Jibjab Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 Hello everyone I'm still fairly new to dating divorce was final in Jan. I'm confused on how things work now I'm 27 didn't feel that out of touch with things but maybe I'm wrong. I met someone a while back got her number texted a few times had trouble lining up schedules with kids and work finally this week we made plans for Friday over text on Sunday. So today I texted to confirm plans I don't really like texting besides to make plans I do not have conversations with text. But anyways I get no response is it because I text so little I don't seem interested? I even lined up a sitter for Friday rejection I don't have a problem with but this is new to me not sure how to handle it.
LivingDeadGrl Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 Not all but most people communicate by text these days. Did you talk to her at all during the week?
coachjones Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 How long has it been since you texted? Maybe she's just busy and will get back to you. If it's been at least a day, then yeah...something's up.
Author Jibjab Posted March 28, 2016 Author Posted March 28, 2016 A mutual friend told us about each other a few months ago . I texted a few times but we had trouble getting schedules to line up since we both pretty much always have our kids. So I kind of wrote her off then she starts texting again both of us had the same night free. That's why I don't get it. Maybe something came up or maybe she blew me off idk really isn't a big deal just had a crappy week and was feeling down. If I don't have the kids I always have back up plans not like women waiting but always a party or something to hit up so it wasn't a wasted free night.
itstoni Posted March 28, 2016 Posted March 28, 2016 Hello everyone I'm still fairly new to dating divorce was final in Jan. I'm confused on how things work now I'm 27 didn't feel that out of touch with things but maybe I'm wrong. I met someone a while back got her number texted a few times had trouble lining up schedules with kids and work finally this week we made plans for Friday over text on Sunday. So today I texted to confirm plans I don't really like texting besides to make plans I do not have conversations with text. But anyways I get no response is it because I text so little I don't seem interested? I even lined up a sitter for Friday rejection I don't have a problem with but this is new to me not sure how to handle it. You did fine. Only use texting to set up dates and nothing more. You get to know her on dates, not over text. She most likely didn't reply because you texted her confirming the date. This issues has been up on debate - quote from the net that sums it up. "If she has really high interest she'll contact you to make sure its still on. However if you must text, like the others mentioned, don't say anything like "are we still on?" that's just screaming neediness, you already agreed a couple days ago. If she's gonna flake, she's gonna flake no matter what. if you text and say something neutral like "you better look good tommorw or I'll pretend like I don't know you... LOL" so she knows your teasing her...."
Author Jibjab Posted March 28, 2016 Author Posted March 28, 2016 That's how I feel about texting as well flirt a little set up meeting with as few texts as possible. I should have waited a little longer to set the plans usually I won't make weekend plans till Thursday haven't gotten any flakes that way . With her initiating figured it more solid than normal and made them on a Monday.
itstoni Posted March 28, 2016 Posted March 28, 2016 That's how I feel about texting as well flirt a little set up meeting with as few texts as possible. I should have waited a little longer to set the plans usually I won't make weekend plans till Thursday haven't gotten any flakes that way . With her initiating figured it more solid than normal and made them on a Monday. When you set up plans with a woman you want them to be clear and solid. Don't let anything up to her or chance. This will only result to a flaky date, or worse, a bad date. When, where, and what. When will you show up, Where will you pick her up, or meet up, What will happen on the date (so she knows what to wear, this is really really important to her.) I personally don't tell them what we are doing - unless they insist on knowing. When you do meet, make sure you lead the date and have things planned out.
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