Dente Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 I work as a handyman at work i get calls to repair basically anything. At work i usually see this women who i strike small convo with her. I never asked her out because she had a boyfriend. Well i saw her a few times during the month and asked her if shes doing anything for the weekend. She would always reply with no nothing. Then i wanted to ask her if shes married to see if she has a boyfriend but she tells me not even close. Because i saw a ring on her finger. Later on during the months she would text me to ask for small odd favors but things that she didnt even need to text me about. I assume she was just reaching out. Well yesterday i texted her and got the courge to ask her out for a cup of coffee. (I should have done it in person but she was busy at work and shes around people but still should have asked). She replied with "yea sound good!" i was suprised she said ya so i asked her if friday at 8 is good for her. She said that this weekend shes has plans(holy week i forgot) but the following friday shes free if thats ok with me. I said cool and got off the phone. My question is does she knows im romatic into her just by asking her. And my other question is its a whole week i have to wait but ill probably see her at work sometimes i dont but should i text her the following thursday to remind her or when i see her? Or should i reach out during the week how should i play this ? I been out of the game so long. Any advice please
Author Dente Posted March 23, 2016 Author Posted March 23, 2016 I work as a handyman at work i get calls to repair basically anything. At work i usually see this women who i strike small convo with her. I never asked her out because she had a boyfriend. Well i saw her a few times during the month and asked her if shes doing anything for the weekend. She would always reply with no nothing. Then i wanted to ask her if shes married to see if she has a boyfriend but she tells me not even close. Because i saw a ring on her finger. Later on during the months she would text me to ask for small odd favors but things that she didnt even need to text me about. I assume she was just reaching out. Well yesterday i texted her and got the courge to ask her out for a cup of coffee. (I should have done it in person but she was busy at work and shes around people but still should have asked). She replied with "yea sound good!" i was suprised she said ya so i asked her if friday at 8 is good for her. She said that this weekend shes has plans(holy week i forgot) but the following friday shes free if thats ok with me. I said cool and got off the phone. My question is does she knows im romatic into her just by asking her. And my other question is its a whole week i have to wait but ill probably see her at work sometimes i dont but should i text her the following thursday to remind her or when i see her? Or should i reach out during the week how should i play this ? I been out of the game so long. Any advice please Anyone? Just wanted some advice wether to keep contact her or wait a day before the date.
kendahke Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 Anyone? Just wanted some advice wether to keep contact her or wait a day before the date. Contact her 2 days before the date to confirm it. By phone. IOW--CALL HER, don't text her. You will be able to gauge her interest by the tone of her voice when she's talking to you. 2
Miss Peach Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 Contact her 2 days before the date to confirm it. By phone. IOW--CALL HER, don't text her. You will be able to gauge her interest by the tone of her voice when she's talking to you. I agree with this. My experience with men is that if a guy asks me to coffee I assume it's a date. If I had a BF or was married I would have said that when you asked me to make it clear it was platonic or not interested.
Author Dente Posted March 23, 2016 Author Posted March 23, 2016 I agree with this. My experience with men is that if a guy asks me to coffee I assume it's a date. If I had a BF or was married I would have said that when you asked me to make it clear it was platonic or not interested. Right...she would say she has a boyfriend or if she wasn't interested she would decline my offer i know her for a while but mainly just small talk shes a nice person. I usually see her maybe once a week and is crazy busy thats why i texted her. We did set the day for next week just a coffee. See what happens maybe she'll flake at the last minute maybe not see what happens. I saw her today because she texted me about something leaking in the bathroom which it wasn't much of a leak. I saw her but she was with patients so i just said hi its all done. She said hi, ok and left so later i texted her "you seem very busy hehe" but nevered replied back. I dont want to purse too much or act needy but i dont want to come across as a cold fish. Its a whole week and a half i have to wait. Should i just contact as the poster said above 2 days before the date or everytime she reaches out just say hi and try to aviod her at work until the date? I will try to remind her in person if not ill shoot a text. More advice please.
kendahke Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 My advice is the same: Contact her 2 days before the date by a phone call to confirm. That's all the reminding she needs. She already knows she's got a date with you--you dont' have to remind her all week leading up to it. That can come across as a bit too needy. If you see her out and about, say "hi", but stop texting her. Don't try to live the whole relationship by a series of texts before you even go out with her.
preraph Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 Keep a grip on yourself. You're getting overly excited and it's coming across as insecure already. Do as Kendahke says and call her two days before and firm up the date. Yes, she knows it's a date. If you have any doubts, when you call, you can say, Hi, Kathy, just calling to set a time for me to pick you up for our date."
Author Dente Posted March 24, 2016 Author Posted March 24, 2016 Keep a grip on yourself. You're getting overly excited and it's coming across as insecure already. Do as Kendahke says and call her two days before and firm up the date. Yes, she knows it's a date. If you have any doubts, when you call, you can say, Hi, Kathy, just calling to set a time for me to pick you up for our date." Ya i gotta get a grip but just another question she not replying back to my text is that a bad sign? Or not pay attention too it? Lol she never replied bach to "you seem busy heh"
Author Dente Posted March 24, 2016 Author Posted March 24, 2016 (edited) It's not good. Sorry. Maybe testing? Why would she agree to a date if shes not interested ? Edited March 24, 2016 by Dente
Author Dente Posted March 24, 2016 Author Posted March 24, 2016 Maybe testing? Why would she agree to a date if shes not interested ? Or just putting too much thought into it?
kendahke Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 Maybe testing? Why would she agree to a date if shes not interested ? She may not be a texter. I hate having conversations over text. I'd rather talk in person or on the phone--it's easier. But as I've said twice before--don't call her until 2 days before your date to confirm. Save all the talking for the date.
Author Dente Posted March 24, 2016 Author Posted March 24, 2016 She may not be a texter. I hate having conversations over text. I'd rather talk in person or on the phone--it's easier. But as I've said twice before--don't call her until 2 days before your date to confirm. Save all the talking for the date. If she wasn't interested or had a boyfriend she wouldn't agree to a coffee date right? Thank you for taking the time for your advice i appreciate it.
kendahke Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 If she wasn't interested or had a boyfriend she wouldn't agree to a coffee date right? Thank you for taking the time for your advice i appreciate it. I think it really depends upon the kind of person she is. I know that's a vague answer, but I don't know her. She may be the kind of woman who's OK with a guy taking her out while having a boyfriend. God knows there are plenty of them afoot. You'll find out what kind of person she is when you call to confirm the date and certainly when you take her on the date. I know I'd certainly ask her about her dating status when sitting across from her. IMO, anything short of "I'm a free agent" or "there's absolutely no one in my life in a romantic capacity" might mean that there is someone orbiting, if not landed in her life. I wouldn't push for anything with anyone who isn't crystal clear on the fact that they're free to enter into a new involvement.
Author Dente Posted March 24, 2016 Author Posted March 24, 2016 I think it really depends upon the kind of person she is. I know that's a vague answer, but I don't know her. She may be the kind of woman who's OK with a guy taking her out while having a boyfriend. God knows there are plenty of them afoot. You'll find out what kind of person she is when you call to confirm the date and certainly when you take her on the date. I know I'd certainly ask her about her dating status when sitting across from her. IMO, anything short of "I'm a free agent" or "there's absolutely no one in my life in a romantic capacity" might mean that there is someone orbiting, if not landed in her life. I wouldn't push for anything with anyone who isn't crystal clear on the fact that they're free to enter into a new involvement. Shes probably not interested. Maybe letting me down soft not being negative but you know someone whos interested vs someone whos not. Gotta accept reality ill still comfirm the date but if she cancels gotta keep it moving. On the positivie side im not in doubt wether to ask her out or not
Author Dente Posted March 26, 2016 Author Posted March 26, 2016 Shes probably not interested. Maybe letting me down soft not being negative but you know someone whos interested vs someone whos not. Gotta accept reality ill still comfirm the date but if she cancels gotta keep it moving. On the positivie side im not in doubt wether to ask her out or not �� I ran into her today and said hi "I sent you a text to invite you to get a cup of coffee whenever your free" she said oh its alright sound good ya no problem...I was a bit confuse because she sounded almost excited too go get a cup of coffee.....I dated many girls and just got out of a 8 year relationship but something about her i cant figure out. ANY ADVICE WILL BE HELPFUL SO I DON"T SCREW IT UP
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