Sara1989 Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 I decided 'F it, I'm just going to message her." Apologized for pressuring her, sent her a photo of the bball game. She responded with a video clip (she is eating dinner with family), and "no problem. I just didn't feel like driving." That sounds fine, but IDK. To me, it seems as if she liked me, she'd want to come see me. But, then again, we are only on the early phases of dating -- not like we are in a relationship & she doesn't owe me anything. Maybe you should take the hint and made the effort to drive to HER? Ever though of that? don't just assume she wants go to yours all the time. I wouldn't feel happy if I was the one making all the effort to see a man. Also you better stop pushing her and coming across needy or she run in the opposite direction. I been no angel in my dating life either but just telling you how it looks from an outsider.
joseb Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 She is a single mom on a hook-up site. She just wants some boom-boom. When you told her you wanted to get serious and you are afraid of sex, she gave up on you. Yeah that was my thought as well when I read this. Can't say for sure, but shes on tinder, happy to go to your house... I'm guessing that she was disappointed you didn't make a move the night she slept over. 1
Author lakerman34 Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 So, like I've said, I'm also seeing a 27 year old. We don't see each other much due to distance. She was supposed to move MUCH closer to me (from 90 min. car ride to a 15 min. car ride), BUT she signed a lease in her city (still will be 90 minutes away). Strike 1 This past weekend, I was home in PA. This girl is SMOKING hot. I kinda showed her off (Facebook photos) to friends. My one friend, who has grown increasingly wise over the years (used to be pretty immature), told me "dude, any girl that parties as much as her clearly isn't grown up yet & has some figuring out to do." Anyways, one time, I posted about her, furious (this was a while back). I bought wine, made dessert, picked out a movie, she was supposed to come over, never did. Apparently, she was "confused," because she thought it wasn't a date but an "optional hangout" sort of thing. She went out clubbing with her girlfriends. I've been trying to hang out with her. Plans are always shaky. We won't text for days, which is fine. Last night, she texts me asking me how PA was. I respond. She doesn't respond after that (some conversation). I've been telling her I wanted to go to her city, hang out with her at her house. She seemed pretty for it. I gave her a date (Saturday). Now, as Saturday (tomorrow) approaches, I've been texting her about it, no straightforward answer. BUT on Snapchat, she is Snapping the absolutely LOVELY time she is having out clubbing with her friends. Strike 2 AND 3. I think I'm going to push aside the girls, and focus on the GRE, my meditation practice, and the gym. Lately, girls just disappoint me.
MidwestUSA Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 Okay, so the 27 year old isn't much more mature than the 19 year old. I'm not sure how old you are, but as a self described 'grown ass man', perhaps it's time to look for a grown ass woman? One who doesn't live through social media. I'm sure there must be some out there who have the combo of maturity and SMOKING hot. 2
Author lakerman34 Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 Okay, so the 27 year old isn't much more mature than the 19 year old. I'm not sure how old you are, but as a self described 'grown ass man', perhaps it's time to look for a grown ass woman? One who doesn't live through social media. I'm sure there must be some out there who have the combo of maturity and SMOKING hot. 25 years old w/ a plan. Looking for a girl that'll match that plan. 19 year old was SO close (based off the picture I painted of her in my head), but too young
ExpatInItaly Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 It doesn't sound as though there's much to end here. She's not overly interested at this point. Just stop contacting her and move along. 1
Author lakerman34 Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 It doesn't sound as though there's much to end here. She's not overly interested at this point. Just stop contacting her and move along. Exactly what I'm doing. Deleted her #.
SoThatHappened Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 No offense, but it's not really your decision to end it. Sounds like it was either never started or she's ending it for you. Staying away could be your decision and sounds like a wise one. 25? Do you, man. Let the women come, but live for you. 1
Author lakerman34 Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 No offense, but it's not really your decision to end it. Sounds like it was either never started or she's ending it for you. Staying away could be your decision and sounds like a wise one. 25? Do you, man. Let the women come, but live for you. She USED TO blow up my phone, telling me how much she liked me and all. She used to get upset because, apparently, I don't "say much" and she wanted us to be in constant conversation. I'm not the type of guy to initiate that (like 19 year old in other thread, who blows up my phone, has something interesting to say, so I respond, we have conversation). Anyways, whoever gets to "end it," it's going to end either way. Gone are the days that I respond to innocuous texts asking me how my day was. Either ask to come see me, or don't text me at all.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 She USED TO blow up my phone, telling me how much she liked me and all. She used to get upset because, apparently, I don't "say much" and she wanted us to be in constant conversation. I'm not the type of guy to initiate that (like 19 year old in other thread, who blows up my phone, has something interesting to say, so I respond, we have conversation). Anyways, whoever gets to "end it," it's going to end either way. Gone are the days that I respond to innocuous texts asking me how my day was. Either ask to come see me, or don't text me at all. I think this is what the other poster meant. You don't have anything anything to end, so to speak, because she's already lost interest.
Author lakerman34 Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 I think this is what the other poster meant. You don't have anything anything to end, so to speak, because she's already lost interest. Got it. Either way, doesn't really matter, I suppose. She'll text me in the next couple of days to ask how things are going or something of the like. I think I might just block her on my phone so I never even have to see the meaningless message.
wildfiremichael Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 So, like I've said, I'm also seeing a 27 year old. We don't see each other much due to distance. She was supposed to move MUCH closer to me (from 90 min. car ride to a 15 min. car ride), BUT she signed a lease in her city (still will be 90 minutes away). Strike 1 This past weekend, I was home in PA. This girl is SMOKING hot. I kinda showed her off (Facebook photos) to friends. My one friend, who has grown increasingly wise over the years (used to be pretty immature), told me "dude, any girl that parties as much as her clearly isn't grown up yet & has some figuring out to do." Anyways, one time, I posted about her, furious (this was a while back). I bought wine, made dessert, picked out a movie, she was supposed to come over, never did. Apparently, she was "confused," because she thought it wasn't a date but an "optional hangout" sort of thing. She went out clubbing with her girlfriends. I've been trying to hang out with her. Plans are always shaky. We won't text for days, which is fine. Last night, she texts me asking me how PA was. I respond. She doesn't respond after that (some conversation). I've been telling her I wanted to go to her city, hang out with her at her house. She seemed pretty for it. I gave her a date (Saturday). Now, as Saturday (tomorrow) approaches, I've been texting her about it, no straightforward answer. BUT on Snapchat, she is Snapping the absolutely LOVELY time she is having out clubbing with her friends. Strike 2 AND 3. I think I'm going to push aside the girls, and focus on the GRE, my meditation practice, and the gym. Lately, girls just disappoint me. You were together sexually? If yes, then there is a possibility that she 1. either isn't looking for a long-term relationship yet, just clubbing and meeting other guys - keeping her options open and 2. she is looking for a long-term relationship but you didn't show the traits that she would like to have in a long-term partner. hope it helps! wildfiremichael
Author lakerman34 Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 You were together sexually? If yes, then there is a possibility that she 1. either isn't looking for a long-term relationship yet, just clubbing and meeting other guys - keeping her options open and 2. she is looking for a long-term relationship but you didn't show the traits that she would like to have in a long-term partner. hope it helps! wildfiremichael We were. After the night of sex, we hung out the next day, and it seemed as if all things were well. A couple of weeks later, we went to dinner and a movie. She's definitely into me. That was the last I've seen of her. It's been 3 or 4 weeks. Last weekend, I was out of town. I want to hang out with her this weekend, but she hasn't responded to my request.
wildfiremichael Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 We were. After the night of sex, we hung out the next day, and it seemed as if all things were well. A couple of weeks later, we went to dinner and a movie. She's definitely into me. That was the last I've seen of her. It's been 3 or 4 weeks. Last weekend, I was out of town. I want to hang out with her this weekend, but she hasn't responded to my request. If she's definitely into you and you have invited her to hang out, the ball is in her court no? :-)
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