sam123456 Posted March 25, 2016 Posted March 25, 2016 By doing some internet research I was able to figure out that when you first meet a woman you are supposed to: 1. Have a conversation 2. Exchange phone numbers 3. Send a text message asking for a date How do most people learn these things? And how did people learn about them before the internet existed?
mrldii Posted March 25, 2016 Posted March 25, 2016 Through real-world, real-time, face-to-face social interaction, which included trial and error. 1
spriggan2 Posted March 25, 2016 Posted March 25, 2016 I'd guess.. friendships/siblings gossip/word of mouth observations media books first hand experience 1
loveweary11 Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 Basic Instinct and Trial and Error The internet can only harm your game by giving you stupid advice or systems.
SammySammy Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 We talked about it. Family, friends .... Then, trial and error.
inthevalle Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 Trial and error, watching people who were successful, lots of heartbreak, some wonderful experiences, commiserating with friends. In addition, hanging out in groups, learning to develop a somewhat think skin while still being open, keeping things in perspective. Usually a dating relationship DOESN'T work out. Sometimes it does. And once or maybe twice it becomes lifelong or life-changing. There are no guarantees.
GravityMan Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 How do most people learn how the dating process works? They get out there, interact with people and date some of them.
ff12343 Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 (edited) The same way people learn with everything: Experience The mistakes you don't repair, you are bound to repeat. Edited March 26, 2016 by ff12343 1
CarrieT Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 Trial and error. You do some things that work and do those again. You do some things that fail catastrophically and you don't do those ever again. 1
Jabron1 Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 (edited) I really didn't care how the dating process worked until I was in my 20s. Actually, I thought 'dating' was a silly American concept . I only saw it on TV shows like 'Friends'. It didn't seem to have any resemblance to real life, and I couldn't relate to it at all. I don't remember any dating going on when I was a teenager - at least not as I see it now. You'd just go out with your group, meet people, have sex or start a relationship, and the crowd of people you knew would just get bigger. When I grew out of that scene, I had to start figuring out dating. Part of being an adult, I suppose. I asked the guys around me that had the most experience with women for advice, and read up on the subject. At first I followed the customs (dinner and a kiss at the end of the date), but soon got bored with that and started to experiment. I made many, many embarrassing mistakes . But, as other posters have mentioned, there's a lot of trial and error: it's all in good fun, so keep a sense of humour about it. You can't be afraid to experiment. Hell, most of the fun comes from pushing the boundaries of what is considered 'acceptable etiquette', and seeing what you can get away with. Don't feel that you should somehow, inherently, just know how to date. It has nothing to do with 'basic instinct'. Dating goes against every basic instinct that a man has. It's a woman's game. It's a skill to be learned and practiced. Edited March 26, 2016 by Jabron1
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