Melrapuo Posted March 21, 2016 Posted March 21, 2016 After our break up, my ex (in her normal fashion) ended up dating someone new within a few months. More power to her. However, I did notice (before I ended up blocking her on social media completely) that she had posted pics of herself and the new SO at a location that I introduced her to. Keep in mind, this all happened many years ago, but it popped back in my head again. I'll never know why she chose to do so (it's like an outdoor garden/reserve place, so it's fairly unique. Not a local bar or anything), but it did bug me. Does this happen often? Have any of your ex's taken other SO's to spots you thought were more special to just the two of you? I'm asking so, if it does happen in the future, I stop feeling so bothered by it lol
Jim nine three Posted March 21, 2016 Posted March 21, 2016 Each person deals with this stuff differently i guess,but I once heard that the best way to erase old memories tied to a place is to create new ones.Maybe that's what she had in mind,maybe not,who knows?
Mrlonelyone Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 This happens. I had an ex invite me to go skiing, a plan made a year in advance. Then she dropped me for another guy. When it became clear I was tired of her games she took him. It was like whoever it was didn't matter as long as she got to do what she wanted. This is a common thing, especially if you live in the same city long enough. There are only so many date spots.
The_Dork_Lard Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 After our breakup, my ex actively went to pick up men at the place we met over 6 years prior, the place we kept visiting as a couple. I'm very sure she likely still does, but I've been avoiding it for months so as not to bump into her. That would have been hell, and would still be quite crushing. That REALLY hurt, and took away all feelings that I, or 'we', might have been special.
ShootingStarlet Posted March 28, 2016 Posted March 28, 2016 I think in a weird way it's a compliment, my ex boyfriends brought me places, I usually never liked the places because my exs would just bring me to places they liked and would try and get me into their music/hobbies whatever...but my recent ex introduced me to reggae and I still go to the places he brought me to, but I also am not over him so going those places sometimes makes me feel happily nostalgic, but I think if I had a new boyfriend, I would bring him to those places but it would only be trying to recreate the memory I had and enjoyed with my ex which doesn't ever work. Maybe she really liked your memory there or maybe just liked the place, in a weird way, be flattered
Author Melrapuo Posted March 30, 2016 Author Posted March 30, 2016 I think in a weird way it's a compliment, my ex boyfriends brought me places, I usually never liked the places because my exs would just bring me to places they liked and would try and get me into their music/hobbies whatever...but my recent ex introduced me to reggae and I still go to the places he brought me to, but I also am not over him so going those places sometimes makes me feel happily nostalgic, but I think if I had a new boyfriend, I would bring him to those places but it would only be trying to recreate the memory I had and enjoyed with my ex which doesn't ever work. Maybe she really liked your memory there or maybe just liked the place, in a weird way, be flattered Hmm...well we dated for a couple years the first time, and then again a few years later. Each time after the break up, I had found out she took the new guy to places we went to right when we started dating. So your idea seems plausible. I like the idea of being flattered by it, though. It's a much more positive outlook. Thanks for that
SoThatHappened Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 My ex took her tub-o-lard new fling snowboarding (where we had been the year prior). She posted that "snowboarding is another thing they have in common." Funny thing... she didn't snowboard when I went with her because she was horrible at it. She skiied when we were together. Sort of like she was trying to force something there. Plus, I'm a pretty damn good snowboarder. Very few could keep up with me and she knew it. Take it as a compliment because that's probably the best way to take it. But, most importantly, don't let it get to you and just try to move on.
CDJ Posted April 4, 2016 Posted April 4, 2016 I've done it, for the reasons alluded to above - to replace bad memories. Because my ex treated me so badly in the end, all memories of her had become tainted; but I couldn't just erase them, so I thought about replacing them instead with new dates - dinners at the same restaurants, visits to the same museums, etc. Didn't work, though!
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