ajaxlemon Posted March 25, 2016 Posted March 25, 2016 Is this common? We can talk to and joke about each other when we're in a group setting but get extra tongue-tied when no one else is around? Any way to get past this, or it's just not meant to be?
Beach Guy Posted March 25, 2016 Posted March 25, 2016 (edited) Do you (and the other person) do fine in one-on-one conversations with others? In a group setting there is some comfort in numbers, but if one-on-one time makes one or both feel like you're a couple, then maybe it's too soon for that. If you'd like this to become more comfortable: Take the lead. Plan some stories to tell ahead of time. Also, plan questions to ask that will get the other person to open up. Ask the person to elaborate on his/her favorite movies, music, vacations, etc. If all you get is short answers, then tell a final story (leave him or her laughing) and make a graceful exit. Try again another time if you feel the person is worth the effort. And/or try asking 'deep' questions... What is one big dream you have for your life someday? Edited March 25, 2016 by Beach Guy
Hyperfocal Posted March 25, 2016 Posted March 25, 2016 Seems like extroversion in you. I am the opposite, can 1 on 1 anyone, no problem. In a group it's like the depth of conversation then falls to the least common denominator... regardless of the group, leads to simplified shallow conversations, which are tiring to endure. Encouraging? 2
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