Snowy90 Posted March 19, 2016 Posted March 19, 2016 Was with my ex for 3 years, we were young n couldn't get it right although there was always a lot of love. He called it off, I didn't chase or try contact at all, then after a couple of months n seeing other girls he wants me back, we talk n decide to be friends, I meet someone new n he goes crazy. The new guy doesn't want me talking to the ex cause he's acting crazy, so I cut all contact. With the new guy for 6 months, at the start he was amazing! But turned really nasty like a switch.. I push through but all the while thinking about my ex, dreaming about him.. Things got so bad with the new guy being a narcassistic head ****, that I leave. After a while, I call the ex, no answer.. So I send a message to explain that it wasn't my fault we stopped talking, and that i wasn't allowed (the new guy actually went to extremes as to threaten the ex). I just wanted to explain it was nothing to do with me. No reply.. I left it at that.. Then the ex turns up at a venue we used to frequent once a week.. So he knew he'd find me there.. I was running late n he asked a close person to me where I was, she said I wasn't far away n he said he was gonna try catch me last week, but didn't so he was hoping to that night.. I got there n seen him n said hi, n left it at that as he had ignored my message, which I assumed meant no hope for friendship.. He has a few drinks n comes to talk briefly, says he's sorry he didn't write back, he didn't know what to say.. He said the guy I left had tried to add him on social things a few days earlier, told me a few things goin on with him, then that was it. As he left I was talking so he walked n said bye but heard him say he'd be at our next group thing we always do 2 days later.. He never showed, I sent a friendly message with no reply, then I sent later that day.. Obviously you aren't looking to try be friends, I'll leave it at that. Good to see you. Take care.. Nothing back..! I'm so confused as to why he'd go to the effort to run into me but not reply.. 1
Satu Posted March 19, 2016 Posted March 19, 2016 He doesn't want any more drama or hurt. Thats not so hard to understand.
Author Snowy90 Posted March 19, 2016 Author Posted March 19, 2016 He doesn't want any more drama or hurt. Thats not so hard to understand. But why come find me.. Deliberately run into me..?
kidm Posted March 19, 2016 Posted March 19, 2016 But why come find me.. Deliberately run into me..? He may have come there specifically to give you that piece of information regarding the new guy trying to add him on social media. Anyway there are different forms/types of friendship. He doesn't have to maintain constant communication with you to be a friend. I have some friends who take months to respond to a text when it's inconsequential and I don't hound them about why they haven't replied. Maybe you'll hear from him once in awhile and maybe you won't. Seems to me he is moving on with his life and you should do the same. You can't use this friendship thing as a crutch to keep him in your life and keep texting him what amounts to "I'm still here, be my friend please."
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