ajaxlemon Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 Long story short, I fell for this guy at work and we got along well enough that I got it into my head that he'd be my "first." It turns out, though, we never got that far before things fell apart. It was weird between us for a while, but he started acting friendly again so I started responding in kind, and I try not to interpret what's going on as anything other than mere friendliness. Still, I think a part of me still hopes he still wants to be more than friends. So although there's another guy who's interested who I'm kind of interested in, I can't really "move on," per se, because I don't want anything that happens between me and another guy to be the reason nothing can ever happen between us. Besides, he's the sort of guy I know I can trust and really want to be the one to lose my virginity to, and I think this is the main issue here. I feel like as long as he seems like an option, I won't be able to let myself have any kind of relationship with another guy. Is this worth quitting my job over? If it helps, it's not even what most people consider a "real" job.
d0nnivain Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 Oh boy. You are putting the cart before the horse. Deciding to give away your virginity to a guy you are not even dating is backwards. Instead of picking that guy in advance, readjust your thinking. Find somebody you can fall in love with. After you fall in love, then & only then should you be thinking about having sex. If this guy hasn't pursued you to date, odds are he never will. Sorry. So unless you plan to die a virgin, give up on him & move forward in your life.
preraph Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 I agree with DOnnivain. He hasn't expressed any interest or asked you out, so you need to move on. Just date some guys and don't decide until you have been out a few times about sex.
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