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Single Ladies: Does it make you depressed looking at wedding pictures on facebook?

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Bobbi7 Established Member

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On facebook, its common for married people to post their wedding pictures, I get curious and start looking at them-mostly through the mutual friends list-if their pictures on open to the public and are able to see them. I see all these damn wedding pictures and thinking how lucky the bride is-how pretty she looks in her wedding dress and happy and the fact that shes glowing. When I see this, I know that I will never find the right man, and I know for a fact that I will never walk down the aisle wearing a wedding dress. I do think marriage is outdated now, but to see that some women can still wear that white wedding dress and have a man to spend his life with her legally, just sometimes makes me feel I will never have that life that they do. Anyone feel like this?

preraph Established Member

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No. You'd have to pay me to plan a big public wedding and get my fat butt in a white dress. No thank you. My way would be to take a friend each and pay their way to a modest destination and have them witness an elopement.

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losangelena Established Member

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Hate to state the obvious here, but if it bothers you to look at them, don't look.

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JourneyLady Established Member

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Hate to state the obvious here, but if it bothers you to look at them, don't look.

 

First - yes it does.

Second, if a friend is in your feed and they appear all of a sudden, it's kind of hard to avoid them (sometimes they are wedding pictures on an anniversary). I do try to pass them up as quickly as possible...

Dolfin80 Established Member

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Every time you look at those wedding pics just think that one in three of those women will be abused by their husband, they will be exposed to domestic violence.

 

You are better off being single than living with abuse.

PegNosePete Established Member

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I'm not a woman, but no.

 

When I see my friends happy, I am happy for them.

When I see them sad, I am sympathetic.

When I see them in need, I help.

When I see them posting hoax warnings, I point them to snopes.

And when I see them posting dumb junk, I take the mickey.

 

That is basic human empathy. It is what being a friend is about.

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todreaminblue Established Member

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i am truly happy for them...their smiles are so big they look so happy...how can i not be happy its infectious......

 

 

as far as getting married myself.....i am nearly half a century old and never been married.....ill probably marry in armor over a white dress....do battle scarred war horses marry...probably not..i would need a guy who could handle a battle scarred war horse and love the battle scars anyway..........so i live vicariously through happy shiny people who post wedding pics.....and i smile right along with them...and now facebook has a love button...so i luv heart alot.......deb

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Toodaloo Established Member

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I'm not a woman, but no.

 

When I see my friends happy, I am happy for them.

When I see them sad, I am sympathetic.

When I see them in need, I help.

When I see them posting hoax warnings, I point them to snopes.

And when I see them posting dumb junk, I take the mickey.

 

That is basic human empathy. It is what being a friend is about.

 

I am a woman and no I do not feel any of that. I am just pleased as punch that they are happy.

 

Pretty selfish to only want the good stuff for yourself...

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jen1447 Established Member

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Doesn't bother me, and I'm never gonna wear the dress either. (It'd be a little too precious for my sensibilities to do the double-bride thing lol, and I'm not a marriage fan anyway.)

 

I just focus on upstaging everyone at weddings instead. (j/k ;))

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Emilia Established Member

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Not at all. I look at the first few and ignore the rest.

Lady2163 Established Member

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I'm also one who wants my friends to be happy!

 

The first few years I was divorced, I hated going to weddings. Most of the time it was because I was a reliable date, so it wasn't anyone I knew. That bothered me a bit. At the time I was living in Mew England and did know that weddings were an all day thing. Where I'm from, pictures, wedding, reception, bride and groom leave about an hour after cake has been cut.

 

Yes, we do pictures before the ceremony because it is rude to keep 200-300 people waiting for 60-90 minutes at a reception for a superstition.

 

So, it did bother me to attend weddings for a while. Now, I don't bother much. I give a nicer gift and call it good.

 

I also had a friend who desperately wanted a baby. She quit going to baby showers because she couldn't bear it. Personally, that may have been some of it, but she also never bothered to send a card or get a gift. She never brought food or showed up when the babies were born. She lost most of her friends because they were hurt since she couldn't be happy for them. When she finally did get pregnant, I'm not exaggerating-her husband pretty much strong armed and begged the women he worked with to come to a shower. Again, not exaggerating, her was giving these people money to buy "presents". He made promises to work extra shifts and do unpleasant tasks. It was a nice party, but I knew a couple of the women and they were telling these stories out of earshot. Most people were laughing at them.

LivingWaterPlease Established Member

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I love weddings and wedding photos. I believe I'm living the life that's perfect for me so am happy for others who are doing the same. But, yes, just love weddings and all the hoopla that goes with them because to me they're so much fun. Love seeing a lot of friends I may not have seen for awhile, love the flowers, the gowns, the food, the romance in the air......all of it..

Miss Peach Established Member

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I don't get the big deal about a party and a white dress. I did it once and I don't care if I do again. I will consider getting married if I am with someone I truly believe I can go the long haul with but I hope he doesn't want the big wedding. I would rather focus on a nice honeymoon.

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Lady2163 Established Member

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I don't get the big deal about a party and a white dress. I did it once and I don't care if I do again. I will consider getting married if I am with someone I truly believe I can go the long haul with but I hope he doesn't want the big wedding. I would rather focus on a nice honeymoon.

 

That's kind of how I am. I'd like to have a quiet, private ceremony....and a noisy Irish inspired reception followed by a decent honeymoon.

 

I'm getting to the age where people would possibly pay me NOT to invite them to a wedding!

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Miss Peach Established Member

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That's kind of how I am. I'd like to have a quiet, private ceremony....and a noisy Irish inspired reception followed by a decent honeymoon.

 

I'm getting to the age where people would possibly pay me NOT to invite them to a wedding!

 

I don't really care if I have a reception. I did that once and it was nice to see the family get together but the reality is mine is scattered and not really close. It's not important to me to have a big party. I prefer small groups and one on one gatherings.

 

I think my style would be more along the lines of a private ceremony and a nice steak dinner before the honeymoon.

Toodaloo Established Member

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Never married and I have waited long enough now so if I do, its going to be BIG! My guests will be spoilt rotten and I will make sure everyone has a lovely day!

 

Love weddings.

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rainbowsandkittens Established Member

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I love weddings and am def happy for my friends when they get married. BUT it does also make me sad to a certain extent- thinking that it will never happen for me, I'll never get the dress and the flowers and the big reception. It's the same when I see my friends with their kids and anniversaries etc. I love seeing their pics and seeing them happy but I also feel a little sad for me.

 

I really need to stay off social media.

MissBee Established Member

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On facebook, its common for married people to post their wedding pictures, I get curious and start looking at them-mostly through the mutual friends list-if their pictures on open to the public and are able to see them. I see all these damn wedding pictures and thinking how lucky the bride is-how pretty she looks in her wedding dress and happy and the fact that shes glowing. When I see this, I know that I will never find the right man, and I know for a fact that I will never walk down the aisle wearing a wedding dress. I do think marriage is outdated now, but to see that some women can still wear that white wedding dress and have a man to spend his life with her legally, just sometimes makes me feel I will never have that life that they do. Anyone feel like this?

 

No.

 

I like wedding pics. I don't feel like I will never find the right man neither do I "know for a fact" that I will never walk down the aisle. At the end of the day if being married is that important I know I could probably just get married to anyone who is "good enough" if I were just hellbent on marrying to post pics on FB lol; however, I'm not, so I'm fine holding out until then. I am completely optimistic that this will happen one day but also, if for some reason it doesn't, and I was desperate, I guess I'd just settle for Mr.Good Enough.

edgygirl Established Member

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I couldn't care less about a "wedding" ceremony or a dress. Whatever.

 

I do get sad though when I see couple-y pics and it reminds me I can't seem to find the right person to love... and love me back.

Standard-Fare Established Member

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I love going to weddings, but they're not real life ... they're theater. They're fairy tales. They're pageants. And same goes for the photos.

 

Keep that in mind when you're looking through wedding pictures and feeling jealous. Those photos are just an extremely idealized depiction of one idealized day. They bear very little reflection of the couple's day-to-day reality, nor do they offer any glimpse of the complexity and inevitable flaws of their relationship.

 

Basically, don't waste your time feeling jealous of a fantasy.

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No it does not. Those people I have as friends on Facebook are, in fact, friends. And because I am a true friend, I celebrate their joy with them rather than make it about me or choose jealousy.

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