Angel29 Posted March 28, 2016 Posted March 28, 2016 I met a guy 3 years ago on a night out through mutual friends. He came on a bit too much and I snapped at him. I apologised to him when I next saw him when he was next out which he was fine. Over time we got to know each other and had lots in common. Months later I told him I liked him and he said he had lost interest and that I had my chance back then. His comment made me realise he had not let that go. After that we always had nice chats and he seemed interested. He added me on Facebook on New Years Day last year which surprised me. In November 2015 we strangely got matched on eHarmony. He saw my profile so I messaged him, he sent an automated response saying he 'wanted to get to know me' but did not respond to the message. I closed the match down a week later as he was supposed to come out with mutual friends but chose to go out in his hometown instead. He knew I would be out so I felt he can't have been that interested. Friends have since said him saying he wanted to get to know me was his response - I feel sick now I have realised that. Today I deleted Facebook messenger as I keep using my phone too much, an hour later he deactivated his Facebook profile. I just don't know what is going on, I know he is shy and I know I might have been in a rush to close the match down. Anyone got any advice as I am sick of this ongoing situation which I find quite upsetting.
smackie9 Posted March 28, 2016 Posted March 28, 2016 I don't know why you apologized to him. He came on way too strong and made you uncomfortable...that my dear was him disrespecting you, and nothing to apologize about from you. Now he is punishing you for what happened by being unresponsive, rude and playing games. All he is doing is messing with you. He wants you to get upset and it's working. Honestly you don't want to be involved with someone like this. He's not a nice guy. I say let it go and move on. Put him on your "ignore" list.
normal person Posted March 28, 2016 Posted March 28, 2016 Months later I told him I liked him and he said he had lost interest and that I had my chance back then. His comment made me realise he had not let that go. Your explanation doesn't make any sense to me. I closed the match down a week later as he was supposed to come out with mutual friends but chose to go out in his hometown instead. He knew I would be out so I felt he can't have been that interested. Friends have since said him saying he wanted to get to know me was his response - I feel sick now I have realised that. Actions speak louder than words. If he wanted to see you, he would've. Sending a generic or automated OLD message or relaying things through friends is about as weak as it gets for a grown man. Today I deleted Facebook messenger as I keep using my phone too much, an hour later he deactivated his Facebook profile. I just don't know what is going on, I know he is shy and I know I might have been in a rush to close the match down. Anyone got any advice as I am sick of this ongoing situation which I find quite upsetting. The guy can't give you a straight answer. You stepped up to the plate and told him how you felt, he shot it down and then started acting all coy. What an immature little game for a grown man. If he likes you, he can be proactive and act on it definitively, not with half measures. "Being shy" isn't an acceptable excuse after age 18, sorry. This guy doesn't value your time or your feelings, I would move on if I were you. If he wants something, there's no reason he can't get it himself. Best of luck.
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