anderZ Posted March 26, 2016 Share Posted March 26, 2016 Ladies how do you prefer to be greeted when a second date begins? Lets give three situations. 1. You did kiss on the first date. But no make out 2. You kissed and made out on the first date. 3. You had some sort of sexual contact on the first date. How would you expect a man to say hello in each situation. Link to post Share on other sites
AMJ Posted March 26, 2016 Share Posted March 26, 2016 I think we need a little more information to give good advice. But in general it's best not to overthink this, just go with what you're feeling and what she's feeling. It's not the end of the world if you don't give her a kiss hello. If you're nervous about kissing her, that could make the kiss awkward. If we ended the first date with a kiss, it's fine to kiss her hello on the second date. It might be a little over the top for it to be a major kiss, depending on how the last kiss went. I guess, #1- maybe just a hello hug, #2-hello kiss is fine, #3- what is some sort of sexual contact? The possibilities there are endless. Link to post Share on other sites
Empire87 Posted March 26, 2016 Share Posted March 26, 2016 Ladies how do you prefer to be greeted when a second date begins? Lets give three situations. 1. You did kiss on the first date. But no make out 2. You kissed and made out on the first date. 3. You had some sort of sexual contact on the first date. How would you expect a man to say hello in each situation. 1. When you pick her up or when she arrives you say hello while leaning in to kiss her briefly, hand placed on her hip for the encounter and then just go about the date as planned. 2. Same answer 3. Same answer. It's not as complicated as you're making it out to be. If you kiss a girl on a first date then you should feel confident enough to kiss her upon seeing one another for the 2nd date and the rest following. If she didn't want to kiss you, then she wouldn't be going on a second date to begin with correct? If you feel nervous about kissing her hello and decide to wait till the end of the date to do so, then you are just backtracking and preventing progress date to date. If you kiss her on date 1. Then you start with that on date 2 and you establish that intimate connection from the start. Don't be the guy who needs repeated confirmation that she's into you or it's ok to kiss her. If the girl is going out with you again then you already have your confirmation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TheBathWater Posted March 26, 2016 Share Posted March 26, 2016 I'm a guy, but I'm going to respond anyway. I always kiss women on the first date or there is no second date. I never really think about what I'm doing for a greeting on the second date, honestly. I do just go with the flow. Sometimes I give a big hug, sometimes I open the door and hide behind it with a 'come hither' move with my fingers until she comes in and I kiss her REAL sensual, other times I don't touch her at all and build a little tension before I pounce on her. In any case though, it really is about doing what feels natural for you and her. I like to have fun with women constantly when we're together, which might be why some of what I wrote here is a little silly. Link to post Share on other sites
scorpiogirl Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 I'm a guy, but I'm going to respond anyway. I always kiss women on the first date or there is no second date. I never really think about what I'm doing for a greeting on the second date, honestly. I do just go with the flow. Sometimes I give a big hug, sometimes I open the door and hide behind it with a 'come hither' move with my fingers until she comes in and I kiss her REAL sensual, other times I don't touch her at all and build a little tension before I pounce on her. In any case though, it really is about doing what feels natural for you and her. I like to have fun with women constantly when we're together, which might be why some of what I wrote here is a little silly. I'm a woman, and none of these sound appealing to me in the least. It seems very contrived, despite your assertion that you go with the flow. Also I don't like that someone would make a first date kiss obligatory or we won't have another date. It seems that you're a "play by my rules" type of person. That's very unattractive. As to the OP, I agree that if you've had any physical contact already, it's fine to kiss hello. I'm not a hugger so I'm not one to go in for a hug with a date or friends or whatever. As is said above just do what feels right in the moment. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
TheBathWater Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 (edited) I'm a woman, and none of these sound appealing to me in the least. It seems very contrived, despite your assertion that you go with the flow. Also I don't like that someone would make a first date kiss obligatory or we won't have another date. It seems that you're a "play by my rules" type of person. That's very unattractive. As to the OP, I agree that if you've had any physical contact already, it's fine to kiss hello. I'm not a hugger so I'm not one to go in for a hug with a date or friends or whatever. As is said above just do what feels right in the moment. Is there some reason I'm not aware of why you feel the need to attack me? Are you an ex or something? You just made a point to make a post to call me unattractive, contrived, and basically controlling. So much for live and let live, huh? You might want to consider that some people develop preferences and ways of doing things based on years of experience. It's fine to have your own ways that differ from mine and to even name those differences, but have some respect for other posters, huh? Can you think of ways to get your point across without putting others down? Edited March 27, 2016 by TunaInTheBrine Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 Little hug and kiss on the cheek for all of them. Even if we banged it out on the first date is doesn't mean I want a boob grope next time I see you. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
scorpiogirl Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 Is there some reason I'm not aware of why you feel the need to attack me? Are you an ex or something? You just made a point to make a post to call me unattractive, contrived, and basically controlling. So much for live and let live, huh? You might want to consider that some people develop preferences and ways of doing things based on years of experience. It's fine to have your own ways that differ from mine and to even name those differences, but have some respect for other posters, huh? Can you think of ways to get your point across without putting others down? Yes, I'm an ex that you once tried to coyly lure into a kiss. I'm still holding a grudge but I'll forgive all if you take me back. I didn't say you were unattractive. I said the behaviour was. Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 A light hug. A "hello" kiss seems a bit...comfortable and intimate for a second date for me. Then again, your scenarios don't really apply to me...there wouldn't be sexual stuff happening on the first date. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spriggan2 Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 (edited) I just hug hello, unless I detect the girl expects something more like a cheek peck which im always afraid of botching. Sometimes I just don't make physical contact if it's not easily available, but then I try to as soon as an opportunity arises during the date. I find my thoughts about the greeting fade minutes into the date, or less. I don't think it influences much so I think worrying about it will just stress you out. Edited March 27, 2016 by spriggan2 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 27, 2016 Share Posted March 27, 2016 I think either a hug or a little hello kiss is appropriate. I mean, you do want to touch some way so she doesn't get the idea you're just friends. Link to post Share on other sites
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