Amokach1 Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 There is a woman at work who I've started to have feelings for. Thing is we are both in relationships. But it's starting to get me down, and affect my work. I don't think I'd ever cheat but I'm not happy with the situation. What I really want to know does this girl like me? Sometimes we are at work on our own for long periods and we get on really well although we don't flirt. We tend to make eye contact and it's never uncomfortable. In fact when she's talking in a group but not directly to me she will always look at me for my reaction to what she's saying. I have caught her looking at me as we'll. She told a colleague that she thought I had really nice eyes and remembers conversations that we've had from months ago. Sometimes when she's told that we are paired up at work together she smiles or gets out a giggle like she's excited. She laughs at stuff I say even when it's not that funny and recently she teases me and might hit me a playful nudge in the shoulder. She never mentions her partner and never asks about mine. On the other hand there is times when she could have spend time with me (or overtime at work) but she's turned it down. Am I just imagining that she likes me? I serous thinking about moving dept but we just get on so well. I need help please!
TaraMaiden2 Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 There is a woman at work who I've started to have feelings for. Thing is we are both in relationships. But it's starting to get me down, and affect my work. I don't think I'd ever cheat but I'm not happy with the situation. That's unimportant. What IS important is that you are both committed to others. Are you married, either of you? What I really want to know does this girl like me? Irrelevant. It doesn't matter. You are both in relationships. It's not even a consideration. Sometimes we are at work on our own for long periods and we get on really well although we don't flirt. Good. Don't ecven think about it. Workplace romances are a nightmare, even WITHOUT other partners in the picture. We tend to make eye contact and it's never uncomfortable. In fact when she's talking in a group but not directly to me she will always look at me for my reaction to what she's saying. I have caught her looking at me as we'll. Don't latch onto looks. It's a slippery slope of assumption and reading too much into things. She told a colleague that she thought I had really nice eyes and remembers conversations that we've had from months ago. Sometimes when she's told that we are paired up at work together she smiles or gets out a giggle like she's excited. She laughs at stuff I say even when it's not that funny and recently she teases me and might hit me a playful nudge in the shoulder. She never mentions her partner and never asks about mine. That's a huge red flag right there. The fact that partners aren't mentioned is because of guilt and knowing you shouldn't be feeling like this. I strongly suggest you begin mentioning your partner as often and as with much positive detail as possible. Seriously. What the heck do you think you're doing?! On the other hand there is times when she could have spend time with me (or overtime at work) but she's turned it down. Am I just imagining that she likes me? I serous thinking about moving dept but we just get on so well. I need help please! You're propelling yourself into an emotional situation, and in places where your logical mind shouldn't even be looking. I suspect you're also beginning to think with your trouser friend. Move department as soon as possible. An attraction towards someone else is a strong indication of a stale factor in your relationship. Deal with that first and foremost. Either address it and fix it, or break up/divorce. But do not, under any circumstances, even THINK about this workplace mess.
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