planetfitessgal Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 How do you do this? If someone is bound and determined to block you at every turn, they constantly change the rules, they target you. How do you deal with such a control freak? Do you just let them win, or do you do your darndest to make sure they don't have the last word? I'm pretty much on a mission now to NOT be controlled, and it annoys the heck out of me. Thoughts? 1
mrldii Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 Is this a romantic relationship, an issue with a co-worker/supervisor, or happening with a family member? Oh, never mind...the answer's the same: you cut yourself loose and get yourself away from the control freak. It's hard to control something that isn't around, yanno? Best of luck to you... 3
TaraMaiden2 Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 "The person who cares the least, controls the most." Answer? Care less. 3
acrosstheuniverse Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 It depends on the situation. I have to say, in the happiest of relationships, issues around controlling one another and avoiding being controlled never seem to come up. I don't think I would be with someone who tried to control me and I don't try to control others either. If I felt it acutely enough to have to start coming up with strategies to avoid being controlled, that'd be a big sign for me to bail.
preraph Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 If it's a personal relationship, you get out right away and block them. If it's work, then that's something else.
spouse2016 Posted March 27, 2016 Posted March 27, 2016 How do you do this? If someone is bound and determined to block you at every turn, they constantly change the rules, they target you. How do you deal with such a control freak? Do you just let them win, or do you do your darndest to make sure they don't have the last word? I'm pretty much on a mission now to NOT be controlled, and it annoys the heck out of me. Thoughts? Sounds like cat and mouse game. Your feelings are understandable.
jen1447 Posted March 27, 2016 Posted March 27, 2016 How do you do this? If someone is bound and determined to block you at every turn, they constantly change the rules, they target you. How do you deal with such a control freak? Do you just let them win, or do you do your darndest to make sure they don't have the last word? I'm pretty much on a mission now to NOT be controlled, and it annoys the heck out of me. Thoughts? Depends on the nature of the relationship and the nature of the control. If it's an OCD friend, avoid. If it's a partner who wants to isolate you from your outside life, punch them in the head and leave.
SammySammy Posted March 27, 2016 Posted March 27, 2016 If you're on a mission to not be controlled, then ... don't be controlled. It's a decision. There is no need to combat the person. Decide what you want, then do what you need to do to make it happen. Whether that is being assertive or removing yourself from that situation.
Miss Peach Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 If you don't want to be controlled and don't want to fight them then simply don't engage with them. Consider removing them from your life if the control is bad enough.
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