Jenna2788 Posted June 15, 2005 Posted June 15, 2005 I have been dating this guy for almost two years now. I love him so much and a lot of the time we are perfect for each other. We joke around and all that "couple" stuff. I fit in great with his family. However, I have been unhappy for a while. He can't seem to stop lying to me. I try to talk to him about it, and his response is always, "I can't help but lie to you, you get angry at the truth." I tell him that yeah, I get angry but it hurts so much more when he lies to me. He just can't seem to understand that. There are other little things that get to me, but most of it is the lies. He's got a guy friend that he always spends time with. I can't count the number of times that I've been blown off for this guy. When I talk to him about it he just tells me that I should understand more than his guy friend, because I love him. I don't understand, isn't he supposed to spend time with me, or prefer to spend time with me. Also, I am going to be going away next year for school. I will be gone the entire year and won't see him at all. Should I break up with him before that, or wait until I get back to see if the distance made us stronger or broke us. This old guy friend of mine came back into my life a little while ago. I feel so great when I'm with him and he seems so much more my type. My boyfriend and I talk about marriage a long way down the line, but I'm starting to wonder if he's the right guy for me. I mean, I'm only 17 years old, what am I missing out on in the world? He tells me that he loves me and that I'm his world, that he doesn't know what he'd do without me. Should I break up with him, or stick it out and hope it gets better? And if I decide to break up with him, what do I tell him? We've been together for so long it would hurt so much.
laRubiaBonita Posted June 15, 2005 Posted June 15, 2005 do you really think all this will magically cahnge at year three...or if you do get married? leave, and be happy eventually.
Caidy Posted June 16, 2005 Posted June 16, 2005 just enjoy college. You need to meet someone who is more your type...if you have feelings that he's probably not what you want, then I'd trust my gut if I were you. LRB is right. Nothing is just going to magically change with time. It will only get worse, most likely. MOST LD relationships don't survive freshman year. Take it from someone who has been there, done that, and gotten the t-shirt. :-P
Author Jenna2788 Posted June 16, 2005 Author Posted June 16, 2005 Yeah, you guys are right. But how do I tell him without completely breaking his heart. I care about him so much. I think what is making it so hard right now is the fact that we are so comfortable with each other, I can't imagine being with someone else. I mean it will be soo different. Its just hard to get used to that idea.
laRubiaBonita Posted June 16, 2005 Posted June 16, 2005 Originally posted by Jenna2788 Yeah, you guys are right. But how do I tell him without completely breaking his heart. I care about him so much. I think what is making it so hard right now is the fact that we are so comfortable with each other, I can't imagine being with someone else. I mean it will be soo different. Its just hard to get used to that idea. just be truthful. let him know you love hom and care about him....but you just think, especially with his lying...that you and he are not absolutly compatible. Or , whatever. who cares....just make something up, like he might do.
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