jashash Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 I am so upset, this friend from church is having a wedding and they have deleted me from Facebook and they only way I found out she was engaged was by a mutual friend. So I am pretty sure I wont be invited to the wedding even though this is someone I have known for years from church. And I just want to know why I wasn’t invited, and I suspect it may be because of a falling out I had with her sister where she yelled at me for wanting to crash this other mutual friends wedding a few years ago. Would it be rude to just ask why I wasn’t invited and make sure it wasn’t because of this and she hates me? When she deleted me and I asked why ( this was after the thing with the wedding happened) she said everything was fine and she was only keeping people she talks to regularly. I just want to make sure I wasn’t not invited because of her sister being upset about me wanting to crash this other person s wedding. Her sister and the former bride are trying to ruin my life and turn everyone I know against me and make sure everyone I know knows about how i wanted to crash that wedding years ago. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 Yes it would be rude of you to ask. Everything these people are doing is screaming that they no longer want you in their lives. Stop trying to maintain a friendship. The sister & the bride from the wedding you wanted to crash seem like drama queens. Your life will be better & more peaceful without them in it. Pray for grace & wisdom on your own behalf. Then move on. Make new friends. Also weddings are VERY expensive. If this bride /friend doesn't think enough of your relationship to put in the effort to maintain a FB friendship with you, there si no way she would invite you to her wedding. The fact that you are shocked that she didn't invite you baffles me. 4
Mr Carson Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 Maybe you should get some personal counseling from your Pastor. Also it's no big deal about FB, I would suggest...letting it go? 3
No Limit Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 These people don't want you around. You should turn your back on them as well instead of wondering about the why's when they don't matter anyway. 3
MissBee Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 I am so upset, this friend from church is having a wedding and they have deleted me from Facebook and they only way I found out she was engaged was by a mutual friend. So I am pretty sure I wont be invited to the wedding even though this is someone I have known for years from church. And I just want to know why I wasn’t invited, and I suspect it may be because of a falling out I had with her sister where she yelled at me for wanting to crash this other mutual friends wedding a few years ago. Would it be rude to just ask why I wasn’t invited and make sure it wasn’t because of this and she hates me? When she deleted me and I asked why ( this was after the thing with the wedding happened) she said everything was fine and she was only keeping people she talks to regularly. I just want to make sure I wasn’t not invited because of her sister being upset about me wanting to crash this other person s wedding. Her sister and the former bride are trying to ruin my life and turn everyone I know against me and make sure everyone I know knows about how i wanted to crash that wedding years ago. Does it matter why you weren't invited? I think you should leave it alone. You weren't invited. She deleted you off FB saying she only keeps people she talks to regularly, that means she doesn't talk to you regularly so you're actually acquaintances and not "friends." Even if she stopped speaking with you because of that whole thing with the last wedding, that's her right. Your life is not "ruined" because she isn't inviting you to her wedding. It's very childish this whole thing. If you were really good friends you would have been invited and the sister and former bride couldn't force her to not invite you or delete you...so if she didn't invite you and unfriended you it's because your friendship doesn't mean much to her and that's fine. Leave it be. You wanted to crash one wedding you weren't invited to now you're gonna make more drama over another wedding you aren't invited to...people will start seeing this as a pattern and you'll be the one who seems loony for it. Gracefully leave it alone, stop trying to be friends with these people, don't pursue them for answers and keep it moving. 5
Author jashash Posted March 21, 2016 Author Posted March 21, 2016 I am so upset, a friend from church blocked me and I don't know why. All I know is it happened after he tagged everyone that was at this church event I went to except me saying if youre not here youre missing out, to which I commented I was there and the next thing I know he blocked me wth?? And this is a leader in my small group too! I just asked him at church if I had done anything to offend him because I noticed he blocked me and he said no so I was like why did you block me and he said some of my comments were unnecessary and said dont worry about it when I started to ask what comments. ( I only made one comment saying I was there to the post where he tagged everyone except me) Then this girl I was talking to about it said you need to not be offended or upset that he tagged everyone but you or that he blocked you and maybe thats the reason people dont tag me or include me because I get upset when they exclude me and they are tired of me acting like I think they are rejecting and excluding me , well maybe if you didnt reject and exclude me all the time I wouldn't be upset or think youre excluding me 1
basil67 Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 Strong sense of deja va here - you are an old poster with a new name, yes? Yes, it would be very rude of you to ask why you're not invited. Given that you wanted to crash someone's wedding, I'm guessing that you have a history of poor decision making and this is why the don't want anything to do with you. If you are the existing poster I am thinking of, yes, it's time to change churches. Make a new start. 2
basil67 Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 he blocked you and maybe thats the reason people dont tag me or include me because I get upset when they exclude me and they are tired of me acting like I think they are rejecting and excluding me , well maybe if you didnt reject and exclude me all the time I wouldn't be upset or think youre excluding me Ah, finally someone who is giving you insight. Hooray for honest people. Here's the thing, people aren't obliged to invite you to events - and getting upset or offended will only make you seem high maintenance and further strengthen their dislike of you. Fact is, not everyone around us wants to be a friend. And if those people don't want to be friends, we shouldn't make a fuss - we should go and find other friends. Lastly, if you gave the quoted defensive reply to the honest friend, it's likely that you've just shot the messenger and she will stop helping. It's always better to reflect on our behaviour than to go on the defensive. 1
Satu Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 You can't make someone be your friend, and you can't make them want to invite you to things. These are the wrong people for you, and you are the wrong person for them. Give it up. Find a new church.
Bobbi7 Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 Sorry, just cut your losses and try to make some new friends.
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