jakej Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 I met a really attractive/cool girl at a party last weekend, we talked for about an hour I got her number and we made out for a little before she left with her friend and she seemed pretty into me. I told her I would call her about seeing her this weekend. thing is, Im out of town and will be getting back Thursday like 830-9 PM. and am leaving to go home for easter friday night. I want to get a drink with her at a quiet place, like 9-930 right when i get back thursday but Im afraid my flight will be delayed and I would have to potentially push the date back which may look bad... There is a chance I will see her out thursday night(we live in small town) and I don't want to run into her and her think I was blowing her off and id rather talk and get to know her other than a crowded bar setting. If I don't see her this weekend It maybe till the next weekend till I could see her and i want to get to know her as soon as possible before she just loses interest potentially. Any ideas on what I should do?
Empire87 Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 I met a really attractive/cool girl at a party last weekend, we talked for about an hour I got her number and we made out for a little before she left with her friend and she seemed pretty into me. I told her I would call her about seeing her this weekend. thing is, Im out of town and will be getting back Thursday like 830-9 PM. and am leaving to go home for easter friday night. I want to get a drink with her at a quiet place, like 9-930 right when i get back thursday but Im afraid my flight will be delayed and I would have to potentially push the date back which may look bad... There is a chance I will see her out thursday night(we live in small town) and I don't want to run into her and her think I was blowing her off and id rather talk and get to know her other than a crowded bar setting. If I don't see her this weekend It maybe till the next weekend till I could see her and i want to get to know her as soon as possible before she just loses interest potentially. Any ideas on what I should do? Send her a text that says "hey what's going on... I need your advice" she'll reply "I'm going to taking a flight back into town (or however you want to explain your traveling) and need to know whether or not I should hustle so I can make it out with everyone/my friends Thursday night or not. My decision will be heavily influenced on whether or not you will be out that night so I'd appreciate your thoughts." Then emoji the **** outta her. If you keep it light like that then it should give you the answer on if she'll be out that night. And also gives you the chance to say "if my flight ends up getting delayed or my uber driver kidnaps me, would you want to go out Friday night or are you heading home for Easter?" If she hooked up with you then she should say yes. Otherwise she's a weirdo.
Smoothman Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 Why not try...telling her this... Why tell us, on an anonymous forum, instead of communicating this to her directly?
Author jakej Posted March 22, 2016 Author Posted March 22, 2016 (edited) Send her a text that says "hey what's going on... I need your advice" she'll reply "I'm going to taking a flight back into town (or however you want to explain your traveling) and need to know whether or not I should hustle so I can make it out with everyone/my friends Thursday night or not. My decision will be heavily influenced on whether or not you will be out that night so I'd appreciate your thoughts." Then emoji the **** outta her. If you keep it light like that then it should give you the answer on if she'll be out that night. And also gives you the chance to say "if my flight ends up getting delayed or my uber driver kidnaps me, would you want to go out Friday night or are you heading home for Easter?" If she hooked up with you then she should say yes. Otherwise she's a weirdo. Im probably going out either way.. my question is would you think it would be rude to set up a date and potentially have to cancel? I was always told the guy should take charge for setting up the date but maybe I should ask her Edited March 22, 2016 by jakej spelling error
d0nnivain Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 Yes, I think it would be bad to schedule a date you probably can't make. Call her. Talk to her. During the conversation, discuss your complicated travel plans around the holiday & set something up for when you get back from Easter so you know you can make it. Send her a Happy Easter text on Sunday but don't go overboard.
Empire87 Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 Im probably going out either way.. my question is would you think it would be rude to set up a date and potentially have to cancel? I was always told the guy should take charge for setting up the date but maybe I should ask her If you're going out either way then that's even more reason to text her and see what her plans are. Unless you're confident she'll be there. If that's the case then just take the road of "oh hey, fancy seeing you here" and end up hooking up with her again. If you do see her out, don't ignore her. You don't have to run over to her, but make sure you at least say hello otherwise you're the a-hole who kissed her last week then acted like she didn't exist. If you like her, go talk to her and hopefully lead the convo into "you know I was gonna see if you wanted k do something Friday night but I wasn't sure if I'd be heading home for the weekend or not. You wanna grab dinner/movie/drinks next week after we're back?" If you don't see her at all, and don't ask her out for Friday, then at least send her a text over the weekend or course of the next few days. Keep the line of communication open. Since you haven't texted or seen her since the hook up, then you're not the clingy desperate guy. Don't worry about being too forward. You've passed the window of texting too much to fast after 3 days. If you send a casual "Easter bunny bring you any treats?" Text, it'll place you in her mind while she's surely going to be around family or bored at home away from school. That's when you can slide in for plans when you get back to school. If you just want her as a booty call, then have a dorm hang out the next time. Netflix and chill bruh.
Author jakej Posted March 22, 2016 Author Posted March 22, 2016 If you're going out either way then that's even more reason to text her and see what her plans are. Unless you're confident she'll be there. If that's the case then just take the road of "oh hey, fancy seeing you here" and end up hooking up with her again. If you do see her out, don't ignore her. You don't have to run over to her, but make sure you at least say hello otherwise you're the a-hole who kissed her last week then acted like she didn't exist. If you like her, go talk to her and hopefully lead the convo into "you know I was gonna see if you wanted k do something Friday night but I wasn't sure if I'd be heading home for the weekend or not. You wanna grab dinner/movie/drinks next week after we're back?" If you don't see her at all, and don't ask her out for Friday, then at least send her a text over the weekend or course of the next few days. Keep the line of communication open. Since you haven't texted or seen her since the hook up, then you're not the clingy desperate guy. Don't worry about being too forward. You've passed the window of texting too much to fast after 3 days. If you send a casual "Easter bunny bring you any treats?" Text, it'll place you in her mind while she's surely going to be around family or bored at home away from school. That's when you can slide in for plans when you get back to school. If you just want her as a booty call, then have a dorm hang out the next time. Netflix and chill bruh. yea maybe a "hey what are your plans Thursday " and ask her out for drinks if i see her but if she's busy just try to set something up for the week after?
Empire87 Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 yea maybe a "hey what are your plans Thursday " and ask her out for drinks if i see her but if she's busy just try to set something up for the week after? Don't just come out and ask her what her plans are for Thursday. You want to send something that guarantees you a response. If you just send "what are you doing Thursday" then you've shown your cards immediately and she can choose to ignore or not reply for a while because she's either busy or not impressed by the bluntness after not hearing from you all week. Is there anything that happened the last time you saw her that you can think of that would make her laugh or smile or sarcastic? Like an inside joke you had with her that night or something that happened? I like to use something like that in a way to get her to immediately revert to the good time she had with you last week. Once you do that, you can get into the "what's up, any plans for thurs/fri or whatever you're trying to do". Don't make it that complicated. She's not your gf, you're not her BF. Is she the type of girl who is pretty simple to engage with or is she a lot of work to impress and a little out of your league? If you hooked up with her at a bar then my guess would be you have the upper hand. I have the personality where I could ask "hey, schedule you in for a drink and make out session Thursday night or do I have to wait until after Jesus's resurrection anniversary for that? ;)" Granted I'm a bit of a ___ and it might not work for everyone but you can be the judge of that if you need a random idea lol.
Author jakej Posted March 22, 2016 Author Posted March 22, 2016 yea maybe best to go for the following week to avoid any busted plans.. my only concern is keeping interest until then, which would have been almost two weeks after I met her
Empire87 Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 yea maybe best to go for the following week to avoid any busted plans.. my only concern is keeping interest until then, which would have been almost two weeks after I met her What's holding you back from just sending a basic chit chat text? You don't even have to ask her out or see what she's doing... Just re ignite or try to re ignite the line of communication. It's a holiday weekend... Take it as an opportunity. Everyone goes home and does the family/neighborhood gig for a couple days... Give her something to look forward to for next week. You/her use snapchat? Send her something that'll make her laugh or think you're clever/cute. (Don't send her selfies or dick picks lol). If she ordered a girly drink like vodka cranberry last week at the bar, snap a shot of a vodka cranberry with the caption "being forced to drink this... Thought of you " If you don't make it seem like the 2 weeks that have gone by were a bad move on your part, then she won't use it against you. If she gets at you and says something like "look who it is... Must be a busy guy huh" then give it right back to her "sooo busy! Probly why you should schedule some time to hang out with me now..." Again... If it's your personality then pull it off. If you're not as forward or casual, just say what feels natural. Important thing is to not think you have to impress her or work around her schedule.. Chick hooked up with you the first time you met her, you can dictate the direction of the convo.
d0nnivain Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 yea maybe best to go for the following week to avoid any busted plans.. my only concern is keeping interest until then, which would have been almost two weeks after I met her Two weeks over a holiday weekend is not forever. Do have at least one phone conversation & a text in between but calm down.
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