circlesinfinity Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 I don't want to like this guy. I stopped talking to him. We used to work together when I was there he would tell people that he didn't want to get involved with a coworker. So one day I up and quit because of other issues with the job. He contacts me out of the blue, I never gave him my number. While he was texting me he kept asking me about not coming back saying how he had to cover my shift and just randomly sent playful text messages. He said somethings about me giving him backrubs after he leaves lol. He said this joke about my culture which pissed me off. The main reason was because he didn't get to know about to even experience that being true or not. Plus I liked him so I didn't understand if he didn't like me why was he bothering me in the first place. I requested him to my Facebook over a week ago, (after a year of not talking to him) he didn't say anything to me. I have had him on my mind lately and I can't say he would be interested but this situation it too 50/50 for me. I have no idea what he thinks about me. I DON'T WANT to like him. What sucks is that when I mention him to family they don't have any bad vibes from him and people at work never said a bad thing about. They just say how good of a person he is, how a girl would be lucky to have him...blah blah... The good stuff is not helping...maybe I should have heartless friends because caring hasn't helped me find love. I'm sick of having crushes it never goes anywhere and I'm getting too old. 1
Toodaloo Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 Why in the heck are you faffing about with a guy who wasn't interested a year ago and still isn't interested then? Quit sitting at home in your onsie tapping on facebook and get up and go do something about it. Join a club go to the gym, take up swimming, take a night class, go to dance lessons... 3
Author circlesinfinity Posted March 24, 2016 Author Posted March 24, 2016 (edited) Why in the heck are you faffing about with a guy who wasn't interested a year ago and still isn't interested then? Quit sitting at home in your onsie tapping on facebook and get up and go do something about it. Join a club go to the gym, take up swimming, take a night class, go to dance lessons... LOL You're right. Should I block him? Why did he feel the need to contact me via phone? I didn't give him a number. Edited March 24, 2016 by circlesinfinity 1
Larryville Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 Again as someone accurately pointed out to me some time ago, replying without understanding the person does not help… My first response would have been like Too’s Why in the heck are you faffing about with a guy who wasn't interested a year ago and still isn't interested then? The answer is you need to do some spiritual and mental adjustments your past threads consist of: Feeling So Low Now-Living At Home What are the benefits of being overlooked by men? I just need some positive reasons why being ignored or overlooked by men is no big deal. Why didn't this guy text me back? What are some positives to not wanting to date anymore? My Counseling sessions...how has therpay ed you? How Do I Fully Accept Being Alone Found this quote the other day… In relationships or life in general - “We repeat what we do not repair.” I don’t know how you look, your education, your family background, who your relationship role models were growing up, abuse issues, something inside you got broke and you need to do some self inventory and get your self-esteem back because no amount of advice is going to solve YOU if you don’t know and fix what is broken. Get cool with yourself and stop paying any attention to any dudes for the time being. You can do Too’s advice but until you fix your self-esteem issues (after of course identifying how you got to where you are) you will keep asking these kinds of questions (Facebook?) about dudes who are not even in your life. 2
Toodaloo Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 LOL You're right. Should I block him? Why did he feel the need to contact me via phone? I didn't give him a number. You need to ask the question? Just delete him off of your Facebook and get on with life. Yes, you will have moments when you think about him but lets face it if you are busy trying to master your bow in an archery class or you are falling on your backside laughing in a dance class or the hotties you have been eyeing up at the pool has just said hello are you likely to notice? No. Who cares why he felt the need to contact you. Probably to use you as "special sock" fodder and to see if he could get pics of your boobs or something. Just ignore it. 2
Author circlesinfinity Posted March 24, 2016 Author Posted March 24, 2016 Again as someone accurately pointed out to me some time ago, replying without understanding the person does not help… My first response would have been like Too’s The answer is you need to do some spiritual and mental adjustments your past threads consist of: Feeling So Low Now-Living At Home What are the benefits of being overlooked by men? Why didn't this guy text me back? What are some positives to not wanting to date anymore? My Counseling sessions...how has therpay ed you? How Do I Fully Accept Being Alone Found this quote the other day… In relationships or life in general - “We repeat what we do not repair.” I don’t know how you look, your education, your family background, who your relationship role models were growing up, abuse issues, something inside you got broke and you need to do some self inventory and get your self-esteem back because no amount of advice is going to solve YOU if you don’t know and fix what is broken. Get cool with yourself and stop paying any attention to any dudes for the time being. You can do Too’s advice but until you fix your self-esteem issues (after of course identifying how you got to where you are) you will keep asking these kinds of questions (Facebook?) about dudes who are not even in your life. Ummm, even though your references come across as creepy I do understand your point. It's people with self esteem issues who do find love. I am constantly working on myself and I held in a lot in the past. Love Shack is an outlet and I honestly don't know about relationships! I also feel that it there's a hint of annoyance which is fine but like I said I don't know about relationships, sorry! I don't have any notches under my belt. 1
Author circlesinfinity Posted March 24, 2016 Author Posted March 24, 2016 You need to ask the question? Just delete him off of your Facebook and get on with life. Yes, you will have moments when you think about him but lets face it if you are busy trying to master your bow in an archery class or you are falling on your backside laughing in a dance class or the hotties you have been eyeing up at the pool has just said hello are you likely to notice? No. Who cares why he felt the need to contact you. Probably to use you as "special sock" fodder and to see if he could get pics of your boobs or something. Just ignore it. Yeah a hottie does say hi to me at my grocery store... 1
Toodaloo Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 Yeah a hottie does say hi to me at my grocery store... Well for goodness sake why not waste your onsie time thinking about that one instead and coming up with an imaginative way to get asked out... 1
Larryville Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 I apologize for the perceived creepy vibe but after being on this site and reading literally hundreds of these posts and tracking hundreds more individual posts in these threads every single problem people on the site posts here comes down to exploring past variables, kind of looking in the mirror and asking yourself how did I get here? I just think it is too simplistic to say to yourself one day, then post.. “this person ghosted me…. Why?” “I don’t think this person likes me… why” “I can’t communicate with my BF or GF… how do I do that” “I can’t meet anyone online…. Why?” Please don’t get me wrong, reaching out and engaging here is VERY important, reading and posting myself although all is cool with me at the moment does help keep the mind fresh. But if someone posting here keeps basically posting about the same general core issues over and over and nothing is changing self-evaluation is critical…. Unless (as some posts/thread starts I read) the people really are not posting to get honest input on an issue, they post just to get attention. IMHO 2
Satu Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 Crushes are for young girls and boys. In adults, they are an embarassment.
Author circlesinfinity Posted March 24, 2016 Author Posted March 24, 2016 Crushes are for young girls and boys. In adults, they are an embarassment. I agree!!!
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