AgainstAllOdds1 Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 (edited) This is sort-of a two-parter, but hopefully you can help me out. Part 1: Through my job, I had the opportunity to meet a minor celebrity. We got to talking and realized we shared mutual friends. She is one of the most gorgeous women I have ever met, but she gave me her number and said that the next time my friends and I hit the big city, she wants to come with. I know her best friend, who evidently put in a good word about me (she and their other girl friends would also be in attendance). I'll be going in a few weeks, but might see which weekend she is in town sooner rather than later so I can set it up. Part 2: I have two groups of close friends, both of whom are great and would be eager to make the trip. However, tonight I learned they can't stand one another. There hadn't been any previous issues and it seemed as if everyone got along well, but I quickly learned that wasn't the case. The crossfire of texts I was receiving while we were out gave me a proverbial headache. My questions: - Next week is Easter weekend, so I'll avoid that. Is 2-3 weeks too early to check with the minor celebrity on availability? I can always ask her to hang out locally beforehand, but don't want to go from 0-100. I don't carry the mindset that someone is "out of my league," but this would be quite a jump for me. - How do I go about which group of friends get to go if this works out? Clearly I won't be able to mix both groups. It's a tricky situation for me to be in. Edited March 20, 2016 by AgainstAllOdds1
d0nnivain Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 Minor celebrity or not, she's still a person. Ask her out. Nothing ventured nothing gained. 1
smackie9 Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 Holiday weekends should be out, most people make plans. If it were me, I would pick a few from each group of friends that are not the sh it disturbers/haters. Negative/drama causing individuals, you really do not want to be associated with, especially when you are trying to impress someone. How they behave will be a reflection of you.
Steven1 Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 First of all you want to try and avoid the drama so obviously you already know try to keep the one's who will cause the trouble apart, if they can't accept that you like her or may get with her, that is their problem and not yours. The easter hols may be a good time to ask, you could just casually drop the hint you will be going to X location and that she would be more than welcome to join you etc. She could well be hoping that you do ask her for easter, who knows, you won't find out unless you ask. Hope all goes well never the less!!
preraph Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 Yeah, go with the friends least likely to cause drama. I wouldn't go drop in on her right away if it was me, I mean, unless it's normal for you to go there once a month in the past and in the future. You'll also have to gamble that she's there and not too busy, I imagine.
Author AgainstAllOdds1 Posted March 22, 2016 Author Posted March 22, 2016 Thank you for the feedback. As some of you said, one group of friends get to go. It's been a few days and there's no improvements amongst the groups (the dislike is tilted more one way, but there's still crossfire from both sides). I will contact her tomorrow to see which week works best. Sometimes, asking a girl out immediately is the better play. Other times, getting to know her a little and easing into it works better. I feel she is of the latter group.
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