She Just Needs Time?

[hooblemm]

Me and my girlfriend of almost 4 years just broke up a couple weeks ago...after the first two weeks of crying and begging her to come back and her ignoring me, we started talking again. We have been talking as friends and stuff like that here lately, I convinced her to Skype with me last night so we could talk about the relationship. She insisted that we take a break, we can try again in June (about 2 months from now). She kept saying that she loves me so much and cares for me and can't imagine being with anyone else, and that we will get back together again for sure. She did her best to reassure me of that, and I believe her.

 

She just said that she needs these 2 months to work on herself and I should take them and work on myself as well, that we were each other's only source of happiness and that is why our relationship fell apart. And I agree with her, we both pushed our family/friends away and focused on nothing but each other - and the small things, any imperfections at all, would turn into a fight. I really believe that she will give me another chance after these 2 months, but I just want some advice from some outsiders. Should I respect her wishes of taking a break and not contact her until June? Or should I try to convince her of something else? Thanks in advance.

[Satu]

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*Should I respect her wishes of taking a break and not contact her until June? Or should I try to convince her of something else? Thanks in advance.

 

*I'm not entirely confident that you'd be able to make her not want what she wants, and then follow up by making her want something else that you want her to want.

 

Might be best to just respect her wishes.

[hooblemm]

That was a ridiculous question, of course I should respect her wishes...I am just looking for advice on what to do in these 2 months, what I should do when it comes time to talk again...just words of wisdom as I am really lost. Thanks!

[BatManuel]

Sounds exactly like what happened to me in December except she was dating a co worker already. I tried to convince her to stay but it's pretty hard when you're long distance and the other guy is with her 24/7. Oh well, live and learn.

 

Give her the space, I know from experience that you'll just push her further away. Address any issues you can, read some books on relationships and communication. Go to the gym. Do stuff you like to do but haven't been able to do in the relationship. Start some new healthy habits. Hope for the best, but expect the worst. You'll be a better person come June no matter what happens.

[hooblemm]

As much as I hate reading your post, @BatManuel, I agree. I am trying to better myself regardless of the outcome. I do know with 100% certainty that she is not seeing anyone else...just trying to stay hopeful.

[ty10]

Hate to say it but 'needs time' probably means it's over.