nadzz Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Hi everyone. How fast is too fast to know you love the person you're dating? How fast is too fast to say you love them? To men, if a woman says she loves you first, will it be a turn off? What prevents you from saying it even when you feel it? thank guys!
Ami1uwant Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 There is no magic number. Each person and situation is different. 1 mon the is too short. If you are seeing someone on a regular basis 9-12 months is a reasonable amount of time 1
soph-walker Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 My ex told me he loved me after 2/3 months and we saw each other 3/4 times a week. I knew I loved him after about 6 weeks. I'd say allow things to blossom and go with the flow. Enjoy:) 2
thecrucible Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 Love is hard to define but for me, I know it when I feel it. I only want to say it when it means I'm telling the truth so I put no time limit on it. I won't say something I don't mean and I wouldn't want the guy to either. I would much rather wait longer and have him say "I love you" when he actually feels it. 3
LilaMarie Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 I think everyone is different. I know it takes me months to feel it. A guy I've gone on seven dates with already said it to me. Not that crazy since they were seven long dates and we work together.. 3
deckard11 Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 From what I've seen people like to rush into this so called thing you call "love". My 2 ex best friends each started dating women and these women fell "in love" with them in a short amount of time. One was 3 weeks and the other 4. Are you freaking kidding me? Then again, I don't even believe in "love". It's not real. 1
todreaminblue Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 i think it should be honest and said when you feel love for that person..... and i dont believe theres a time space for love.....someone well known said love is timeless.....and i truly believe it is....deb. 1
Jejangles Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 I think everyone is different. I know it takes me months to feel it. A guy I've gone on seven dates with already said it to me. Not that crazy since they were seven long dates and we work together.. Yeah, same. The guy I'm currently seeing said it to me after about 5 weeks, which felt super early. I am falling hard for him but am nowhere near ready to say it. Luckily he's not putting any pressure on me - we agreed he can say it as often as he wants and I will say it when I'm ready and really mean it.
Leigh 87 Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 Sometimes people fall in love fast; terms like " we fell head over heels" and " instant chemistry " and " instant connection " come to mind. Often, both people grow into each other without early infatuation. People fall in love slower this way. Women more so than men can start out not even attracted to their partner only to feel chemistry by date 3 or even towards friends they have had for years. I've noticed that women can fall in love very slowly without instant chemistry and end up head over heels. Men not so much. Men either fall head over heels and feel the instant pull/ chemistry or they meet women that" grow " on them who they didn't fall hard for. The ussue with this is when men don't fall hard and fast, they NEVER end up feeling intense passion later on with the women that " grow" on them. My first relationship: we had instant chemistry and fell in love fast. Note that falling IN love is all chemistry and blind lust and animal attraction is not REAL love. Giving your kidney for someone is true love. Second relationship: took 6 months to a year before we grew to feel " love". We weren't instantly attracted. We both had the feeling of " hmm. Well this is different from the type I felt rhat I'd choose to date". He never fell head over heels and a passion was missing from him despite the sex being great at times. Be never wanted to rip my clothes off on a primal level only when on drugs and he wanted to be freaky dye to drug influences. Third relationship: we fell fast..in love after a month but I then fell out of love fast before the in love feelings had a chance to develop into true love. He was heartbroken. I didn't like his personality and values despite the initial chemistry. I actually think it's because I was desperate for a relationship that I falsely felt instant chemistry. Fourth and hopefully final relationship: We both felt something instantly. Like in my first relationship. The difference is, we felt very compatible , like each others personalities and laugh a lot. We fell in love after 2 to 3 weeks and this grea into true love. ........ I'd say the true love began after a few months. Hope this helps. 1
marywtravis Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 You should listen to your heart. It will tell you. There is no right formula of felling in love. You just love without any reasons. 3
Author nadzz Posted February 24, 2016 Author Posted February 24, 2016 Sometimes people fall in love fast; terms like " we fell head over heels" and " instant chemistry " and " instant connection " come to mind. Often, both people grow into each other without early infatuation. People fall in love slower this way. Women more so than men can start out not even attracted to their partner only to feel chemistry by date 3 or even towards friends they have had for years. I've noticed that women can fall in love very slowly without instant chemistry and end up head over heels. Men not so much. Men either fall head over heels and feel the instant pull/ chemistry or they meet women that" grow " on them who they didn't fall hard for. The ussue with this is when men don't fall hard and fast, they NEVER end up feeling intense passion later on with the women that " grow" on them. My first relationship: we had instant chemistry and fell in love fast. Note that falling IN love is all chemistry and blind lust and animal attraction is not REAL love. Giving your kidney for someone is true love. Second relationship: took 6 months to a year before we grew to feel " love". We weren't instantly attracted. We both had the feeling of " hmm. Well this is different from the type I felt rhat I'd choose to date". He never fell head over heels and a passion was missing from him despite the sex being great at times. Be never wanted to rip my clothes off on a primal level only when on drugs and he wanted to be freaky dye to drug influences. Third relationship: we fell fast..in love after a month but I then fell out of love fast before the in love feelings had a chance to develop into true love. He was heartbroken. I didn't like his personality and values despite the initial chemistry. I actually think it's because I was desperate for a relationship that I falsely felt instant chemistry. Fourth and hopefully final relationship: We both felt something instantly. Like in my first relationship. The difference is, we felt very compatible , like each others personalities and laugh a lot. We fell in love after 2 to 3 weeks and this grea into true love. ........ I'd say the true love began after a few months. Hope this helps. this was SOOO helpful, thanks so much! I hope you remain happy and in love
Author nadzz Posted February 24, 2016 Author Posted February 24, 2016 anyone have experience saying it and not getting it in response?
Popsicle Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 Hi everyone. How fast is too fast to know you love the person you're dating? How fast is too fast to say you love them? To men, if a woman says she loves you first, will it be a turn off? What prevents you from saying it even when you feel it? thank guys! It happens when you feel it. Just be true to yourself and you'll be fine.
Author nadzz Posted March 22, 2016 Author Posted March 22, 2016 Hi all, I need your help again. My boyfriend and I were having an honest discussion about feelings. He has difficulty expressing himself because of some mommy issues. Anyway, he eventually went on to say the words "I adore you". I said it back. I don't know if I should be offended that he didn't use the word LOVE; he has never said it before. What does adore even mean? (English is my first language, please refrain from giving me the dictionary meaning) help please
introverted1 Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 Adore = crush, limerance, infatuation... possibly heading to love.
katiegrl Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 He has difficulty expressing himself because of some mommy issues. What are mommy issues?
Author nadzz Posted March 22, 2016 Author Posted March 22, 2016 What are mommy issues? Good question. His mom treats all the kids like garbage. She never expressed love for them growing up.
90s kid Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 "I adore you" means "I care for you" or "I think highly of you." It's a nice sentiment. I can see how you would be disappointed if you were expecting an "I love you." But still, I think it was a nice thing to say.
ff12343 Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 How long have you been together? Maybe give it time?
SunnyWeather Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 is English his first language? In some languages, like French, to say that is quite sexy and very sweet
whichwayisup Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 How does he treat you? How does he make you feel? That's what counts, his actions and how he is when with you. Saying he adores you is how he feels. Leave it at that and enjoy the fact he opened up to you. 1
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