CasualDude10 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 So I went on this date with this girl that was really cool/interesting. I picked her up, we went to eat, I paid, and I took her home. She thanked me for the date and said she had a good time and it was nice meeting me. Its been a couple hours now and I am used to girls texting me after the date telling me they had a good time. She hasn't. So should I text her or wait for her to text me? She showed strong interest in me during the date, and I want to keep her interest there. I do not want to come off as needy by texting her. What do you all think? (PS, we never text besides the first time we talked to each other and to setup the date)
d0nnivain Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 I think it would be OK for you to wait 24 hours & then call her. Although CW says interested women should send a TY text, not everyone subscribes to that. 2
lifeis Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 You should text her. She's probably waiting for you to.
ThisisIt606 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 Text her. I love when a guy texts me after the first date! It shows he interested, if she's truly interested she will be happy you did and you can start planning another date
czanclus Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 Text her tomorrow. Let her (and yourself) sleep on it. Think up some possible fun things to do during the weekend that you could invite her to. Keep the weekend date brief and casual. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 My advice for what it's worth, is always go for a first date kiss IF a woman is reciprocating your interest. It's the best way in the moment to know that you're both on the same page. Since you got a "nice to meet you" at the end of a date, that could potentially be a blow off. Especially when you didn't act on what you're saying were pretty strong signals. With that said, I've never relied on a "thank you" text to tell me if a woman is interested in seeing me again. In fact, the majority of women I've had second dates with and beyond never sent me one. But I asked them out again because we had an enjoyable kiss and it seemed like common sense. So not getting a thank you text doesn't mean anything. If you want to see her again, send her a quick follow up text tomorrow saying "Had a great time! We should do it again". Then if she responds, take that as interest and call her to set up another date. It's that simple. 2
PacMann87 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 Usually if I'm the one who set up the date, picked her up, paid, etc then I look for the girl to send a "had a nice time thanks" text within the next 24 hours. So if I were you I'd give it until tomorrow afternoon/night before you reach out to her. If it gets to that point, and you do end up texting her, keep it light. Don't make it sound like your insulted. "So I was hoping I'd get the "had fun tonight thanks, you're cute" text at some point, but I guess I'm not that charmin ;)" ... Something like that which teases her a little bit and shows her that she'll need to initiate a little bit if she wants this to continue going forward
Author CasualDude10 Posted March 4, 2016 Author Posted March 4, 2016 Yah I am just being cautious because I was wondering why all the relationships I never had turned out bad, so I read Corey Waynes book to find out what I thought girls wanted, came off as too needy. Even though I am not. So yah I am just being cautious.
brokengirl85 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 Please, text her. Sorry donnivan, but do not call the girl. A call out if nowhere is intrusive and you migh bother her, she may be busy and take your call as too straightforward. Text her and invite her for another date. You can start calling her after a second date. Good luck!! 3
PacMann87 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 Please, text her. Sorry donnivan, but do not call the girl. A call out if nowhere is intrusive and you migh bother her, she may be busy and take your call as too straightforward. Text her and invite her for another date. You can start calling her after a second date. Good luck!! Not sure why you feel so strongly about phone calls. You realize that texting hasn't always existed and been used in dating right? Before texting, people were forced to have conversations over the phone and deal with things directly. I think if anything, you are against phone calls because it puts you on the spot when you're the type of girl that needs time to think about her response and weigh your options. That's not necessarily a good thing. He can find out her emotional interest, excitement, and attitude towards him in one 5 minute phone call better than he could texting her for 5 days. 1
Mrin Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 Call or text. Either way as the pursuer the ball is in your court. She's waiting to hear from you.
d0nnivain Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 Please, text her. Sorry donnivan, but do not call the girl. A call out if nowhere is intrusive and you migh bother her, she may be busy and take your call as too straightforward. ! Different strokes. To me people who text are too chicken to call. They are people who need to hide behind a device because they don't have the social skills needed to interact on an interpersonal level. I know my viewpoint is in the minority so you probably more in touch with the times, brokengirl, but me personally I HATE texting. It should be left for quick messages like "please pick up milk," and "I can't find you in this crowd". In the end though OP we're all telling you the same thing: stop over analyzing & reach out.
Lois_Griffin Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 Not sure why you feel so strongly about phone calls. You realize that texting hasn't always existed and been used in dating right? Before texting, people were forced to have conversations over the phone and deal with things directly. LOL, right? Youngin's today have ZERO social skills because they can hide behind texting and social networking rather than having to actually interact with other people on a HUMAN level. Pitiful. 3
smudge21 Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 Definitely 100% without any doubt text her... the fact you've come here, made the effort to open up this webpage, log in, start a thread, all to ask whether you should spend 10 seconds sending a nice text to someone who enjoyed your company... well that says you are clearly wanting to communicate rather than wait around. Which is worse, sitting around wondering and beating yourself up not knowing, or sending a text? Even if there's no reply, at least you tried. 3
katiegrl Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 So I went on this date with this girl that was really cool/interesting. I picked her up, we went to eat, I paid, and I took her home. She thanked me for the date and said she had a good time and it was nice meeting me. Its been a couple hours now and I am used to girls texting me after the date telling me they had a good time. She hasn't. So should I text her or wait for her to text me? She showed strong interest in me during the date, and I want to keep her interest there. I do not want to come off as needy by texting her. What do you all think? (PS, we never text besides the first time we talked to each other and to setup the date) She *already* thanked you for the date and said she had a good time. Do you expect her to text you and thank you again? Text her and ask her out. If she responds, saying yes, great. If not, move on. 2
katiegrl Posted March 4, 2016 Posted March 4, 2016 (edited) I met a guy (IRL not on line) and we have our first date Saturday. We have been *e-mailing* (not texting) a bit this week, and I am loving that!!! Way way more than a phone call! When I am working and see an email pop up, my heart beats, I'm excited to hear from him.. I am busy at work, so respond back when I can. It has been really fun! And he has been very engaging, as have I. He is extremely gregarious and has fabulous social skills....so whoever said texting/emailing = lack of social skills is WAY off. Anyway, I cannot stress enough how much I am enjoying that, again much more so than a phone call. To each his own though. Edited March 4, 2016 by katiegrl
Author CasualDude10 Posted March 19, 2016 Author Posted March 19, 2016 Been reading about listening to coach Corey Wayne, and his methid is to kiss on the first date. Well, its been two dates and we still have not kissed. The first date was lunch and to get to know each other and she loved it. Second date was dinner, went to a different place for desert, and then we went back to my house and watched a movie and had some drinks. She shows interest in me by laughing at everything I say, even when it is not funny at all. We hug when we first see each other and were "cuddling" during the movie. Complimenting me on the way I have been asking her out and the mannerism I have been showing (basically the way I have been going about things by not blowing her phone up everyday and calling her to setup dates, etc. like corey wayne teaches). So I am pretty sure she has a decent level of attraction to me. I am mad at myself for still not kissing her. I planned on doing it at the end of the date, but she went for the hug. Basically what I am asking, is this normal?
mrldii Posted March 19, 2016 Posted March 19, 2016 ...Basically what I am asking, is this normal? It's absolutely normal, IF what you're interested in is getting to know her and allowing a relationship to develop with her naturally, which includes allowing HER to feel comfortable with its pace, too. Completely abnormal according to Corey Wayne; you should have already had her in and out of your bed half-way through the first date and should have been having sex with both of her sisters during "desert" on your second date with her. What type of success are you looking for...the type that actually involves a woman or the type that sells more Corey Wayne podcasts? 2
Author CasualDude10 Posted March 19, 2016 Author Posted March 19, 2016 It's absolutely normal, IF what you're interested in is getting to know her and allowing a relationship to develop with her naturally, which includes allowing HER to feel comfortable with its pace, too. Completely abnormal according to Corey Wayne; you should have already had her in and out of your bed half-way through the first date and should have been having sex with both of her sisters during "desert" on your second date with her. What type of success are you looking for...the type that actually involves a woman or the type that sells more Corey Wayne podcasts? I am trying to develop a relationship with her honestly, but I do not want to come off as shy or nervous because I have not made the move yet.
mrldii Posted March 19, 2016 Posted March 19, 2016 According to you, OP, she's been "complimenting me on the way I have been asking her out and the mannerism I have been showing..." so, what's the problem...since you've heard from her own two lips she likes the way you're handling yourself/her/your budding relationship. Why do you not believe her/think she's lying?
fitnessfan365 Posted March 19, 2016 Posted March 19, 2016 I do find it ironic that you claim to be a fan of CCW when you planned a lunch date. What's one of his main rules? Only plan dates at night, Lunches are for friends. But the main problem is that you're trying too hard to be like someone else. CCW's advice works for him because he's had years of trial and error and it's part of who he is. So it's authentic. But when you try to be something you're not, all it does is make you seem like you lack confidence, and that you are inexperienced/insecure. I mean deep down you know you aren't ready to kiss this girl yet. So why would you invite her back to your place? Instead, imagine if you'd waited for a later date after you'd already made out? Then there's natural energy and it flows. Does CCW give some good advice? Yes. But in the end, don't plan your dating life around someone else's rules. Be yourself, and use various things you learn that you're comfortable with. 1
Author CasualDude10 Posted March 19, 2016 Author Posted March 19, 2016 Ditch her mate and move on. why exactly should i "ditch her"
SSM3 Posted March 19, 2016 Posted March 19, 2016 why exactly should i "ditch her" Because I have recently been involved with someone who didn't kiss after our 2nd date, 3rd or 4th. She wasn't in to me.
elaine567 Posted March 19, 2016 Posted March 19, 2016 Because I have recently been involved with someone who didn't kiss after our 2nd date, 3rd or 4th. She wasn't in to me. ...and. There is nothing to suggest the girl here isn't into the OP. 1
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