Mccoy321 Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 I'm talking about the part where you said he would still be attracted to her. Well he probably is. If he was before I doubt he's just switched that off. He's not a machine.
truth_seeker Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 But not everyone thinks the same way you do, do they? No, they don't. Everyone has their own opinions.
truth_seeker Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 Well he probably is. If he was before I doubt he's just switched that off. He's not a machine. You could be right, but he might have gotten hurt by the rejection that it killed his attraction for her.
Mccoy321 Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 You could be right, but he might have gotten hurt by the rejection that it killed his attraction for her. Who knows? Only him.
preraph Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 Who initiates hanging out together, you or him? If it's him, I don't see why he'd do it unless he had some interest in you. If it's been you initiating, stop it and see if he even cares enough to initiate or not.
introverted1 Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 I'm female, but there is no way I would pursue a guy who I'd previously expressed interest in but got turned down by. I mean, what on earth would be different now? I'm the same, so the only difference would be that he was out of other options.
Author tolve Posted April 1, 2016 Author Posted April 1, 2016 I did not see those responses coming. I was totally convinced this was him holding me at arms lenght. I guess it might be, but as painful as it is, I'm beginning to understand I will have to say something clearly and in plain English lol. I guess I've always had a problem with hinting at men, I always think I'm so clear but I guess I'm not. In my head that line I gave about the time being right was SO crystal clear as an 'ask me out already' - I guess not. So to answer some questions, he mainly initiates the contact, so like this conversation I wrote about was him calling me. And the whole Facebook thing, yeah I wouldn't just google and look up on a map where someone else is going on holiday unless I had some interest. I started liking him pretty soon after he made a move, and while I have not been dropping hints (like the one I thought I just dropped ) but I have been keeping in touch, calling him more than I used to when we were 'just platonic friends'. He was also driving cross country one time and I invited myself along as my mom lives where he was going so I used it as an excuse to join him. We were going slow and stayed in motels for a couple of nights. We had a great time, but apart from the odd time his hand brushed my knee when he was reaching for the stick there was nothing. Even when we went to a bar one evening and I got a little woozy he sat next to me drinking soda with his shoulders turned away and his legs crossed in the opposite direction - the whole time! It was like he was expecting me to drunkenly dive on him (which I was thinking about). That evening I figured he was telling me to back off. I know someone said I was too focused on the body language, but it is SO different, it's hard not to be. Let's say before we'd walk down the street and he would be walking so close our arms would be touching. Now, he's walking fast down the road, yards and yards ahead of me. We're meeting in a couple of weeks to go see this show, it's like a little day trip so I'm going to have to tell him then. Any ideas how? I'm thinking asking 'how's your love life' and presuming he says 'I'm not seeing anyone' I would then say 'would you think about the two of us getting it together?'
Author tolve Posted April 1, 2016 Author Posted April 1, 2016 Oh and he does not know I blew him off for another guy. We never talk about stuff like that. He could not name any of my ex boyfriends and I couldn't name any of his exes, or indeed if he is seeing any one currently :eek: And I do know the car thing was just an excuse I heard nothing in the background to suggest that. Anyway he could have called me right back.
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