Metty Posted March 28, 2016 Posted March 28, 2016 I feel devastated. I don't know if this is coincidence but lately my friends have started dropping me. Two of them accused me of being fake while I have always felt as if they were since they were fighting a lot and others have pointed it out too. I let them go as I never felt like they were true friends anyway. A close friend of mine (whose a friend to them) has started drifting apart from me since we graduated, we would check upon each other from time to time but now that I did ask her to meet up with me she faked being ill just to get out of it. Two of my other friends has started been turning me down a lot lately to a point where I have given up on the friendship. My point is that everyone seems to be dropping me and I don't know why. It breaks my heart and I don't know what to do! I get that going out and making new friends is a good idea but it doesn't feel that fun when only this happens and I want to address the problem as to why this is happening. As sad as this sounds but I don't have anyone to hang out with. I'm very reserved but very social, it goes both ways. I can go months without talking to someone then hit them up. Sometimes I'm to honest and say exactly what's on my mind but most of the time I'm a great listener, supporter and yeah.. Anyways. What do I do? I am aware that I haven't been the best friend exactly but when people just avoid you then how are you suppose to fix what is wrong. Should I confront her about it? I really want to fix whatever is going on and I would really appreciate help.
Empire87 Posted March 28, 2016 Posted March 28, 2016 Reach out and be humble about it. Tell them "hey I've been thinking about things alot lately and realize that I haven't been the best friend recently towards you. I really do value your friendship and would love to get lunch or dkmethjng soon and catch up. Let me know It sounds like you can say things that get taken the wrong way by people you're friends with. Don't feel like you need to speak out on everything. And don't say things that are honest but will make them hurt or get offended. You should only say things that support and compliment your friends. If you're the gossipy type or the girl who smiles and laughs when you're with someone, then when they leave you're talking **** about them to the others who are there.. Then it's catching up to you and people know how you do this. 2
stillafool Posted March 28, 2016 Posted March 28, 2016 When this many friends are dropping you the problem has to be you. I would reach out to one of them and ask what is it that you are doing/saying that is making them not want to be around you. I still think you should drop your college friends since they seem to drop you and meet new people. Where do your work? Are there people there that you can make friends with? 1
Easyguy14 Posted March 28, 2016 Posted March 28, 2016 I feel devastated. I don't know if this is coincidence but lately my friends have started dropping me. Two of them accused me of being fake while I have always felt as if they were since they were fighting a lot and others have pointed it out too. I let them go as I never felt like they were true friends anyway. A close friend of mine (whose a friend to them) has started drifting apart from me since we graduated, we would check upon each other from time to time but now that I did ask her to meet up with me she faked being ill just to get out of it. Two of my other friends has started been turning me down a lot lately to a point where I have given up on the friendship. My point is that everyone seems to be dropping me and I don't know why. It breaks my heart and I don't know what to do! I get that going out and making new friends is a good idea but it doesn't feel that fun when only this happens and I want to address the problem as to why this is happening. As sad as this sounds but I don't have anyone to hang out with. I'm very reserved but very social, it goes both ways. I can go months without talking to someone then hit them up. Sometimes I'm to honest and say exactly what's on my mind but most of the time I'm a great listener, supporter and yeah.. Anyways. What do I do? I am aware that I haven't been the best friend exactly but when people just avoid you then how are you suppose to fix what is wrong. Should I confront her about it? I really want to fix whatever is going on and I would really appreciate help. Maybe being less reserved and letting loose a little more might help. 1
Author Metty Posted March 28, 2016 Author Posted March 28, 2016 When this many friends are dropping you the problem has to be you. I would reach out to one of them and ask what is it that you are doing/saying that is making them not want to be around you. I still think you should drop your college friends since they seem to drop you and meet new people. Where do your work? Are there people there that you can make friends with? I was actually thinking the same. I got bad attitude and people have pointed it out before. I am working on being a better person but what is done is done I suppose. I was thinking about reaching out to the person I trust the most and ask her if I have done anything specific to hurt her and apologize for whatever. I work from home so I don't meet any new people.. I'm thinking about getting myself a new job so I can put myself out there and meet new friends.
Author Metty Posted March 28, 2016 Author Posted March 28, 2016 Reach out and be humble about it. Tell them "hey I've been thinking about things alot lately and realize that I haven't been the best friend recently towards you. I really do value your friendship and would love to get lunch or dkmethjng soon and catch up. Let me know It sounds like you can say things that get taken the wrong way by people you're friends with. Don't feel like you need to speak out on everything. And don't say things that are honest but will make them hurt or get offended. You should only say things that support and compliment your friends. If you're the gossipy type or the girl who smiles and laughs when you're with someone, then when they leave you're talking **** about them to the others who are there.. Then it's catching up to you and people know how you do this. Thank you! I will try to do that. The only thing I am worried about is if she won't forgive me.
preraph Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 If your bluntness had offended someone, wouldn't you have noticed it? I am blunt, and I know when I've hit a nerve usually. And yes, it can run people off, but I've found it usually just attracts a different type person too. Why don't you ask one of the friends to tell you why they're distancing themselves. Say, Look, I'm not trying to have a confrontation, but I just want to know if I've done something to offend you. 1
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