Shs101 Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 At 22 I dated a girl for a little over year..."thought" we were in love and all and then bam one day she's gone over some Bs and she looked like it didn't even phase her. Came on on here about a month ago when it happened for support and I can't express how much everything meant to me. I feel a ton better, believe me the process works. Am I my old self again? Of not, not yet. The truth is I still think about her every day, but the acceptance stage has took over. So I seen a girl today, very casual just to get out there and feel normal again. After everything I had a strong epiphany rafter realizing my ex the girl who I thought I was in love with which I do love, isn't the one. More so, not My type after all. Not going in to details but has anyone ever been brainwashed in a relationship? Maybe thinking someone is something they're not? I feel like this now. The girl I see today was just so much more mature and classy, more morals like mine. I know it's soon and I'm not saying I'm dating again at all because I still think of my ex everyday. But just to put this thread out there to get some insight on realizing maybe the girl you thought you loved wasn't your type after all. It's such a strong feeling i actually started to get depressed (which is why I'm posting this). How was I brainwashed? How do I accept she wasn't the one and isn't my type? It's crazy to me thinking someone is and then you meet someone else and realize your ex really wasn't anything you ever wanted..... 1
Emilia Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 You think in neat boxes too much. You can have more than one type. There isn't such a thing as 'the one'
Woon Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 You think in neat boxes too much. You can have more than one type. There isn't such a thing as 'the one' I agree. My ex had alot of properties and quirks i love. But so does the new girl. And theyre completely opposite people. Its about finding someone who's demons balances well with your own 1
kztar Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 Well, im going through a breakup and my EX and I were never really compatible in many aspects of life. We are from two different worlds and initially I saw this as a great thing as I thought we would balance each other out. After the breakup, I was devastated but I put myself out there and met this guy. He's much older, much more mature, we have alot in common, specially considering the fact that we came out of relationships that had the same exact outcome. The whole point is this guy and I think so much alike about LIFE in general. We share very similar values. When my ex left me I said I felt like I would never meet someone who is similar to me, a dew months later I meet this guy and I just said holy cow. My ex and I had NOTHING in common besides the fact that we wanted the same things out of life. Yeah there's always going to be someone or something that will make you realize yeah this person and I probably would have ended somewhere in the long run anyway. Anyways im still heartbroken and feel a lot of resentment towards my EX.
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