Ordinaryday Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 Hi guys, one week ago I matched with a girl on Tinder. we seemed to really hit it off, we are both movie buffs, same taste in music, etc. after only an hour chatting on tinder she asks for my mobile phone number and we start texting each other. we have been texting each other every day and sending selfies etc. she says she cant wait to meet me. we arranged a date for yesyerday to Meet at a cafe in the city. anyway a few hours before the meeting she texts mw saying that she has a stomach ache and cant make it so the date is off. I figure this is her indirect way of saying she is not interested so I dont reply. anyway a few hours later she texts me again saying she hopes I am not mad at her and she really wants to see me so can we do it today instead. I give her the benefit of the doubt and agree to meet her today. she even texts me saying even if her tummy is still sore she will meet me and just deal with it cos she really wants to meet me she says. So I arrive at the date today and she just doesn't show up. I text her telling her I am there and when will I see her and she doesnt respond. I figure I have been stood up and leave. Anyway two hours later I get a text from her apologizing profusely and saying she took medicine and sleeping pills and fell asleep and missed the date cos she just woke up and that she is ashamed. to be blunt I dont believe her. I think if she really wanted to see me she would have been there. my question is is it more common in dating for people like this ti just be really unreliable at meeting up or is it more likely she is messing me around deliberately as a joke if aome kind? I havent responded to her last text and if she never messages me again I will forget her. but if she does message me again saying she is legit and really sorry and asks for another chance how should I respond? I feel like she has wasted my time and I think she is messing with me but I accept the small possibility she could be genuine. has anything like this ever happened to anyone here? what should I do?
basil67 Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 You've generously given her a second chance and she blew it. Delete and block. 3
loveiswar101 Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 How much rope can you give her? Let it go my friend, invest your time elsewhere.
insert_name Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 Not turning up on time (or at all) for a date is the ultimate disrespect. Unless you hate yourself there is no other option on the table than to erase any sign of her existence from your life and move on. I would even be tempted to send her some choice words as I did so, but that is just me.
Empire87 Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 She's a flake. If she texts you again then tell her that while you were looking forward to meeting her, you aren't going to put any more effort into arranging a date/get together after she stood you up with no valid explanation or prior warning that she might not make it. You can tell her that if she does want to meet you and hang out then you'll be at ____ with a couple of friends this Friday and she can come there if she'd like. Don't go out of your way to see or talk to her at this point. She's flaked, stood you up, and told you she takes sleeping pills and blacks out for hours at a time. Not exactly Mrs. Wonderful if you ask me 1
PogoStick Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 I would try telling her " I consider blowjobs to be the most sincere form of apology." You have nothing to lose, so sexualize intensely and see if you can land a hookup. 1
red.velvet Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 She's a flake. If she texts you again then tell her that while you were looking forward to meeting her, you aren't going to put any more effort into arranging a date/get together after she stood you up with no valid explanation or prior warning that she might not make it. You can tell her that if she does want to meet you and hang out then you'll be at ____ with a couple of friends this Friday and she can come there if she'd like. Don't go out of your way to see or talk to her at this point. She's flaked, stood you up, and told you she takes sleeping pills and blacks out for hours at a time. Not exactly Mrs. Wonderful if you ask me This Don't go out of your way. If she really really wants to meet you then she can find you wherever you will be.
Mrs.Dee Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 (edited) I would say she might actually be telling the truth. People actually get sick, and if you want to give a good impression to someone on a first date, you don't wanna feel and look like ****. I also think you sound very demanding. If I got sick and had to cancel a date, and the guy expected me to fall to my knees and be very sorry about it, that would actually be a red flag for me. I would have made a new appointment with her, a few days from now so she has time enought to get well. But if she continues to not show up, drop her. Edited March 20, 2016 by Mrs.Dee 1
okc85 Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 Eesh...you think she would really make up such an extensive lie? Ha-ha I dunno. People do get sick... 1
justanickname Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 In my country, we have the idiom "not over three". You gave her two times already, why not try the last shot? However, as Mrs.Dee said, you seem a bit demanding, and it sounds not a good start with that though.
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