xpaperxcutx Posted March 19, 2016 Posted March 19, 2016 So the guy who faded on me contacted me tonight; after 2 full weeks of no contact. I mean what is up with that? Is he just bored and trying to hit me up? I just feel sad and annoyed. I'm sad that things with him didn't work out but overly annoyed that he could go without talking for so long and all of a sudden just send me a text asking me how I am. Obviously, he isn't really concerned about my well-being. He can go out and have fun dinner with his friends on a work night and still make time for social media, but he never had the time to just sent me good morning text. And yeah, I'm stupid for replying, but I definitely ended our conversation quickly and wishing him a good night. I have no ill-wills against him. He was honest with me that he didn't want a relationship with me. Why the hell do I feel so sad? 1
TunaCat Posted March 19, 2016 Posted March 19, 2016 It's simple. He wants to see if you're still "on his hook" If so, then you may just forgive the past 2 weeks of NC and go out with him again. You deserve better than to be someone's plan B. 1
Satu Posted March 19, 2016 Posted March 19, 2016 I have no ill-wills against him. He was honest with me that he didn't want a relationship with me. *Why the hell do I feel so sad? *Sometimes we are sad because we had hopes of something and it didn't turn out the way we wanted. Don't be unkind to yourself for feeling sad about this; occasional sadness is part of being human. As for being annoyed, thats ok too; he should have treated you better.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted March 19, 2016 Author Posted March 19, 2016 It's simple. He wants to see if you're still "on his hook" If so, then you may just forgive the past 2 weeks of NC and go out with him again. You deserve better than to be someone's plan B. I called him out on his BS the last time we talked. He was clear that he didn't want anything serious. So I stopped talking to him. Why text me at 9pm at night? And I tried to be nice but he doesn't want to carry on a conversation so I ended it quickly and said have a good night. I really liked him for him but he ended up being such a jerk. Ugh my choice in men need to change!!! 2
scorpiogirl Posted March 19, 2016 Posted March 19, 2016 He's hoping you're available for sex. So he knows that he told you that he doesn't want a relationship. You have that info. If you respond to him in any way and see him or go out with him now, he can sleep with you and you can expect nothing more than sex. And you can't get mad when he treats you casually again. Feel sad. You're entitled to feel your feelings. But don't ever respond to him again. Don't even say hello. It's the best thing for you. 3
joseb Posted March 19, 2016 Posted March 19, 2016 I called him out on his BS the last time we talked. He was clear that he didn't want anything serious. Why text me at 9pm at night? And I tried to be nice but he doesn't want to carry on a conversation so I ended it quickly and said have a good night. He tells you he doesn't want anything serious. Then later texts you late at night...come on, you know exactly what he wants. 3
smackie9 Posted March 19, 2016 Posted March 19, 2016 You feel sad because you can't always get what you want...... 1
Author xpaperxcutx Posted March 19, 2016 Author Posted March 19, 2016 He's hoping you're available for sex. So he knows that he told you that he doesn't want a relationship. You have that info. If you respond to him in any way and see him or go out with him now, he can sleep with you and you can expect nothing more than sex. And you can't get mad when he treats you casually again. Feel sad. You're entitled to feel your feelings. But don't ever respond to him again. Don't even say hello. It's the best thing for you. He already knew I wasn't going to be sleeping with him. I explicitly told him I don't sleep outside of relationships. Yeah my best friend who is a guy also told me the same thing. He told me he isn't right for me and I shouldn't talk to him anymore. Obviously he knew I liked him. How obvious could I had been when him exactly how I felt before he disappeared on me? Even gave him a really nice birthday gift.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted March 19, 2016 Author Posted March 19, 2016 You feel sad because you can't always get what you want...... If he had been wanting the same things as me I would've wished I'd gotten what i wanted.
sickoflove11 Posted March 19, 2016 Posted March 19, 2016 I'm in your exact situation so I probably don't have the best advice but I can relate! My guy also started to minimize contact and now its at none. But I still see him posting on social media and going out with his friends and it makes me sad. I'm at the point where I'm waiting for him to hit me up like your guy did but I know I shouldn't expect or even want that. I really think they must have just lost interest. Even though my guy pursued me so much maybe he found someone else. As for him texting you after two weeks I can definitely understand why you'd reply but just know, if he didn't care enough to contact you at all in those two weeks, he's not worth your time! That's what I'm trying to tell myself at least.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted March 19, 2016 Author Posted March 19, 2016 I'm in your exact situation so I probably don't have the best advice but I can relate! My guy also started to minimize contact and now its at none. But I still see him posting on social media and going out with his friends and it makes me sad. I'm at the point where I'm waiting for him to hit me up like your guy did but I know I shouldn't expect or even want that. I really think they must have just lost interest. Even though my guy pursued me so much maybe he found someone else. As for him texting you after two weeks I can definitely understand why you'd reply but just know, if he didn't care enough to contact you at all in those two weeks, he's not worth your time! That's what I'm trying to tell myself at least. Im not sitting at home waiting for him. Even if I'm at home I'm not waiting for him. I've been diverting my attentions elsewhere and it's been helping. I just dont want small chats especially with someone who knew i had feelings for.
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