brandon26003 Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 I was dating this girl for a little over a month. To make a long story short, she started making excuses for not being able to hang out and would not respond when I asked her if she wanted to hang out. I asked her about it and she got real defensive which told me that I was completely right in my assumptions. I hadn't heard from her in a week, and all of a sudden she messaged me through Facebook. Why she would message me through Facebook instead of a text message I don't know. I responded later in the evening when I got home and got no response. 3 days later she asked me if I had any big plans for St. Patty's day. Upset that it took her days to respond, I decided to give her a taste of her own medicine. I didn't respond. I made the decision that I wasn't going to say anything for a week. Since then, she had liked several of my posts on Facebook. On Friday, she liked one of my posts, and on Saturday, she deleted me. That upset me a little bit. I wonder why she would like my posts up until a day before she deleted me. 1
MidwestUSA Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 She waited for you. You played a game. You lost. End of story. 5
Author brandon26003 Posted March 20, 2016 Author Posted March 20, 2016 She didn't play a game by waiting days to respond? Just curious.
TXGuy Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 She waited for you. You played a game. You lost. End of story. Absolutely right. But OP, please own it. The absolute worse thing you can do is reestablish contact. That will make you look weak and she will never respect you. Own in. You went no contact and she de-friended you. That was a reasonable response on her part. You need to stick to your guns and continue no contact. 2
TXGuy Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 She didn't play a game by waiting days to respond? Just curious. Yes. She was playing games. Then you started playing games with her. She made a short attempt to reel you back in. But she gave up before your passive aggressive time period was over. This is unsalvageable. Let her go. 4
Satu Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 Game-playing never produces a positive result. Sincerity, on the other hand, almost always does. 1
Author brandon26003 Posted March 20, 2016 Author Posted March 20, 2016 I tried sincerity and it didn't work. I tried giving her a taste of her own medication and it didn't work either. 1
MidwestUSA Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 I tried sincerity and it didn't work. I tried giving her a taste of her own medication and it didn't work either. Were you texting back and forth the whole time, without actually asking her on a date? What is 'hanging out'? Had you picked up the phone, and asked her on a date, at a specific time, day and place, you'd know whether she was ever interested. 1
Satu Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 I tried sincerity and it didn't work. I tried giving her a taste of her own medication and it didn't work either. Cut your losses and choose someone else to be your muse. 1
ff12343 Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 She waited for you. You played a game. You lost. End of story. BS! Yes she played a game and so did you in a sense. Regardless it should not end in de-friending someone on FB. She is clearly immature. I however agree with the responses about not contacting her. Unfortunately, since she made the last move, the ball is in her court. You do need to move on from her. But i disagree about the part of ''you losing''. Can't lose something you never had. 1
MidwestUSA Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 Can't lose something you never had. Well yep, that's true. Can always find another hang out buddy.
TheFinalWord Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 I was dating this girl for a little over a month. To make a long story short, she started making excuses for not being able to hang out and would not respond when I asked her if she wanted to hang out. I asked her about it and she got real defensive which told me that I was completely right in my assumptions. I hadn't heard from her in a week, and all of a sudden she messaged me through Facebook. Why she would message me through Facebook instead of a text message I don't know. I responded later in the evening when I got home and got no response. 3 days later she asked me if I had any big plans for St. Patty's day. Upset that it took her days to respond, I decided to give her a taste of her own medicine. I didn't respond. I made the decision that I wasn't going to say anything for a week. Since then, she had liked several of my posts on Facebook. On Friday, she liked one of my posts, and on Saturday, she deleted me. That upset me a little bit. I wonder why she would like my posts up until a day before she deleted me. Mistake was getting involved in e-dating. If she won't meet up, she isn't interested. Who knows why, who cares. The worst thing you can do is try to evoke interest via e-dating methods like text, FB. If she writes, just say when are you free to meet? If she dances around just say thanks, I have to go, reach out when you available. Don't engage in small talk via text/FB. 1
lilmissjava Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 I wouldn't even place such high stock in Facebook in the first place. She tried to get your attention by liking posts and yet you continued to ignore. You played the game and lost. Next time, wait to add someone on Facebook High until you are actually a friend or in an exclusive relationship. I don't get why people get so offended when they get deleted off Facebook. It's just ones and zeroes. Realtime is what matters. 2
ff12343 Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 I wouldn't even place such high stock in Facebook in the first place. She tried to get your attention by liking posts and yet you continued to ignore. You played the game and lost. Next time, wait to add someone on Facebook High until you are actually a friend or in an exclusive relationship. I don't get why people get so offended when they get deleted off Facebook. It's just ones and zeroes. Realtime is what matters. Because in today's generation, social media is "their" depiction of life. Also like I mentioned before, you can't lose what you never had. (Nice binary reference.) 1
Marc878 Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 You didn't lose much. Who needs that crap anyway 2
strawberryshortstack Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 She didn't play a game by waiting days to respond? Just curious. We don't know her motivations/reasons. We do know yours. Two wrongs don't make a right.
basil67 Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 She played games. Then you played games. Failure was the only outcome. Next time, just ignore a girl who plays games. 2
Otter2569 Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 I had a similar situation and a similar outcome. My chic was in her mid 40's. I only say this to point out that this **** is not new and does not go away. Bottom line: only friend friends on FB and don't play with game players. 1
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