Hockey52 Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 (edited) It was a solid 4.5 months I had some faults.. But nothing to cause this... I was simply being maybe too caring or loving.. I think I might of been to up tight with her and maybe asking everytime when I saw her mood off... I never mistreated her always there for her when she was depressed and everything... She had a lot on her plate and so do I... I was close with her family as she gave me no indication she would do this.. For what ever argument or reason she was mad I brought her to a basketball game and said sorry over 20 times and she forgave me but later she texts me saying she can't get over it the way I made her feel, she lost feelings, noting can be negotiated? I called her dad explaining in a respectful manner the situation as well. He respected that. She got mad I did that and called me saying I hate you, your the worst, this was nothing etc... I don't understand... Ever since I haven't heard back... She agreed to give my hoodies and everything back but she hasn't followed up. it's been 2.5 weeks now since the break up of NC.. The day of the sudden break up she blocked me on all Social media and deleted all my pictures.. And 2 of her friends immediately unfollowed me... A week later she unblocked me on snapchat says -Added you Back- but didn't add me as a friend just simply unblocked me.. She even came over for my moms birthday and wished my mom a happy birthday through text the day before . I saw she was little off the day before but she said she was exausted and didn't really need to come over that night... She hasn't unfollowed my sister or any of my friends. I don't understand this sitaution.. I really want her back I know this is not her... But I don't want to contact since she broke up with me... It was over text too... I'm just shocked...it seems like she doesn't care or something... Edited April 5, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs ~6
PegNosePete Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 I don't understand this sitaution. Sorry to say, it seems fairly clear to me. She has decided that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you any more. She has said that loud and clear to you. There's really not much you can do except to hear her words and understand that the relationship is over. The best course of action for you is to go NC now.
Toodaloo Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 Sorry to say, it seems fairly clear to me. She has decided that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you any more. She has said that loud and clear to you. There's really not much you can do except to hear her words and understand that the relationship is over. The best course of action for you is to go NC now. Get one of your sisters to get your hoodies etc back and then do not contact this girl again. 2
Author Hockey52 Posted March 28, 2016 Author Posted March 28, 2016 My ex girlfriend dumped me and blocked me on snapchat and I checked my Added me list and her name is there now says -Added You back- did she unblock me or something? It's been now exactly 3 weeks of no contact since the break up... It's killing me... But she dumped me so I don't think I should contact her... It was simply about arguments adding up but it was really stupid... And I wanted to be the better person after all the harsh things she said to me and how she handled it, and I text her saying "I hope all is well and im just wondering if we can talk in person. I would really appreciate it" and she still hasn't answered it since yesterday Friday.. Should I just give up? I want her back... She still has my clothes and I want my jewelry back.. She agreed the day of the break up but never followed up... I'm so frustrated this isn't her...
Steven1 Posted March 28, 2016 Posted March 28, 2016 I think the writing is on the wall sadly for the relationship...doesn't sound like it will work to me if she hasn't got back in touch. As far as your items go though that's a different matter. If they are important to you you want to try and get in touch with her to organize getting them back, or even for one of her/your friends to get them. If it comes to it and they are important and you can't get through to her, then it may have to be a case of calling the police and explaining to them. Happened with one of my friends before and they had to go around and collect the items and he had to collect from police station.
Author Hockey52 Posted March 28, 2016 Author Posted March 28, 2016 Yeah I think so... But it's weird how everything went down so sudden the and she never wants to contact again.. I find it weird how she never followed up with my stuff and seems like she doesn't care.
Author Hockey52 Posted April 5, 2016 Author Posted April 5, 2016 (edited) My ex girlfriend blocked me on snapchat and I checked my Added me list and her name is there now says -Added You back- did she unblock me or something? It's been now exactly 1 month of no contact since the break up... It's killing me... But she dumped me so I don't think I should contact her... It was simply about arguments adding up but it was really stupid... And I wanted to be the better person after all the harsh things she said to me and how she handled it, and I text her saying "I hope all is well and im just wondering if we can talk in person. I would really appreciate it" and she never answered I wait 1 week and on Saturday a few days ago I send again " Hi ---, I just wanted to tell you, I understand I have some faults. I was just worried about you or having something bad happen to you. I would really would like to see you and talk if we can? And again no answer.. I want her back... She still has my clothes and I want my jewelry back.. She agreed the day of the break up but never followed up... I'm so frustrated What should I do it's absolutely killing me and I want her back... Edited April 5, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs ~6
brothers343 Posted April 5, 2016 Posted April 5, 2016 My ex girlfriend blocked me on snapchat and I checked my Added me list and her name is there now says -Added You back- did she unblock me or something? It's been now exactly 1 month of no contact since the break up... It's killing me... But she dumped me so I don't think I should contact her... It was simply about arguments adding up but it was really stupid... And I wanted to be the better person after all the harsh things she said to me and how she handled it, and I text her saying "I hope all is well and im just wondering if we can talk in person. I would really appreciate it" and she never answered I wait 1 week and on Saturday a few days ago I send again " Hi ---, I just wanted to tell you, I understand I have some faults. I was just worried about you or having something bad happen to you. I would really would like to see you and talk if we can? And again no answer.. I want her back... She still has my clothes and I want my jewelry back.. She agreed the day of the break up but never followed up... I'm so frustrated What should I do it's absolutely killing me and I want her back... You say you have been NC for a month but in reality your still texting her. You tried 3 times and she doesn't respond.....how many more times do you need to try for you to understand right now she doesn't want you. Go NC. Pretend that her existence was part of you growing as a person. We all go through this emotional battles in our lives. Maybe when you stop following her she will cone back but I wouldn't dwell on that thought. Live your life as if she is gone and she is just a memory. I can guarantee you that this is probably what she's doing. Good luck
Author Hockey52 Posted April 5, 2016 Author Posted April 5, 2016 I tried 2 times very nicely. I'm done trying.. And what do you mean exactly? That's what she's doing..?
PinkElephants Posted April 6, 2016 Posted April 6, 2016 I was simply being maybe too caring or loving.. I think I might of been to up tight with her and maybe asking everytime when I saw her mood off. In other words, you smothered her. For what ever argument or reason she was mad I brought her to a basketball game and said sorry over 20 times Don't ever do that again. Apologize once if the situation calls for it and be done. The problem is, you've come across as clingy and weak from the start. Her response to you talking to her dad was likely a rude way of trying to reclaim some space. Every attempt you make at contact is another reason for her to continue to label you clingy and weak and, therefore, undateable. I also doubt this was sudden. The annoyance was probably building up for her until it reached a breaking point and she bailed. What should I do it's absolutely killing me and I want her back... I doubt that's possible. It's good that you're done contacting her and I think what brothers is saying is that your ex is off having fun and living life without you which is what you have the opportunity to do now. This relationship can teach you a valuable lesson to take into your next one which you now have the chance to go find.
PegNosePete Posted April 6, 2016 Posted April 6, 2016 My ex girlfriend blocked me on snapchat and I checked my Added me list and her name is there now says -Added You back- did she unblock me or something? It's been now exactly 1 month of no contact since the break up No it hasn't, it's been 0 days. You're stalking her online, you're texting her, etc etc. Do you know what NC means? It means NO CONTACT. It means you have no contact with her whatsoever. That means no texting, no calling, no looking her up, no checking for her on your added list or whatever. NO CONTACT! Your stuff is lost. If she wanted to return it she would have communicated with you. But she hasn't. You have to write it off I'm afraid.
Author Hockey52 Posted April 6, 2016 Author Posted April 6, 2016 I think she will come back, if I stop messaging her. All I did was after 2 weeks of NC I sent a simple message if we can talk in person no response... The 1 week later I sent another saying I have faults and would like to take in person if we can? And again no answer.. I'm not trying again... But it was kinda built up but it was stupid I'm a way, I never swore to her or mistreated her at all..
PegNosePete Posted April 6, 2016 Posted April 6, 2016 I think she will come back, if I stop messaging her. So why do you keep messaging her?
Nickr3023 Posted April 6, 2016 Posted April 6, 2016 Sorry brother, but to be totally honest with you, the best thing you can do for yourself is to start to move on. She's made it pretty clear what she wants....and as harsh as it is to accept, it's not you. Keep your pride intact and walk away.
Author Hockey52 Posted April 6, 2016 Author Posted April 6, 2016 Well I think she just got frustrated and everything.. Because I work in the same place as her but different days and 2 weeks before she broke up with me she was telling everyone everything was great etc.. She even came over my house for my moms birthday the night before! When she didn't have to become she had a lot of school work.. She had a cousins birthday the next day, I was working but she asked me if I wanted to come! Then she randomly did this
Nickr3023 Posted April 6, 2016 Posted April 6, 2016 Well I think she just got frustrated and everything.. Because I work in the same place as her but different days and 2 weeks before she broke up with me she was telling everyone everything was great etc.. She even came over my house for my moms birthday the night before! When she didn't have to become she had a lot of school work.. She had a cousins birthday the next day, I was working but she asked me if I wanted to come! Then she randomly did this Unfortunately breakups never make sense man. My girlfriend was hanging out with an old high school friend, when I left her house she said you know how much I love you right? I said yes. I knew things weren't great, but I believed those words. She ended up cheating on me that night. Chances are things weren't that great for a little while. Doesn't matter what she SAYS, it's what she DOES, and her actions are speaking much much louder than her words. Save yourself more heartbreak my friend.
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