Break up

[JoeP113]

So about 3 weeks ago, my ex gf broke up with me. I had gotten blacked out drunk and was very mean to her, called her a bitch and hoe and slammed the door on her for no reason. I admit I was very wrong and that is not the person I want to be so I have made it a commitment to never do that again. Point is when we broke up she said nothing could be done to fix it. I asked to talk to her again about a week later and this time we talked fine and even cracked a few jokes. She told me she had to think about it (getting back together) because she didn't know what she wanted to do and that she would tell me. My question is. It's been about 2 weeks since we have talked. Should I try once more to try to reach out or should I let her come talk to me

[Beautifultoknow]

I'd say you should reach out, I think two weeks is plenty. If you really want her, let her know. Don't give up, she'll think it's time to move on eventually. Do things to show her you want to be with her besides just asking. Just how I see it.

[Satu]

So about 3 weeks ago, my ex gf broke up with me. *I had gotten blacked out drunk and was very mean to her, called her a bitch and hoe and slammed the door on her for no reason. I admit I was very wrong and that is not the person I want to be so I have made it a commitment to never do that again. Point is when we broke up she said nothing could be done to fix it. I asked to talk to her again about a week later and this time we talked fine and even cracked a few jokes. She told me she had to think about it (getting back together) because she didn't know what she wanted to do and that she would tell me. My question is. It's been about 2 weeks since we have talked. Should I try once more to try to reach out or should I let her come talk to me

 

*This is the point were you morphed from being her boyfriend into her abuser.

 

Just leave her alone.

 

Address your drink problem.

[NolaLeForte]

Nobody wants to be that person, but you were. You said that you made a commitment to not do it again-but you were black out drunk when it happened. How can you make a promise if you weren’t even capable of reflecting on your own decisions at the time? She’s right-nothing can be done to fix that and frankly, I think she did the best thing by breaking up with you. If you’ve done this before, how can she know that it won’t happen again? Nobody deserves a relationship where the person they care about can just snap and turn on them at random.

 

If you want to reach out to her, that’s up to you, but I don’t think you should pursue a relationship or anything romantic until you’ve taken real steps to change. Things like this don’t just happen at random- I would bet that you have probably had a situation like this or similar in the past. If you care for her and want her back, perhaps you can use this as a jumping off point to make the bigger changes you need to make (like examining your drinking, your anger, and whatever else you happen to find).