Maxtor Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 I am in a 8 month relationship, for the past weeks, we have been together many days. I am not new to this, so I kinda know what I am supposed to do. BUT Currently unemployed. 2 weeks ago I was discharged, and it kinda broke my spirit. Again. When Im not working, I dont feel I have any value. Then, jobs in my country suck and are terribly underpayed. With my spirit broken, I know I am turning off my GF. Since the beggining I told her that because of the current situation at the company, I knew many people were being laied off. And with this, I knew I would go back to depression. I told her I am a very negative person. She didnt seem to mind. But I knew better. 2 days ago she didnt say anything all day. And i texted her "Is everything ok?" cause she normally texts once or twice a day. In the the beggining she would go the extra mile to engage me in every way. But that changed 2 weeks ago. Maybe its because Im more vulnerable. I am not being needy or clingy, I know better than this. She later called me saying she was fine but she had been working all day and had no time to text me. She later came to my house and I asked her "10 hours working, 600 minutes, you didnt had 10 secs to say anything. I am not angry, but that shows a lot." She apolagized and I told her that she didnt need to apolagize, she didnt do anything wrong, its just that its not normal. Then she says she needs to apolagize, cause she was distracted talking to a guy on lunch time. And I was like "Ok..." she then apolagized again and I told her "You dont need to apolagize, you did what you wanted to do, you did nothing wrong to me. Its just I am used to a text or two." She then said she tought our relationship was stable and that she was taking me for granted. That kinda hurt me. She then apolagized for saying that, but I was feeling that. She is giving me no value. The problem is right now I feel i have no value. I know I need to work on myself, doing other stuff etc, but its kinda hard right now. She called me minutes ago and I told her I was going to a kickbox practice. She was like "Ok..." but the "taking me for granted" is still on my mind. Im just venting. Sorry for the lenghty post. Here's a rabbit jumping 1
smackie9 Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 suck it up and move forward with hitting the pavement everyday putting out applications, then go exercise, clean the house, clean out your closets and have a garage sale this weekend for extra cash. Be motivated, be positive. 1
Author Maxtor Posted March 22, 2016 Author Posted March 22, 2016 suck it up and move forward with hitting the pavement everyday putting out applications, then go exercise, clean the house, clean out your closets and have a garage sale this weekend for extra cash. Be motivated, be positive. Thanks for the reply. But this isnt Canada, or the USA. Its a piss poor country filled with corruption. There are no yard sales here. We earn 2 euro\dollar an hour, like 150 dollars per week. Its hard to get back to college. Its hard to suck it up. Most of the people I know kinda made it because they had someone, rich parent, friend of a friend etc. 1
Satu Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 I understand your situation, but be very careful not to let your stress cause a gulf between you and your gf. You'll have to push yourself and find whatever job you can get. Focus on that until you get something. There's always a way forward for those who don't give in. 1
Author Maxtor Posted March 22, 2016 Author Posted March 22, 2016 I understand your situation, but be very careful not to let your stress cause a gulf between you and your gf. You'll have to push yourself and find whatever job you can get. Focus on that until you get something. There's always a way forward for those who don't give in. Yes I know. I didnt want to date anyone in the first place, but she, somehow, changed my mind. Now I kinda regret it.
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