Amlee Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 Okay so I want to ask you ladies a question and please answer honestly If a guy you know tries to chat you up and clearly shows you that he likes you, but you don't like him back. Would you still flirt, sit on his lap and hug him in photos? I'm obviously relating this to a personal situation with a girl I'm dating who has another guy she works with always calling her. She tells me that there's nothing to it and that she's not into him and never has been but I've seen many photos of them looking very cosy together
Toodaloo Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 If you are looking on Facebook it means nothing. They are just silly photos. She probably jumped on his lap for the photo then jumped straight back off again to see what she was going to look like on facebook. When we grow up a bit it slows down but people still have silly moments. Personally I wouldn't think anything of it at all. But then for me personally dating someone who feels the need to post pictures of everything all over facebook is also a no.
Author Amlee Posted March 23, 2016 Author Posted March 23, 2016 If you are looking on Facebook it means nothing. They are just silly photos. She probably jumped on his lap for the photo then jumped straight back off again to see what she was going to look like on facebook. When we grow up a bit it slows down but people still have silly moments. Personally I wouldn't think anything of it at all. But then for me personally dating someone who feels the need to post pictures of everything all over facebook is also a no. They have loads of photos together with just them 2, hugging and her just sitting on his lap. There are other photos with other people but she always seems to be next to him. Plus she's told me that he is a super player and has been involved with many of the girls she hangs out with
fred123 Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 well I'm not a lady but hell no that is not on! mixed messages! poor guy
Toodaloo Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 They have loads of photos together with just them 2, hugging and her just sitting on his lap. There are other photos with other people but she always seems to be next to him. Plus she's told me that he is a super player and has been involved with many of the girls she hangs out with How recent are these photos? Sometimes its fun to have a player try it on even if you have absolutely no intention of ever letting him near the "goods" and have no attraction to him at all. I would imagine that he is just a regular part of the group she hangs with. Give it a few years and he will disappear into the abyss never to be remembered again.
d0nnivain Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 My behavior around my guy friends is a function of them & the relationship. If I am certain I am not leading him on I may be more physically demonstrative -- lap sitting, hugging etc. then I would if I knew I was teasing him. If the girl you are dating is simply the touchy feely type but her guy friend knows it doesn't mean anything you can't police her behavior. You have to look at it this way -- if she really wanted him, she'd be with him & never would have bothered to meet you or go on a date with you.
TXGuy Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 (edited) I see a few possible explanations. It isn't clear from your post whether this girl you are dating is dating you exclusively. One explanation is you are simply one of the men she is dating. Assuming you two are dating exclusively, then the most likely explanation of her behavior is that she wants to keep a few other guys "in the bullpen." Meaning she keeps them close and ready to step in when your relationship with her goes non-exclusive. There is yet another explanation, given that you explained he is a player that has hooked up with many of her friends. That is she is his f**k buddy. She gets to flirt openly with him in public and have sex with him in private. If you complain, she will tell you you are possessive, jealous and controlling. He doesn't mind that she has sex with you, because he is just having fun with with her when it suits them. Edited March 23, 2016 by TXGuy
introverted1 Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 If a guy you know tries to chat you up and clearly shows you that he likes you, but you don't like him back. Would you still flirt, sit on his lap and hug him in photos? No. (10 characters)
lilmissjava Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 She loves the attention she can get from ANY guy.
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