Author xyz1234 Posted March 31, 2016 Author Posted March 31, 2016 Then she finally got up and groggily made her way to her bedroom. She saw me grab my phone and asks "are you seriously going home right now?" in a kind of upset tone. I said no, thinking I might as well stay since I was exhausted and not up for driving. So we went to bed but nothing physical was about to happen with both of us totally exhausted. I don't see how "groggily made her way to her bedroom" is in anyway the same as "take me to bed and then to heaven big boy". She'd already fallen asleep once and so from there it's clear the late night/alcohol combination was in charge from there on. I do agree, I would've gone for the kiss and cuddle at least, so on that we agree on, but if both parties were "totally exhausted" then the signals were not good for anything to happen at that point. EXACTLY. I guess I could have tried to kiss/cuddle but it seriously did not even seem like she'd be that receptive in her state, if she was even awake at all past the time her head hit the pillow. Seriously--if I had to get up early for something that I had to do, I'd have begged off of spending the night until such a time that I could be there all night long, not be knackered and give him the time of his young life. Also, if she'd fallen asleep on me to the point where shaking her wouldn't have awakened her, I'd have either left her a note and left to go home or sent a text once I got home. I thought of leaving her a note but I thought that will still come off as kind of rude. I also did try to beg off spending the night until such a time that I could be there all night long, but at the same time I knew that could make her feel rejected and that there may not be a next time. It's messed up that I tried so hard to avoid her feeling rejected and that's apparently exactly how she felt. Fair enough... however he went on to say how tired HE was, how HE needed his sleep, and how HE made it a point to sleep separated from her because that is how HE needs to sleep. She, on the other hand, had just woken up and may have been raring to go! All we have is the OP's word that she was also exhausted.... but frankly given everything he wrote after he made that comment.... I have to wonder whether it was true or simply him projecting because that is how HE felt. Yeah, I made the point that I needed sleep because I had just laid on a couch for 5 hours wide awake while she slept, haha. And no, she was not raring to go. I've seen her that way on two occasions in my car and it's VERY clear. Hang on so he turns up at her request. She ignores him for hours and leaves him to entertain himself, going to sleep herself and basically being very rude... Then because he hangs about waiting for her to the point where he is shattered and really needs some sleep that is HIS fault? I repeat OP. You have not lost anything here. Let sleeping exes lie. Thanks, it makes me feel a little better that not everyone totally blames me, haha. I totally do think she felt awkward for her own somewhat valid reasons, but it was all a product of circumstances and she was the one who set off the chain of events by passing out first. I mean, inviting someone over to pass out for 5 hours and THEN have sex isn't the usual plan.
Author xyz1234 Posted March 31, 2016 Author Posted March 31, 2016 Nevermind I just read OP again and he said she was sleeping for four hours. I am with kendahke now.... I would have left her a note and just left! I now agree with smudge.... they were both at fault. Next! Yeah, there is no way she was pretending. She was literally snoring for parts of the time, it was not flattering at all haha. It's possible that it started out as her pretending, but I don't think that was the case. Well its sure as s*** isn't a budding relationship that is for sure. Never mind who is at "fault" how about helping the OP out a bit and encouraging him to get up and leave if it happens again. And here are some handy tips for getting over what you thought you had but actually really didn't... Why does everything have to descend into a bashing session round here? Thanks for the support! Is getting up and leaving really the right move in that case though? Am I totally wrong in thinking that a lot of women would be upset to find that their date was impatient and just left them? I still think OP should've tested the water a bit, but in the moment, you just don't know how you're going to react. I had an awkward date once where the girl fell asleep - the temptation to see boob was strong, but this was before camera phones so there'd be no point. I woke her and drove her home. Yeah could've been an act, but at the time you just don't know. I stand by my point that during those initial dates, I would never have sex with someone who's had a lot of alcohol. Just too risky these days. Either way, there'll always be regret when an opportunity for some hanky panky has been missed, but in reality, maybe it was never going to happen anyway. Not everyone's into sausage... Hahaha you have a way with words man! But yeah, I agree. And I had no idea she was even that drunk until we got back to her place. As far as not being into sausage... that doesn't seem to be the case since she was grabbing it in my car haha.
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