thebear1490 Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 (edited) Vacation....... Well here is a little background: 3 heavy years together. The whole marriage and kid talk and everything. B/U in 12/15 started NC in late 1/16 so I am a little over the 2 month mark of NC we broke up cause my ex cracking under the pressure of graduate school and she couldn't handle both. I ended it then regretted it a week after. Power shifted. Did everything you're not supposed to (pleading) and the last thing she said to me planted hooks of hope. No closure, no explanation, no second chance, no resolution. Almost like she died in a freak accident...leaving me stuck with a bunch of "whys?" More to the story but that is the foundation of it. since then I've dropped 21 lbs. Working out frequently. My schooling and work has skyrocketed. kept busy. figured out how my mind works in this situation that sucks. realized "hope" is your worst enemy. Bettered myself etc etc etc. Still riding the roller coaster of logic and emotions. Brain vs Heart This upcoming May I will be having 3 weeks of a school break. My ex will be graduating school at the same exact time. Possibly moving back to her family house 7 mins away from mine. Now I personally and intuitively think the breakup hasn't hit my ex because she just hadn't the free time to process it. BUT I could be completely wrong. Anyways I don't want to spend those 3 weeks sitting at home wondering, waiting, or looking for signs to see if my ex is finally processing the breakup or if she is completely over it. I rather go on vacation and keep myself busy in a different city or better yet a different country. So if my ex does reach out.......I am not there screwing myself over and putting myself on a silver platter for her. (I actually have a lot more discipline but logically and emotionally this person is still good for me even though shes a bit immature) talked to a few people: they told me I'm just running away from my problems and this will prolong my healing process. That this is not dealing with it. IDK what do you guys think? Edited March 23, 2016 by thebear1490
mightycpa Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 If your ex can separate her life from her school responsibilities to concentrate on what needs to be done to graduate, she's either a stronger man than you, or she's not interested whatsoever. The former demonstrates resolve. The latter means you don't have a chance. So does the former. So let it go. You're not running away from anything. It has run away from you.
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