sickoflove11 Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 I'm really over analyzing having sex with this guy. Any insight would really be appreciated! The background is a long story, I'll try to shorten it. Basically he is my good friends brother, we had been talking awhile then he stopped, probably lost interest, started getting what he wanted else where because I didn't give him sex right away (I thought he actually might want to date me). He is a pretty big jerk who thinks he can get any girl and here I am falling for that. I tried to get over him and move on but I just had this desire to sleep with him and I couldn't let it go. So we had sex and it started out good but then he was just getting really rough and when he finished we realized I was bleeding and he asked if I was starting my period soon and I said no I think it was just really rough.. (I also lost interest like half way through so that probably didn't help not being aroused anymore). He didn't act that weird about it but we didn't cuddle which I didn't really expect because I really just wanted to have sex and leave. He also went and showered so I think I actually felt bad and idk why.. It's just super weird that has never happened to me before (with the bleeding) and it was the first time we had sex so I'm feeling really self conscious about it since I know I'll have to see him again at one point, but I know we won't have any other type of communication in the mean time and we probably won't have sex ever again. I just wanted it to be a good one time thing and now I don't know how awkward its going to be when I see him next.. I cant even hang out with my friend who is his sister, because I don't want anything to do with him. Obviously I still have some feelings for him. If he never contacts me again and I see him with another girl or hear that he's been with one it's going to hurt until I get over this.. But does bleeding like this make guys uncomfortable if this happens to a girl they slept with for the first time? Would this totally turn them off? I never want to see this guy again but I also wanted to end it with good sex not this...
introverted1 Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 Have you seen a doctor to find out why you were bleeding? That should be your first priority.
Author sickoflove11 Posted March 23, 2016 Author Posted March 23, 2016 Have you seen a doctor to find out why you were bleeding? That should be your first priority. Thank you, but that is not what I'm concerned about on this thread. I can take care of any medical issues on my own. I would really just like to know if this has happened to anyone else and what was the reaction? This was just a one night stand but I know I'll have to see him again and I'm feeling very uncomfortable.
ExpatInItaly Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 I wouldn't stress over what he thinks about the bleeding. I'm sure it's not the first time he's seen it happen, which is probably why he just assumed it was your period (even though you clarified it wasn't) I don't think he sees it as a big deal. The showering is something he probably did just to clean himself off, which I wouldn't really take offense to. Just because there was some blood doesn't mean he didn't enjoy himself up to that point. However, if you weren't enjoying yourself, don't hesitate to speak up and suggest another position or speed that is more comfortable for you. Don't be so ashamed about this, girl. You did nothing wrong and I doubt he walked away thinking it was bad. Anyone who has some experience with sex knows sometimes our bodies do funny or strange things in the act. It's part of the process and he probably is just hoping he didn't hurt you or something. It happened to me once, a long time ago. No idea why, as I wasn't on my period either and a doctor later confirmed that all was okay, but the guy didn't seem to care. Things happen. 1
Author sickoflove11 Posted March 24, 2016 Author Posted March 24, 2016 I wouldn't stress over what he thinks about the bleeding. I'm sure it's not the first time he's seen it happen, which is probably why he just assumed it was your period (even though you clarified it wasn't) I don't think he sees it as a big deal. The showering is something he probably did just to clean himself off, which I wouldn't really take offense to. Just because there was some blood doesn't mean he didn't enjoy himself up to that point. However, if you weren't enjoying yourself, don't hesitate to speak up and suggest another position or speed that is more comfortable for you. Don't be so ashamed about this, girl. You did nothing wrong and I doubt he walked away thinking it was bad. Anyone who has some experience with sex knows sometimes our bodies do funny or strange things in the act. It's part of the process and he probably is just hoping he didn't hurt you or something. It happened to me once, a long time ago. No idea why, as I wasn't on my period either and a doctor later confirmed that all was okay, but the guy didn't seem to care. Things happen. Thank you, that makes me feel a little better. He's just more of the hook up type and I'm not, so yeah he might care less and has seen it before but it's really depressing me that it was a one time thing and this is how it went. I'm just overthinking everything.
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