beachlover966 Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 (edited) I have been seeing this guy for one year and we aren't exclusive. He won't call me his girlfriend but he treats me like a girlfriend. He gets jealous when I go on dates with other guys. He told me a few months ago that he just wanted to be friends and doesn't want a realtionship but I wanted to be in a relationship with him. I love hanging out with him. We hang out a lot and text every day. Should I stay with him or should I leave him if he doesn't want a relationship? Edited March 24, 2016 by beachlover966 1
polkadotspots Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 1 year seems like a lot to be seeing each other but to not be exclusive... Doesn't really sound like he's willing to be in a relationship with you, unfortunately :/ 1
Zahara Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 He wants the benefits minus the commitment. If you want a relationship, then it would be best to leave. Unfortunately, it's likely never going to happen with him. And don't take the jealousy as emotional attachment. It's just his fear of losing his casual arrangement. 1
Zahara Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 I told my guy friend that I went on the date with another guy and he told me that he didn't like me going on the date with him but since we aren't exclusive, I'm free to date who ever I want. This is from another thread. He's even giving you the OK to date others. What does that tell you? You've received a lot of advice from the many threads you have created. The situation isn't changing. 1
preraph Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 You should date other guys no matter whether he likes it or not. He doesn't want you but doesn't want anyone else to have you, which doesn't mean he loves you but only that he's selfish and inconsiderate. 1
Satu Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 How can you leave him, when you're not *with* him? 1
adarna Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 I have been seeing this guy for one year and we aren't exclusive. He won't call me his girlfriend but he treats me like a girlfriend. He gets jealous when I go on dates with other guys. He told me a few months ago that he just wanted to be friends and doesn't want a realtionship but I wanted to be in a relationship with him. I love hanging out with him. We hang out a lot and text every day. Should I stay with him or should I leave him if he doesn't want a relationship? I'm sorry that you're going through this. It's not easy when you want a relationship and the other person doesn't. He sounds really selfish to me. Won't call you his gf, won't even be exclusive, yet gets jealous when you date other guys. Have you called him out on that? What does he say? The only way being non-official for a year would fly with me is if we were exclusive. You deserve so much more than a pseudo relationship. Maybe we should reframe this: why do you think you have been okay with not being exclusive for a year? Can you do that for another month, 3 months, 6 months, year?? Is it worth the pain and stress? Isn't it draining? Or do you not mind waiting without any guarantees? 1
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