years. We'd have little arguments and "break up" for literally a day or two before we'd make up and be back to normal. She's 18 and I'm 19. We started dating when we were around 15 and 16 so we were both pretty immature and it set poor foundations for the relationship, causing insecurities and silly problems that really could have been avoided. I recently broke up with her just after our three year anniversary. I felt like there was a lot of one-sidedness to the relationship, with me putting in a lot more effort than her. We were apart for three weeks, during which I realised that I was making a mistake and didn't truly want to leave her. One night I text her, inviting her over to my place. It was late, I was drunk, and my wording wasn't perfect. She thought I wanted a booty-call and turned me down. The next day, when sober I spoke with her and she admitted that she missed me and wanted to get back together too. At this point she said that there was something she needed to tell me but began crying and couldn't tell me, saying that she was scared to lose me over it. I honestly thought she'd slept with someone else during the time we'd been apart. Eventually she told me that she kissed someone the same night that I had tried to "booty-call" her. Just after I had text her, she went on a night out and two guys were talking to her and her friend. When the bar they were in closed, the two guys invited them to continue drinking back at there place and they said yes. One of the guys gave her a love bite as a dare during a drinking game and Chloe's friend went off into the other room with the other guy. Apparently at this point they kissed, but she didn't let it go any further because she was thinking about me and realised it was a mistake. To be honest, I'm not actually upset about this. At the end of the day she was single and I was the one who originally left her, so she had no idea where we stood. My only concern is that she's not telling me the full truth. I just don't want to be taken for a fool in all of this. If she did sleep with the guy, I'd be devastated, and she knows this. Is it possible that she slept with him and just isn't telling me? I just don't know what to do. I love her and really want to start a new relationship with her but I need to know how I can get past this. Should I speak to her and check she's telling the truth or should I just forget about it considering she was single and it's nothing to do with me? I just want other people's thoughts on this.
basil67 Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 It's quite possible she slept with him - but you know her better than us - what do you think happened? And yes, you should ignore it because she was single at the time. Look to the future, but talk about it BEFORE you consider getting back together. Talk about what went wrong and how best to address it. Especially discuss what was behind her not putting in as much effort as you. You really don't want to go through all this and find yourself in the same type of relationship as before.
Author jordan5983 Posted March 29, 2016 Author Posted March 29, 2016 (edited) I just don't have Edited March 29, 2016 by jordan5983
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