I broke up with him, he blocked me from everything, I might've made a mistake

[spadeajp]

I've been dating this guy for about a month long distance. We dated a year ago, but he left me for a woman. I didn't contact him at all for a year, then messaged him a nice happy birthday message and told him I had no ill will with him. He sent me a long message back apologizing for everything and saying I was on his mind the whole year.

 

So we started talking again, every day at least 4 hours on skype. He bought me plane tickets to come see him, then a week and a half later he flew down to see me, but he started getting different. He ditched me for his friends on our date night, after I told him I didn't know when the next time I would see him would be. He didn't seem as emotionally connected anymore, and I started panicking remembering what he had done a year ago.

 

One night on skype he was under the influence, and started acting really annoyed with me and told me he wanted me to leave him alone. It was completely out of his behavior and I had a huge flashback of him dumping me last year and old feelings of resentment came back. I dumped him without a second thought, and hung up.

 

The next morning he texted me saying "Why would you break up with me when I'm under the influence? I thought I was more important, but good to know. I hope you have a good day." I texted him a couple really short and cold msgs saying I'm sorry but I'm just not interested anymore after last night, and that was all that day.

 

The next day I sent him a really long message explaining my feelings and why I did it and that I was sorry. He didn't say anything. I called him later to ask if he got it, he said "yea", I asked if he wanted to talk about it, he said "not really". I said do you want to be friends? He said "I don't know". I said "I was wondering if there was a chance we could work things out". He said "I don't know, maybe, definitely not right now. I don't know, I need space". And then we hung up.

 

7 hours later he blocked me from everything.

 

I want to reach out again, but I feel like he should apologize too, since I already did, but I feel like he's already made his decision.

 

I didn't say anything after he blocked me, but I've been posting more happy pictures/statuses on FB with friends and potential dates, hoping he'll see I wasn't affected by it.

He's a nice guy, at the very least I want to stay friends with him. Should I keep acting like I'm not bothered and wait for him to say something one day?

Edited March 28, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[hippychick3]

You should say and do nothing and move on.

 

You broke up with him for a reason. You should never have gotten back together with him. As much as it hurts to know it's really over, it's best to move forward and go NC. Being friends is a HORRIBLE idea. Stop the merry go round and get off and stay off. Be grateful you are blocked so there's less temptation.

[spadeajp]

The good memories were the best I've had in a relationship, the bad memories were terrible. I just thought we could be better off as friends if nothing else.

[basil67]

You dumped him. Following a dumping, a person doesn't owe you an apology or anything else. Besides the fact that apologies should only be offered if one regrets their actions. If he doesn't feel bad about his behaviour, then no apology should be forthcoming.

 

That being said, he's long distance. He dumped you for someone else last year. He ditched you for his friends recently. He was altered when talking to you. He was emotionally distant. He wanted you to leave him alone.

 

Why on earth would you want this guy as a friend - let alone a boyfriend? Are you really so desperate?

 

Stop playing silly games of posting happy pictures and statuses just to prove things to him. It's childish and blatantly transparent. Block, unfriend and move on.

 

edited to add: I just realised that he blocked you from everything - he won't see all these FB statuses anyway

[spadeajp]

You guys are right, thank you. I guess the hardest part was how nice he was when he wanted to be. He seemed like he was on cloud 9 both times in the beginning, then as the relationship became more settled, all he cared about was himself. It was like he wanted to win me, and once he did, his job was done.

I just feel pretty crappy for asking him if he'd like to work on things after I broke up with him. Will he always think he has the upper hand now? Should I block him back, or continue to ignore he even did and just live my life like I have been?