sickoflove11 Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 I had sex with my friends brother and now I can hardly even be around my friend. I went on dates with this guy a couple times and it didn't really work out. We texted for 2 months straight everyday before he started texting and contacting me less so I took the hint. He would still sometimes snapchat me though. We were out with others one night and it led back to his place. I was just going to sleep in his bed because he didn't want me to drive home even though I only had 2 drinks.. We just layed back to back but he turned me over and I figured what the heck. He's very flirty and hooks up a lot so I didn't think it was a big deal or that he would make it one. He thinks I told my sisters good friend(a guy) that we hooked up, but he's really the one who did when he said "what did she tell you?" to him. So my friend was upset I didn't tell her but obviously I didn't want anyone to know so that's why. Later that day he told his sister not to invite me over and he deleted me from snapchat but not instagram or fb. I'm just waiting for the day he deletes me from the others, but it makes things so awkward because I'm still friends with his sister. I'm not going to delete him because I just want to act like it never happened because it means nothing, but at the same time it hurts that he would act this way because we both were interested in each other at one point. I thought we could just be FWB but now I wish he could be completely out of my life. He is also a complete jerk and not a nice person at all but now that I know his games it makes me upset to think he's just on to the next one. I don't know how to get all these thoughts to stop. He was something so new a different to me that I got so infatuated and I can't let it go. It is different now, I am still infatuated for some reason but I don't get nervous excited to see him anymore or hope that he's home. I get sick to my stomach thinking about how he's going to act around me now or if he's just going to avoid and ignore me and make it worse. I haven't talked to or seen him since. If this was a ONS with a complete stranger then I'd feel better but now hanging out with his sister even makes me feel like crap.
ExpatInItaly Posted March 27, 2016 Posted March 27, 2016 Be the bigger person. Fake it if you must. Just say hello and carry on with your business if you see him. I'm not sure what he's got his manties in a wad about, but it's his problem. He sounds like a complete tool. I'd suggest not hanging out at their house for a while until you feel less hurt. Think of it as taking space for yourself, and extricating yourself from an uncomfortable environment. You will get past it in time.
itstoni Posted March 27, 2016 Posted March 27, 2016 You screwed up by having sex with your friends brother. To him you were a ONS.You're already getting to invested in him emotionally and mentally. Ghost him as well and move on. Go out and have fun.
Author sickoflove11 Posted March 27, 2016 Author Posted March 27, 2016 You screwed up by having sex with your friends brother. To him you were a ONS.You're already getting to invested in him emotionally and mentally. Ghost him as well and move on. Go out and have fun. It definitely won't be hard to ghost him since he will never contact me again. He has no need to because he will just find someone else to lead on. I don't have many friends where I live and I hang out with his sister a lot, so it's hard to go out and have fun with her when I constantly have thoughts of him that I can't even tell her about. Also hanging out with her just makes me want him to contact me...
Author sickoflove11 Posted March 27, 2016 Author Posted March 27, 2016 Be the bigger person. Fake it if you must. Just say hello and carry on with your business if you see him. I'm not sure what he's got his manties in a wad about, but it's his problem. He sounds like a complete tool. I'd suggest not hanging out at their house for a while until you feel less hurt. Think of it as taking space for yourself, and extricating yourself from an uncomfortable environment. You will get past it in time. Thank you that is what one of my friends told me also, to be the bigger person. I feel like I did something wrong and I'm constantly going over things in my head. But he is such a huge tool, it's just hard to think of all the negatives about him right now. I don't know how to stop thinking about the good I saw in him.
Emilia Posted March 27, 2016 Posted March 27, 2016 I think you are scared because you don't have many friends at the moment. Scared of losing her. Are there meetups in your area? Guys who sleep around lots can be very insecure, they LOVE external validation hence the constant hunt. I've found that surprising too. 1
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