What did I do wrong?

[CasualDude10]

So I'm 21, she's 19. We go to the same small college, and I got her number through private message on Instagram. About three weeks ago I took her on a date to get sushi and she told me she enjoyed the date and it was nice meeting me. We hugged on the date and nothing else. About two weeks later we went out again. During the time we never texted and used texting for scheduling the date and that was it. (We were both on spring break) when the second date came around, I took her to dinner, to a different place to get desert, and back to my place for drinks and a movie. I didn't make a move on her besides putting my arm around her and her laying on my chest during the movie. At the end of the date, she told me thank you and she had a great time. The next day, I called her, she didn't answer. Then after I texted her saying "call me when you are free to talk" and she responded with "will do". She never did, and the next day I texted her saying

 

"what's up, you never did get back with me"

 

and she said "I'm sorry I was busy, but what did you want to talk about?"

 

I responded with "just to setup another time for us to meet up and go out"

 

she said "I'll let you know soon." I said okay, and she responded with

 

To this day I have not contacted her, and she hasn't gotten back with me. I was wondering, what do you think I did wrong during the dating process? I liked her and it seemed she showed interest in me.. I don't understand why she would curve me like this especially after telling me she had a great time and showing affection like she did.

 

What do you think I did wrong and what do you thin I should do from here on out? For some reason, women go on dates and show interest in me then cut me off. I'm just trying to improve my game and find a women that enjoys being with me. Again, any type of tips or opinion is appreciated.

 

Thanks

[TaraMaiden2]

Why do you think you did anything wrong? It just didn't gel.

Please don't get into the mind-frame that if a (few) date(s) brings no result, it automatically means there was something wrong with you.

We can't be compatible with every single person we meet, date or anything else.

 

It went well, but maybe there was just no chemistry for her.

Don't sweat it. Just be casual and accept that - particularly at your young age - this happens. And more than once, in all likelihood.

[Peachland]

It could be she felt no chemistry. I personally can't tell if there is chemistry until a guy kisses me. If there is no kissing by the 3rd date I'll typically move on.

[d0nnivain]

She may have disappeared because you didn't at least kiss her goodnight after or during the 2nd date.

 

Either way she has decided that she doesn't want this. Leave her be.

[fitnessfan365]

There's a few things that I see.

 

1) You invited her back at your place at the end of the second date to "watch a movie". This is pretty much universal for "let's have sex". She accepted the invitation. But then you didn't even try to kiss her. So it comes off like you're inexperienced and lack confidence.

 

2) You called the next day which is fine. But then instead of leaving a voice mail and letting her get back to you, you sent her a text right after saying to call you. Then the next day you text her again asking why she never got back to you. These are signs of desperate behavior.

 

So my advice for what its worth would be to only invite women back to your place when you're ready/comfortable to get physical with them and once you try reaching out with a call or text, leave it alone and allow her to respond. If you never hear back, let it go. Women that are interested, don't leave you hanging.

[smackie9]

No interest in communicating or flirting in between dates means not really into you. You might have gotten some sex during date 2 but even then, she probably would have bailed anyways.

 

Focus your efforts on a girl that shows a real interest in you, wants to chat with you, flirts and teases you, is excited to see you again, and maybe even wants to see you the next day or so.

 

I think she just enjoyed the free meal which I'm sure a lot of college girls do because they usually don't have the funds to go out.

[preraph]

I don't think you did anything wrong. Girls that age can like or unlike a guy based on so many superficial things that it's ridiculous. There are people who only like blondes or brunettes, or only like blue eyes or only like athletes or only like artists or musicians. They may go out with you and then just not feel you were in their areas of interest for having things in common. She may have met some other guy (girls that age meet guys a lot) and gotten focused on him. But it sounds like you had a couple of nice dates that any girl would appreciate being taken on and did things right, and I would just write it off that even though you had not discovered the thing about her that wasn't quite what you wanted, she decided you two weren't a right couple. Since you don't know her well, there's no way to tell what little piccadillo of hers she felt didn't line up with yours -- but there's no reason at all to blame yourself. We all have different preferences, from profound things all the way down to does he have hair on his toes. It's nothing to worry about. Sorry it didn't work out. Maybe one of her friends will surface who thinks you're adorable. You never know. Don't make enemies with her. Just withdraw, but if you run into her and her friends, just say hi and move on.

[WaitingForBardot]

Not a darn thing! You just weren't a good fit, nothing more, nothing less...