Dente Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 (edited) Me and my ex have been broken up for more than a year she in a new relationships and gave me empty promises of breaking up with her current boyfriend. I told her to give me space and let this issue be what happens in the future happens. I havent talk to her for over a 2 week because i would really like to get heal and move on but it takes a great deal of effort to do it so i started taking steps. I have one issue. When i was with my ex her mother sign for a car for me which i am currently paying for. I got an ezpass ticket a couple months ago but i havent paid it for 3 months. My ex texted me reminding me to pay the ticket or the regrestration will be suspended Under her mom's name I ignored the text which she texted me at 9:30pm then she messages me on instagram to remind that she send a message to my phone which i also ingored. The very next day i paid what i owe because she knows very well its the only vechicial that i have to get around to work and do my daily activities Few days past and she messages on instagram around 6:00am telling me that im being very immature to ingored this responsibility and that if im paying the ticket and her mothers registration will be suspend. She knows very well its the only car i got and making payments on it if she was really concern she'll pick up the phone and call or keep bothering me about it? I really dont want to text her no more are these breadcrums? She knows im still making payments on the car and drive it around least is i want is not to have a car. Should i reply i really dont want too. Edited March 18, 2016 by Dente
266696687 Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 Me and my ex have been broken up for more than a year she in a new relationships and gave me empty promises of breaking up with her current boyfriend. I told her to give me space and let this issue be what happens in the future happens. I havent talk to her for over a 2 week because i would really like to get heal and move on but it takes a great deal of effort to do it so i started taking steps. I have one issue. When i was with my ex her mother sign for a car for me which i am currently paying for. I got an ezpass ticket a couple months ago but i havent paid it for 3 months. My ex texted me reminding me to pay the ticket or the regrestration will be suspended Under her mom's name I ignored the text which she texted me at 9:30pm then she messages me on instagram to remind that she send a message to my phone which i also ingored. The very next day i paid what i owe because she knows very well its the only vechicial that i have to get around to work and do my daily activities Few days past and she messages on instagram around 6:00am telling me that im being very immature to ingored this responsibility and that if im paying the ticket and her mothers registration will be suspend. She knows very well its the only car i got and making payments on it if she was really concern she'll pick up the phone and call or keep bothering me about it? I really dont want to text her no more it set me back a lot i just want to heal and move on. What should i do? This isn't a breadcrumb. She has every right to contact you about the above matter. Her mum did you a favour helping you get the car and you repay her by not paying for a ticket for three months that could lead to her mums registration being suspended. Take care of your responsibilities. You owed her mother an explanation and a reaponse to her message. You didn't pay a ticket that was impacting on her mothers registration. What is wrong with you? You are the immature one by ignoring her. You should have paid the ticket immediately. You didn't. Her mother asked you for an explanation which she is entitled too and you ignored her. Pathetic. This is all on you! 1
Zahara Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 She's been known to poke her head in and out for the past 18 months. So no need to analyze her actions. You've paid the ticket. If anything, to alleviate any worry, you should send her mother a quick note confirming that the ticket has been paid. Why haven't you blocked her on your phone or social media? Still hoping?
PegNosePete Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 Few days past and she messages on instagram around 6:00am telling me that im being very immature to ingored this responsibility and that if im paying the ticket and her mothers registration will be suspend. I am inclined to agree with her. You're being immature and irresponsible, and using the car payments as a weapon against her, which will cause her mother serious issues. Tell her you're sorry and from now on you'll keep up with the payments. Or even better, get out of the financial arrangement with her mother. I'm not entirely sure how this kind of deal works so can't help with how to do that but I'm sure it's simple enough. 2
Rockdad Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 Are you for real ? Time to grow up and man up. Take care of business young man then you wouldn't have any of this problem in the 1st place. 2
Author Dente Posted March 18, 2016 Author Posted March 18, 2016 (edited) Im not going to text her i paid the ticket she has the information to check if i did or not i find the times strange at 9:30pm and 6:00 am thoses are times to let someone know of a concern? Out of the whole day thoses are the only time her to let me know cmon Plus her mother screwed me over really bad 6 months into the break up. Since the car was under her mothers name so was the insurance i would pay each month to her in her hands for about 6 months she did not pay the insurance she was pocketing the money and i was driving without insurance for six months i got pulled over and had to go to court got my car taking away for 2 months and had to pay lawyer a lot because i was driving without insurance it was a mess lot of money and energy lost. Im paying direct for the insurance on my car and hers now so that doesnt happen again so im pretty sure she knows i paid for the ticket she can also check because she has the information on it or she can call ezpass if shes that concern... Edited March 18, 2016 by Dente
PegNosePete Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 i find the times strange at 9:30pm and 6:00 am thoses are times to let someone know of a concern? Why are you trying to read some hidden meaning into the times of her messages? 9:30pm, maybe her and her BF were watching Game Of Thrones and Tywin Lannister's attempts to corrupt the court reminded her that her ex hasn't paid the damn ticket yet, so she shot you a reminder while it was fresh in her mind. 6:00am, maybe her BF's snoring woke her up and while she was awake she checked her email and found one from her mother worried that she would lose her license because her ex hadn't paid his damn ticket. Plus her mother screwed me over really bad 6 months into the break up..... All the more reason to end the financial and administrative links between you and her mother.
BC1980 Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 You need to do whatever you can to get out of this financial arrangement with the mother. Is there a way you can?
Author Dente Posted March 18, 2016 Author Posted March 18, 2016 You need to do whatever you can to get out of this financial arrangement with the mother. Is there a way you can? Yes im almost done with the payments on the car. Few more months and then im free but have to contact her for the title on the car lol so i can put everything on my name and be set free. The ezpass ticket is paid yes it was irresponsible of me that it took a while but its paid.
Author Dente Posted March 18, 2016 Author Posted March 18, 2016 (edited) Why are you trying to read some hidden meaning into the times of her messages? 9:30pm, maybe her and her BF were watching Game Of Thrones and Tywin Lannister's attempts to corrupt the court reminded her that her ex hasn't paid the damn ticket yet, so she shot you a reminder while it was fresh in her mind. 6:00am, maybe her BF's snoring woke her up and while she was awake she checked her email and found one from her mother worried that she would lose her license because her ex hadn't paid his damn ticket. All the more reason to end the financial and administrative links between you and her mother. Out of the whole day... Thoses are the times? What about work hours. She was probably laying in bed thinking why i havent reach out or replied to another random text she send me weeks ago about some miss call. Which i ignored This women has been pulling my legs for a while tell me she misses me and want us back together while shes still with her current boyfriend. She wanted to meet and date while shes with this other guy i met her a few times and even kissed her but stopped it quickly because one its wrong and two its a slippery situation. I stopped.it She even told me i wish you can rescue me from what i got into with this guy She said she left me because i was hurting her and got with this guy cause she had no one. I did take her for granted but not for her to be playing games. Im not looking for a meaning behind her messages but she has a history of getting in contact like this so its half half. I told her let it be she cant resolve her situation just to it be to give me space. So ya i took it as a sign of hope but i cant do this to myself no more and get heal and move on. Just trying to aviod contact with her. Im not trying to screw her mom over with the ticket its paid and she can find out if i paid it or not she doesnt need to be contacting me to find out she has the information. If its something very serious yes ill reply but this isnt. Shes not respecting what i asked of her so i gotta ignored. Edited March 18, 2016 by Dente
PegNosePete Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 Out of the whole day... Thoses are the times? What about work hours. She was probably laying in bed thinking why i havent reach out or replied to another random text she send me weeks ago about some miss call. Which i ignored This women has been pulling my legs for a while tell me she misses me and want us back together while shes still with her current boyfriend. She wanted to meet and date while shes with this other guy i met her a few times and even kissed her but stopped it quickly because one its wrong and two its a slippery situation. I stopped.it She even told me i wish you can rescue me from what i got into with this guy She said she left me because i was hurting her and got with this guy cause she had no one. I did take her for granted but not for her to be playing games. Im not looking for a meaning behind her messages but she has a history of getting in contact like this so its half half. I told her let it be she cant resolve her situation just to it be to give me space. So ya i took it as a sign of hope but i cant do this to myself no more and get heal and move on. Just trying to aviod contact with her. Im not trying to screw her mom over with the ticket its paid and she can find out if i paid it or not she doesnt need to be contacting me to find out she has the information. If its something very serious yes ill reply but this isnt. Shes not respecting what i asked of her so i gotta ignored. Well if you want to believe all that then it's your prerogative. But I think you're living in cloud cuckoo land. 1
Chi townD Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 Since her mother co-signed the car with you, you deal with her mother. Work crap out with her and leave your Ex out of the loop. More importantly keep current with your payments so you have no reason for her to contact you. Then, focus on getting that car paid off as quickly as possible. 1
Zahara Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 Out of the whole day... Thoses are the times? What about work hours. She was probably laying in bed thinking why i havent reach out or replied to another random text she send me weeks ago about some miss call. Which i ignored This women has been pulling my legs for a while tell me she misses me and want us back together while shes still with her current boyfriend. She wanted to meet and date while shes with this other guy i met her a few times and even kissed her but stopped it quickly because one its wrong and two its a slippery situation. I stopped.it She even told me i wish you can rescue me from what i got into with this guy She said she left me because i was hurting her and got with this guy cause she had no one. I did take her for granted but not for her to be playing games. Im not looking for a meaning behind her messages but she has a history of getting in contact like this so its half half. I told her let it be she cant resolve her situation just to it be to give me space. So ya i took it as a sign of hope but i cant do this to myself no more and get heal and move on. Just trying to aviod contact with her. Im not trying to screw her mom over with the ticket its paid and she can find out if i paid it or not she doesnt need to be contacting me to find out she has the information. If its something very serious yes ill reply but this isnt. Shes not respecting what i asked of her so i gotta ignored. I'm not sure why you're still questioning all this. She's been in and out of your life for 18 months since your ending. Block her and be done with it.
mightycpa Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 The mother signed for the loan AND she's on the title? You'd better play nice, my friend, because after that car is paid for, the paperwork says it's hers, free and clear. Now that doesn't mean you wouldn't ultimately prevail if she decided to fight you, or that she would even try to screw you over, but people are capable of anything. You should definitely get your **** together, and get your paperwork in order. If you don't have the credit or whatever to get a loan on your own car, once you've paid this loan off and have gotten the title transferred, get another small loan and use the car as collateral. Put the money in the bank, get another loan using that cash as collateral and pay both of them off. Do that over and over again until your credit profile improves. Your exgf seems to be the least of your problems. Eye on the ball, my friend, eye on the ball. 1
clam Posted March 19, 2016 Posted March 19, 2016 There's no guarantee the mother will re-title the car in your name. Have you thought about that? Someone who steals your insurance money doesn't seem like the kind of person who is above board.
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