dolphinedoll1 Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 I am really physically attracted to my professor and I wonder if he feels the same or is this all in my head. Im 21 he is in his mid 30s. It all started very innocent then i just started having feeling for him, i think he may like me too but i just want some opinions from you guys. Here are some of the events that made me think that he may like me. - he is really nice and picks on me in class like my shirt - he touched my arm ( while laughing/joking) 3 times - everytime we have lab he comes to our table ( on my side ) just to see if we need help ( no im getting an A in the class) - he always starts to give out lab tools to our table first even though he skips a table that is in front of us - he remebers the little details where im from and keeps bring them up in class convo - he leans really close to me when he is at our table group kind of invading my personal space bubble ( not in a creepy way) - he doesnt get mad at me if i say something sarcastic at him - i was late for a group meeting and i thought that a normal professor wont care whether i showed up or not, but he was worried so a friend texted me saying that the professor was worried why i was late - i see him staring at me when he is lecturing but i cant keep long eye contact so i look away - he is very helpful, i asked for a tool and he went out of his way to find it in a different lab - if i see him outside of class he starts talking to me first and jokes around a lot - i have seen him staring at me as i was reaching for something but he seemed lost like he was daydreaming - i had a guy neigbor in my class and he came to my table and was talking with me catching up and my professor said what are you doing here to the guy, you dont belong in this group in a joking way .. Is this all in my head or is there something I dont want criticism, i just need some advice
Scarlett.O'hara Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 It doesn't sound like he is romantically interested from what you have described. However, it does sound like academic interest, which is great! He obviously thinks you have a lot of potential. It may not be the answer you were hoping to get, but it is still flattering when you think about. If you can, try and channel your attraction and energy into your studies and you will go far. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 He sees you as a good student. He "likes" you because you seem to be interested in his class / favorite subject. He's not romantically interested.
Lorenza Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 He's just a warm sympathetic teacher who knows that having a good contact with students helps them be relaxed and do better during the class. I don't think he's into you. Professors don't normally risk developing feelings and getting involved with a student.
truth_seeker Posted March 25, 2016 Posted March 25, 2016 I need to know what you look like in order to judge. If you're a smoking hot babe, then he's attracted to you. If you're average, then he probably just likes you but not romantically.
Mrs.Dee Posted March 25, 2016 Posted March 25, 2016 I think professors actually can Get attracted to their students, after all professors and students are humans and humans Get attracted to one another . IT is difficult to say if this professor is attracted to you based on what you are writing - he could be perhaps. I think i had a professor attracted to me back at university. He kept suggesting i should come to his office for things we could have resolved over mail + other stuff. But maybe he just Wanted to be Friends, but the way i know men, IT wasn't friendship he was aiming at. 1
truth_seeker Posted March 25, 2016 Posted March 25, 2016 I think professors actually can Get attracted to their students, after all professors and students are humans and humans Get attracted to one another ��. IT is difficult to say if this professor is attracted to you based on what you are writing - he could be perhaps. I think i had a professor attracted to me back at university. He kept suggesting i should come to his office for things we could have resolved over mail + other stuff. But maybe he just Wanted to be Friends, but the way i know men, IT wasn't friendship he was aiming at. When I was in school I had a female professor invite me to her office over the weekend to work on my final term paper. I declined. I told her I was happy with the work I turned in. She tried to convince that it would be in my best interest to to come see her at her office so we could work on it together. Funny thing is she told everyone in class that once we pass in our term papers that there were no re-do's and it was final. Hmmm.... TBH... if she were a smoking hot babe I would've run to her office and spent the weekend there "working" overtime on that paper. :bunny::bunny::bunny: 1
MoreAmore Posted March 25, 2016 Posted March 25, 2016 My boyfriend is a professor and I can confirm that 1. Professors do get attracted to students 2. That doesn't mean he is ever going to date you, or even sleep with you, even once you are no longer in his class 3. He certainly isn't going to do these things while you're in his class if he fancies earning a living 4. Those behaviors probable aren't about him being attracted to you 2
stillafool Posted March 25, 2016 Posted March 25, 2016 Professors are used to girls having crushes on them. It happens all the time. I can't tell you how many threads we've had about girls and guys asking if their professors were interested. It's probably no. 1
elaine567 Posted March 25, 2016 Posted March 25, 2016 Professors are used to girls having crushes on them. It happens all the time. I can't tell you how many threads we've had about girls and guys asking if their professors were interested. It's probably no. ...and even if it is yes, what does a 21 yo with her life ahead of her and the pick of hot young guys, want with a horny old professor who probably dips his toes into the student intake every year... 1
stillafool Posted March 25, 2016 Posted March 25, 2016 ...and even if it is yes, what does a 21 yo with her life ahead of her and the pick of hot young guys, want with a horny old professor who probably dips his toes into the student intake every year... I can never understand how any girl could be interested in a Professor with all of those goodlooking college guys around to date. My gawd they are right in the middle of a smorgasbord of hot guys. 1
GoodOnPaper Posted March 25, 2016 Posted March 25, 2016 Professors are used to girls having crushes on them. Are we? Can't say I've ever experienced it but I agree with most of the posters. Yes, we can feel "attraction" to certain students - usually, the girls have extra-forward personalities in general - but for 99.9% of us it's very mild and certainly nothing on which to risk marriages, families, reputation, and livelihood. Besides, a 21/35 age gap is huge - heck, I'm old enough to be my students' father. Yuck. I know movies and TV shows overly romanticize student/professor affairs and make it seem like they happen all the time, but in reality, messing around with undergraduates gets a huge "sleazeball" label permanently slapped on you as well as a high risk of the student's parents threatening to sue the university. I have also witnessed an ugly break-up/divorce situation where an affair came to light because a student decided to follow a professor when he got a position at another school across the country. So, unless a professor is really foolish, he is going to think twice . . . make that 15 or 20 times . . . before even thinking about reciprocating a crush. 2
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