Metty Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 I have grown up with two of my closest friends who knows me inside out but of course we all have changed as growing up, yet we always sticked together. I'm very outgoing and loves to do stuff so I always ask them to come do this and that with me but during the past months I've been turned down a lot, I would almost say all the time yet I kept asking and asking because I would love to spend time with them. They started getting closer to each other, started hanging out with two other people instead and never inviting me. At one point I almost felt like they were turning against me because of the way they acted towards me like if I said something bold or snapped they would give each other this look. One of them even said she had no use of me anymore because for some reason she was not happy with me. However we got through it but I won't forget it.. She is very jealous when it comes to me and the other friend because we used to be really close and well now they are. It's almost ridiculous how jealous she gets sometimes, it's no fun. When I'm with each of them alone it's okay but not with the two of them at the same time. I definitely know that they have formed a closer friendship and left me out and I'm okay with it but not the whole jealous/being mean thing. It's like a rollercoaster because I never know where I have them! The recent thing that bother me though was that here I've been asking them to hang out and keep getting turned down but when their two other friends does they accept it? Like recently I did and I got a "we have already made a lot of plans with them." So they couldn't make it. It just makes me feel like why should I invest time in people who don't invest time in me? I have pointed it out and always get to hear "we should totally start doing things" but it never happens. I have started hanging out more with my other friends because it makes me happier instead of dealing with the jealousy negativity and my other friends actually ask me to hang out. It's just that I feel hurt and angry. I don't know what to do with these two? I miss my old friend who I used to be close with but now it's so different. I'm trying to make this friendship of three work but I feel like giving up.
stillafool Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 You should give up on trying to make the friendship of 3 work. Why should you invest your time with people who obviously don't want to invest in you? Stop it. You have other friends just start hanging out more with them. If your friend is interested in hanging out let her call you. Stop chasing after them. You shouldn't have to beg people to be your friend. They have to want to naturally. How old are you guys?
Author Metty Posted March 20, 2016 Author Posted March 20, 2016 You should give up on trying to make the friendship of 3 work. Why should you invest your time with people who obviously don't want to invest in you? Stop it. You have other friends just start hanging out more with them. If your friend is interested in hanging out let her call you. Stop chasing after them. You shouldn't have to beg people to be your friend. They have to want to naturally. How old are you guys? We are nineteen years old. That is very much true. They text me though, more than they hang out with me so it kind of gives me hope. It's almost like when you like a guy and he texts you and flirt with you but never takes you out on a date, do you get my point? Maybe I'm just blind since we've been friends since five years old.
preraph Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 You should just be looking for new friends so that you can more easily leave them behind.
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