Zuckercorn1 Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 Relationship of 6 months that was more serious than your average 6 month relationship due to her having a child and being a single mom (no dad in picture by one month in I had met the child). Our relationship was typically good though we did argue a bit more than normal the last month due to me being on edge after my mom was diagnosed with cancer. So anyways skipping forward our last day together we woke up had sex, talked about our future and she had even made me a card that talked about how happy she was to have me in her life and how she looks forward to more years of me in her life. Then I played around with her kid for a bit before I had to get ready for work and when I was leaving that day to go to work she kept pulling me back into her house for one last goodbye kiss before I went to work. Then we get in a slight argument and boom done 2 days later. That goodbye kiss moment was our last as a couple. I did the typical stuff for 2 weeks of trying to get her back though I was sporadic about it probably only talked to her like 3 or 4 times. Now I'm in no contact and trying to get my life back together. I don't know what advice to really ask for more just trying to talk about the situation to help with the healing process. We spent basically every moment together while I wasn't at school or working. I'm wondering from a female perspective what exactly could have happened and I guess what can I do? We are both 29 years old so I'm going to the tried and true no contact type plan but certainly this was the most surprising breakup I have ever had. 1
sorano Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 man this sounds like my break up. Except my ex didnt have a kid. The 180. I know what you are going through. same same crap happened to me. she used to write me letters on how she wanted to be with me, talk about family, having kids. Then I get dropped. Its not easy 1
Author Zuckercorn1 Posted March 24, 2016 Author Posted March 24, 2016 Yeah I have kinda come to terms with the fact that I won't ever really understand it. Her life was a bit of a mess she is 29 single mom, living at home, and preparing to go back to school. My friends thought I was crazy for dating her because I'm an attractive guy who has options but there was something about her that I always loved. Anyways I'm 2 weeks into no contact now so that is a bonus. 1
Satu Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 Relationship of 6 months that was more serious than your average 6 month relationship due to her having a child and being a single mom (no dad in picture by one month in I had met the child). Our relationship was typically good though we did argue a bit more than normal the last month due to me being on edge after my mom was diagnosed with cancer. So anyways skipping forward our last day together we woke up had sex, talked about our future and she had even made me a card that talked about how happy she was to have me in her life and how she looks forward to more years of me in her life. Then I played around with her kid for a bit before I had to get ready for work and when I was leaving that day to go to work she kept pulling me back into her house for one last goodbye kiss before I went to work. *Then we get in a slight argument and boom done 2 days later. That goodbye kiss moment was our last as a couple. I did the typical stuff for 2 weeks of trying to get her back though I was sporadic about it probably only talked to her like 3 or 4 times. Now I'm in no contact and trying to get my life back together. I don't know what advice to really ask for more just trying to talk about the situation to help with the healing process. We spent basically every moment together while I wasn't at school or working. I'm wondering from a female perspective what exactly could have happened and I guess what can I do? We are both 29 years old so I'm going to the tried and true no contact type plan but certainly this was the most surprising breakup I have ever had. *One argument too many. Everybody has a limit. Take care.
Author Zuckercorn1 Posted March 24, 2016 Author Posted March 24, 2016 One argument too many. Everybody has a limit. Take care.Yeah probably so. Probably nothing I can really do to fix that. 1
Author Zuckercorn1 Posted March 24, 2016 Author Posted March 24, 2016 Yeah probably so. Probably nothing I can really do to fix that. Fwiw we only had 2 or 3 arguments are entire time dating. We are both very laid back. 1
Satu Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 snip Yeah probably so. *Probably nothing I can really do to fix that. *You can fix it within yourself. From my journals: "Treat harsh speech as if it is the most deadly of all poisons. Do not speak harshly to anyone. Ever. It is poisonous to the soul and the heart, and those words can never be unsaid. There is always a better, kinder, option. Be respectful even when you're angry." Take care.
Author Zuckercorn1 Posted March 24, 2016 Author Posted March 24, 2016 snip *You can fix it within yourself. From my journals: "Treat harsh speech as if it is the most deadly of all poisons. Do not speak harshly to anyone. Ever. It is poisonous to the soul and the heart, and those words can never be unsaid. There is always a better, kinder, option. Be respectful even when you're angry." Take care.I actually have been working on it. It was something I had an issue with when I was younger and the month where I was waiting on my moms cancer diagnosis I was a bit out of control. Actually almost got in a fight with one of my best friends that month. So what would you recommend I do? Just stick to no contact? It seems as though that is my only option 1
Satu Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 I actually have been working on it. It was something I had an issue with when I was younger and the month where I was waiting on my moms cancer diagnosis I was a bit out of control. Actually almost got in a fight with one of my best friends that month. *So what would you recommend I do? Just stick to no contact? It seems as though that is my only option *A few years ago I made a decision that completely changed the way I relate to people. Things are so good for me now. This is what came to mind, and I live by it: "I only give the best of myself to others. The less than best I work on in my own time." Recommended.
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