Blanco Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 I've had three serious relationships in my life and have been totally single in between each of them for long periods of time. Reason for me was simple: Getting into another potential relationship soon after the last one ends isn't appealing at all to me. Whether I was the dumper or not, I've always taken time away from dating to both mourn the loss of something that meant a lot to me and focus on self-improvement. It became clear to me even at a young age (college) that most people let things such as self-improvement slide when they are in a relationship. I've been out of my last LTR for over a year and only now does the thought of a new relationship not seem completely exhausting to me. I recently started toying with the idea of relocating within the next year, so again, getting involved in a new relationship doesn't seem that appealing to me. And for whatever it's worth, I feel like I've had more women show obvious interest in me during my long periods of being single compared to when I've been in a relationship. 1
Mccoy321 Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 I was single for a five year stretch once. No one was even remotely bothered, but that's the norm if you're not good looking. People just don't expect you to be attractive to a woman so it's no surprise.
Author Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted March 31, 2016 Author Posted March 31, 2016 I've had three serious relationships in my life and have been totally single in between each of them for long periods of time. Reason for me was simple: Getting into another potential relationship soon after the last one ends isn't appealing at all to me. Whether I was the dumper or not, I've always taken time away from dating to both mourn the loss of something that meant a lot to me and focus on self-improvement. It became clear to me even at a young age (college) that most people let things such as self-improvement slide when they are in a relationship. I've been out of my last LTR for over a year and only now does the thought of a new relationship not seem completely exhausting to me. I recently started toying with the idea of relocating within the next year, so again, getting involved in a new relationship doesn't seem that appealing to me. And for whatever it's worth, I feel like I've had more women show obvious interest in me during my long periods of being single compared to when I've been in a relationship. Best answer but for me, now that I am in a relationship, some guys are showing interest. One guy is sad because he said he "lost me". I was single for 12 and a half years, my god, there was plenty of time for him to do something about it then! He never made a move so how the hell was I suppose to know. Some interesting ideas on this thread. I think the perpetually long single girl, gets a pat on the back for finally finding someone who will love her, the perpetually long single guy gets a pat on the back for finally finding someone that will give him sex.
yololin Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 (edited) Some of the coolest guys I know haven't had a GF for ages. They are always surrounded by many friends and positive people. They are charismatic and just don't seem to need a GF to settle with. Strangely though, they always talk about their bad luck and how shy they are, and ironically they are magnets for masses of female friends who just want to stay in the friendzone. hehe. I think they have so much potential to get what they want if they just believe. It is what it is. Edited March 31, 2016 by yololin
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