insert_name Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 A better question is why would the OP even entertain the idea? Because pussy is a powerful drug. 1
Jabron1 Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 "would you be interested in buying a huge home with me". No. "Would you be my bf" No. "Would you like to live with me" No. Who cares for the whys, and all this drama? The answer should be 'NO'. Learn to separate sex from your family and finances.
insert_name Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 No. No. No. Who cares for the whys, and all this drama? The answer should be 'NO'. Learn to separate sex from your family and finances. You shouldn't even need to spell it out. Those questions need careful co sideration under normal circumstances. Under insane circumstances, as these so clearly are, it is a flat out NO with no consideration or debate. This will not end well for OP, although I fully expect him to return in a month telling us how he is married and she has moved in. Then the real fun will start. 1
AMJ Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 Now this is the only thing I was actually asking advice for. Why would she be with me, look at me, and really ask "would you be interested in buying a huge home with me". "Would you be my bf". "Would you like to live with me" People are getting hung up on all the other details because, details do matter. Don't you think that you should be in an established relationship with someone before you even consider buying a home together? Shouldn't you date for awhile without all the drama before considering even living together? Shouldn't you wait until her divorce is final to consider living with her? Why aren't you considering what's in her child and your child's best interest? What lessons are they learning about their parents, who are jumping into serious relationships so recklessly? If she has bad judgement, how is she going to be a good role model/stepmom for your child? Okay, she makes good brunch and cleans your house, but don't you want a stable partner in your life? But then she leaves to see her kid and seems to be conflicted as to whether or not she should work things out with her ex or if it is even possible. So going fast to me is ok IF it is actually real. It is more like she is just saying she wants certain things she can't even have. Going fast rarely ever works out well for anyone, and you already know in your gut that something is very wrong here. It's more like she's saying and doing whatever she needs to do to keep you hooked, so she can get whatever it is she wants from you. If she's even considering working things out with her ex, why would you even bother with any of this? I mean this is the pattern. She asks to see me More. I say ok. Then she disappears and is confused. She comes back and escalates it all after apologizing. Now wants to buy a house together. Be my gf. Promises she is over with her ex. Then texts me "delete my Number. I am No good for you" This is the kindest thing she's done for you so far. You should absolutely delete her number and move on. Also she seems to have purposely left jewelry at my house. I mean, her brain is so scattered and flimsy it's hard to know what she's purposely doing. Don't cling to her pieces of jewelry like it means something significant. 1
Author coreydillon Posted March 26, 2016 Author Posted March 26, 2016 People are getting hung up on all the other details because, details do matter. Don't you think that you should be in an established relationship with someone before you even consider buying a home together? Shouldn't you date for awhile without all the drama before considering even living together? Shouldn't you wait until her divorce is final to consider living with her? Why aren't you considering what's in her child and your child's best interest? What lessons are they learning about their parents, who are jumping into serious relationships so recklessly? If she has bad judgement, how is she going to be a good role model/stepmom for your child? Okay, she makes good brunch and cleans your house, but don't you want a stable partner in your life? Going fast rarely ever works out well for anyone, and you already know in your gut that something is very wrong here. It's more like she's saying and doing whatever she needs to do to keep you hooked, so she can get whatever it is she wants from you. If she's even considering working things out with her ex, why would you even bother with any of this? This is the kindest thing she's done for you so far. You should absolutely delete her number and move on. I mean, her brain is so scattered and flimsy it's hard to know what she's purposely doing. Don't cling to her pieces of jewelry like it means something significant. Let me try to clarify again. It seems to me she is just SAYING these things, then putting me on the spot for an answer. But realistically they are things she can't even really follow through on anyway. That's what is confusing. I'm not buying a house with her or asking if I should.
AMJ Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 Let me try to clarify again. It seems to me she is just SAYING these things, then putting me on the spot for an answer. But realistically they are things she can't even really follow through on anyway. That's what is confusing. I'm not buying a house with her or asking if I should. You're confused because her words don't match up with her actions? Saying one thing and doing another? Always trust a person's actions, not words. She's saying whatever you need to hear to keep you interested. Her words aren't genuine. It's simpler to analyze when you're not sleeping with the person who's lying to you.
Author coreydillon Posted March 26, 2016 Author Posted March 26, 2016 You're confused because her words don't match up with her actions? Saying one thing and doing another? Always trust a person's actions, not words. She's saying whatever you need to hear to keep you interested. Her words aren't genuine. It's simpler to analyze when you're not sleeping with the person who's lying to you. Yes. Pretty much. I mean she could just say "let's have sex and fun" without all the "let's buy a house/ have kids/ live together "if that's what she wants.
Jabron1 Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 Let me try to clarify again. It seems to me she is just SAYING these things, then putting me on the spot for an answer. But realistically they are things she can't even really follow through on anyway. That's what is confusing. I'm not buying a house with her or asking if I should. You're obviously very attracted to her. Nothing wrong with that, but you need to separate the sex from your other decision making. It doesn't matter how attractive she is, she isn't girlfriend material.
AMJ Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 lol. exactly! Which means she doesn't just want to have sex and fun. And since a normal person wouldn't say, let's buy a house and make babies together in the given circumstances....what does that leave us with? She's nuts. And she's manipulating you. And she's good at it- which is even more scary.
Jabron1 Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 Yes. Pretty much. I mean she could just say "let's have sex and fun" without all the "let's buy a house/ have kids/ live together "if that's what she wants. Or you could just lead the relationship where you want it. Set the pace in future. Don't let someone meet your kid so soon.
Author coreydillon Posted March 26, 2016 Author Posted March 26, 2016 Or you could just lead the relationship where you want it. Set the pace in future. Don't let someone meet your kid so soon. I agree. I dated a lot and nobody met him. I also sensed these girls had no interest that I had a son or kind of didn't like it. I also got "sucked in" when she asked questions, offered to make us lunch, and took an interest. So I thought "this person must know what she wants and will be around"
Jabron1 Posted March 26, 2016 Posted March 26, 2016 I agree. I dated a lot and nobody met him. I also sensed these girls had no interest that I had a son or kind of didn't like it. I also got "sucked in" when she asked questions, offered to make us lunch, and took an interest. So I thought "this person must know what she wants and will be around" Luckily, things didn't get that bad with this woman. So, It's not the end of the world or anything. We all make mistakes. But you do need to be brutally honest with yourself about what went wrong and address it. Don't worry about her actions anymore; think about your own. That's the part of dating that most men don't seem to get - for one reason or another.
Author coreydillon Posted March 29, 2016 Author Posted March 29, 2016 Well the way things ended it stings a bit. I figured I would call her Monday to see how she is, if she wants her things back etc. and her number is changed...... Last few texts. "Hey you left your jewelry here if you are looking for it" "I know. I am moving in"""" 5 minutes later "Delete my number. I know I said I would never do this. I am no good for you" Then she actually changed her number.
Jabron1 Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 (edited) Your love was synthetic And now I regret it Wish I could forget it... Edited March 29, 2016 by Jabron1
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