Atticus9292012 Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 Well, I have a guy friend that I have some romantic history with, but we've been just friends for over a year. About a month or so ago I was out with a bunch of friends and he was there. It was mainly women and I was in a conversation with a a female friend of mine about body imperfections. I have a lot of stretch marks from my pregnancy with my son and said how I am a little self conscious about it. He pipes up and makes a comment about how sexy I am and he always came when we had sex. I mean it was so random. I just looked at him kind of pissed. Thankfully only one person heard it and called him out for saying that. No one needs to know that!! Well, I in turn made a comment about how he had cellulite on his ass, because he has a big butt. I was trying to make light of it. I texted him that night after we both had left about the comment and he never responded. He basically ignored me for weeks after that and I essentially just let it go. I have no idea why he brought that up. Well, I have seen him a few times in person and he is always extremely friendly and chats me up asks about me and my son....brings up stuff we should do together....but if I ever try to include him now in social events or just simply shoot the **** via text/phone he ignores me. I asked him not that long ago about his lack of response and he said he was just super busy right now. I know I should let it go, but it bothers me that he is being weird when I didn't do anything wrong and this sudden lack of communication started with that night and that comment that he should have never made.
Toodaloo Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 He tried to pay you a compliment and said you are sexy and you turned round and shot out a nasty remark... You are just friends now so if he doesn't want to shoot the **** with you he doesn't have to. 1
Author Atticus9292012 Posted March 23, 2016 Author Posted March 23, 2016 I guess you have a point. I was more focused on the fact that he basically pointed out to a bunch of people we've had sex. I just didnt like that. Most of the people within ear shot didnt know that and I don't want my personal business to be public knowledge, but I probably should have just said nothing.
preraph Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 He was out of line telling those people your intimate business from the past. It sounded to me like a brag more than a compliment. And it was way too much information. It doesn't sound like he wants to be friends. To me it sounds more like he'd hook up with you again but only if it didn't mean anything. And then he'd go shooting his mouth off about that too. Let him go. Having him around is probably keeping other guys away anyway. A lot of people will assume you're together.
Author Atticus9292012 Posted March 23, 2016 Author Posted March 23, 2016 Yeah, I have kind of had my suspicions for some time that this was how it is with him. This isn't the first odd thing thats happened that made me get upset. He'd probably just have sex with me, if I'd allow it. I just can't. We've know each other too long and Id want more. He has done nice things for me. He helped me move, checked on me when I had surgery this summer, random favors whenever I ask to suggest maybe he does care about me as a person or really is a friend....but things like this suggest to me that its not purely altruistic.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 Was it inappropriate to say what he did? Yes. Way TMI. He easily could have said, "I always thought you had the sexiest body" and left it at that. But at the very least, saying you're sexy comes from a place of assurance and trying to be complimentary. What you said about him basically having a fat ass is very mean sounding and kind of insulting. So even though he offered way TMI, it sounded like he was at least trying to make you feel better about yourself. That's why I can see why he'd take offense to what you said. 1
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