Woon Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 Hello all! As the title suggests, my ex fiance wants to see me face to face in 2 weeks. Asked 3days if i would be available to see her the weekend of the 1st. I hesistantly asked why and she just responded with "i just want to see you". I agreed and that was that. Been alot more chatty since, always initiating contact. Never talking about the meet or relationship, always just something along the lines of music that she heard that she knows i would like etc. Dont really know what to expect, since she is dating someone (guy looks old enough to be her dad). Shes not the type of girl who would want to "catch up", especially face to facd We were together for a long time, 3years and would have gotten married end april. So anyone thinks she wants to reconcile and is just checking to see if im up for it?
elaine567 Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 So anyone thinks she wants to reconcile and is just checking to see if im up for it? Maybe. I am guessing here, she broke up with you? Perhaps she and he are getting married/moving in together/pregnant even and she wants to speak to you face to face, before someone else tells you... Just a thought.
Author Woon Posted March 20, 2016 Author Posted March 20, 2016 Maybe. I am guessing here, she broke up with you? Perhaps she and he are getting married/moving in together/pregnant even and she wants to speak to you face to face, before someone else tells you... Just a thought. Luckily not. I jokingly asked if it was something like that and she just said "Nope, just want to see you" She left me yes. Was a tough time. She got a high profile job and was working towards a promotion and i got a very good job offer an 1h30m away from home.
elaine567 Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 Luckily not. I jokingly asked if it was something like that and she just said "Nope, just want to see you" Phew! Glad to hear that. Good luck with the meeting.
greenleaves54 Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 Meeting her while she's still dating someone else? I'm not sure... But if you're mentally ready to meet her, whatever her reason for meeting is, then sure. I guess one has to take some chances sometimes. The alternative is telling her: "Sorry, I don't think friendship is a good idea.". If she really wants to reconcile, that will force her to make a better move than just "I just want to see you". Either way, good luck and keep us updated
Author Woon Posted March 22, 2016 Author Posted March 22, 2016 Quick update: texting alot the whole day, generally joking around and laughing. Till the big one dropped... Of monsters and Men, a band we both like quite alot, is playing that weekend about 3hrs drive from where i live. So she said shes thinking that we should go see that, since bands like that dont come here often. That would turn a 1hr meet into a 3day trip, sharing a bed again etc etc. Will see if she actually decides to do that though. IF she does, then im all but convinced she wants to reconcile. Since who the hell wants to do something special and spend 3days with an ex they dont feel anything for anymore?
Author Woon Posted March 22, 2016 Author Posted March 22, 2016 Do you want her back? I would like to get to know her again, yes. To see if shes still the girl i asked to marry me. The breakup was rough on us both, but for me atleast, it made me a much better/stronger person. Its been a year since we last physically saw each other, so alot has changed since then. She invited me on facebook a few months back when she heard i was seeing someone else and weve talked a bit every now and again since then. Its just the last week where weve been talking daily again.
Author Woon Posted March 23, 2016 Author Posted March 23, 2016 Been having alot of second thoughts today, if this is actually a good idea. Brought up alot of bad memories from just before and after the breakup. Im successful and happy without her in my life, so i know i dont NEED her in my life. Just not sure if i WANT her and all the memories with it back in my life.
Standard-Fare Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 We don't have the full context here, or at least I don't, but on its face this sounds like a terrible idea. She's your ex FIANCEE. You were on the brink of entering into a very serious commitment with each other, a lifelong marriage, but then you didn't -- presumably for valid reasons. That wasn't a light decision, it was a big f*cking deal. And there's no turning back from that. You can't pretend to be just "buddies." Maybe a friendship can develop in the future, but less than a year into the breakup, this is GUARANTEED to stir up lots of emotions, second-guesses, and confusion. Especially since both of you are involved in other relationships right now. Don't play with fire, dude. Politely decline the meetup, and while you're at it, stop with all the texting and communication - it's not healthy to do that with your ex-fiancee and pretend like it's just this casual, normal thing.
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