Gaeta Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 It's funny. I mean if this woman posted a thread I bet she would get a ton of sympathy. "My father passed away, husband cheated, I am miserable with him , and met a nice guy who I have a ton in common with. Should I stay with him and see how it goes?" Seriously?? How do you know you have a ton in common? You've only met how many times again? How long you've know her for exactly? How old is your child? Are you THAT lonely?
PegNosePete Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 It's funny. I mean if this woman posted a thread I bet she would get a ton of sympathy. "My father passed away, husband cheated, I am miserable with him , and met a nice guy who I have a ton in common with. Should I stay with him and see how it goes?" Now you're simply changing the facts. What you've written here doesn't match what you wrote about her, in the slightest. I know there are 3 sides to every story (yours, mine and the truth) but the different sides you're posting are so different, it's like they are about different people.
Gaeta Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 See each other more with the idea of living together. Not move in all at once. I will have to dig it out but somewhere in this thread you said she was suppose to go to your place this morning to set up 'moving in together'. No?
Toodaloo Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 She hasn't seen her kid in 5 months. It's funny. I mean if this woman posted a thread I bet she would get a ton of sympathy. "My father passed away, husband cheated, I am miserable with him , and met a nice guy who I have a ton in common with. Should I stay with him and see how it goes?" Erm no. She would be told to sort her priorities/ life out first. If she then went on to tell us that she had offered to move in and have threesomes with any woman he chose... we would all be screaming ditch him and sort your self esteem issues out. I don't have children but I can tell you now I haven't been that long not seeing my pet chicken let alone someone I gave birth to! There is NO WAY I would ever date a man who hadn't seen his children for that long. NO WAY! You are backing up and trying to hang on to this one but really you need to let go its only going to get worse... way way worse. There was a chap on here not so long ago who had a woman move in, cook, clean, treat him like a god including redecorating his house then emptied his accounts and went psycho on him. Did he listen at the time? Not until it was too late. Please listen. 3
Author coreydillon Posted March 18, 2016 Author Posted March 18, 2016 (edited) I will have to dig it out but somewhere in this thread you said she was suppose to go to your place this morning to set up 'moving in together'. No? Yes. I said "well let's see each other more and see how it goes". She said she wanted me to be sure, as she would be in my space. I guess for me it isn't that odd. My wife of 5 years, who was the PTA mom type, from a great school and family, met a guy on vacation for a week, requested to move my son into a new home, and then married him within a month after moving out as we had a quick divorce. After he sent her 70,000 for a divorce, car, her own place etc.to me that was crazy. I was thinking he might be a molester. Kidnapper. Psycho etc And I guess for me, it is tough to always be alone forever with just work and my son. So once again, yes, I overlooked red flags. I already know But what I don't want to deal with is any drama and it already seems o be happening Edited March 18, 2016 by coreydillon
Author coreydillon Posted March 18, 2016 Author Posted March 18, 2016 And yes. While I had my son she left as she didn't want him to see her sleeping over. I mean if I felt she was some psycho I wouldn't even be asking. My main question was I felt it was odd that the day she was supposed to start seeing me more, that morning she said she is going out of state to see her kids.
Toodaloo Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 But what I don't want to deal with is any drama and it already seems to be happening So stop it. Sounds like you have been through the mill with your ex already. Stop letting women mess you around like this. I get that you are lonely but if you want something that lasts, is drama free, exciting, fulfilling and you can look back and say yes that was great... well for that you have to take your time, be sensible and not allow your penis to be calling the shots like this. Just sit back, breathe and steady it all up. Take your time. The good ones really are hard to find and the bad ones? They are 10 a penny... Good luck OP.
truth_seeker Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 Are you THAT lonely? I've noticed with people who are in LTR or marriages and separate, they quickly jump into another LTR or marriage. It's like they can't be alone.
Toodaloo Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 I've noticed with people who are in LTR or marriages and separate, they quickly jump into another LTR or marriage. It's like they can't be alone. Those relationships and marriages are not always very good ones though... Just saying.
LivingDeadGrl Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 She's a liar. If a woman is interested in a man but super busy, she still, no matter the situation would make an effort to see how his day is going, how his weekend went etc. She has not contacted you at all which tells me there is probably another man around. If her and her husband are in fact not together, there's no excuse for her not to text you at the end of the night before bed or something of the sorts. How long does it take to send a text? 20 seconds? How much have you heard from her? I am guessing dead silence. You're questioning too much of her story already and obviously your gut feeling is she is not telling the truth. Move on! This shouldn't be so hard. 1
truth_seeker Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 The good ones really are hard to find and the bad ones? They are 10 a penny... Oh, tell me about it!
truth_seeker Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 Those relationships and marriages are not always very good ones though... Just saying. I think though the OP is one of those people who can't be alone. That's why he is so attached to this woman.
LivingDeadGrl Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 I think though the OP is one of those people who can't be alone. That's why he is so attached to this woman. Agreed. He likes the idea of her... If you aren't a flake, you shouldn't have to say you're not
Author coreydillon Posted March 18, 2016 Author Posted March 18, 2016 I think though the OP is one of those people who can't be alone. That's why he is so attached to this woman. If you read my posts you would see I have been alone for two years lol. But add whatever you like. Yeah. One of "those people". Nice box you place people in while ignoring facts.
Author coreydillon Posted March 18, 2016 Author Posted March 18, 2016 She's a liar. If a woman is interested in a man but super busy, she still, no matter the situation would make an effort to see how his day is going, how his weekend went etc. She has not contacted you at all which tells me there is probably another man around. If her and her husband are in fact not together, there's no excuse for her not to text you at the end of the night before bed or something of the sorts. How long does it take to send a text? 20 seconds? How much have you heard from her? I am guessing dead silence. You're questioning too much of her story already and obviously your gut feeling is she is not telling the truth. Move on! This shouldn't be so hard. Exactly. Dead silence. And thanks for staying on topic.
Toodaloo Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 Exactly. Dead silence. And thanks for staying on topic. Dead silence? She would have messed you about. Leave it be and find a better one. It sucks being alone. Really does. But I can tell you now its a heck of a lot better than being in a bad one. Give yourself time, be objective and look after yourself. Do not let these whack jobs in. They will only screw you up in all the wrong ways.
Author coreydillon Posted March 18, 2016 Author Posted March 18, 2016 Dead silence? She would have messed you about. Leave it be and find a better one. It sucks being alone. Really does. But I can tell you now its a heck of a lot better than being in a bad one. Give yourself time, be objective and look after yourself. Do not let these whack jobs in. They will only screw you up in all the wrong ways. Yes. Even though I said just text me when on the way back, I would have thought she would have texted me a photo with her kid or something. Or just to say hello etc. or just say when she plans on returning lol. But maybe for the best this way anyway.
LivingDeadGrl Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 Yes. Even though I said just text me when on the way back, I would have thought she would have texted me a photo with her kid or something. Or just to say hello etc. or just say when she plans on returning lol. But maybe for the best this way anyway. You expected normal behavior from someone who isn't showing you anything normal at all. You will hear from her at some point, and when you do I would advise not to bother responding... 1
Author coreydillon Posted March 18, 2016 Author Posted March 18, 2016 (edited) You expected normal behavior from someone who isn't showing you anything normal at all. You will hear from her at some point, and when you do I would advise not to bother responding... I agree. These types always come back. Even if just for the attention. I mean if she was really going, and driving, she could have texted me while driving. Most people would. One other red flag was that she told me she did mapquest and it takes 6 hours to get there. The city is only 2 hours away where her ex supposedly moved to with her kids. Also when she cancelled seeing me to go on her trip she called and was like "change of plans but great news!!! I will get to see my kids. I told my ex that he can keep all of his retirement and that I will sign a paper so I can go see my kids". Also makes no sense. Edited March 18, 2016 by coreydillon 1
LivingDeadGrl Posted March 18, 2016 Posted March 18, 2016 I agree. These types always come back. Even if just for the attention. I mean if she was really going, and driving, she could have texted me while driving. Most people would. One other red flag was that she told me she did mapquest and it takes 6 hours to get there. The city is only 2 hours away where her ex supposedly moved to with her kids. Also when she cancelled seeing me to go on her trip she called and was like "change of plans but great news!!! I will get to see my kids. I told my ex that he can keep all of his retirement and that I will sign a paper so I can go see my kids". Also makes no sense. Exactly, and things that don't make sense usually aren't true. You sound like you know what you want in a partner and a relationship. I think she may have been telling you what you wanted to hear a little bit as well. I hope you find what you're looking for, it's obviously not in this woman. If there are any updates let us know!
Author coreydillon Posted March 18, 2016 Author Posted March 18, 2016 Exactly, and things that don't make sense usually aren't true. You sound like you know what you want in a partner and a relationship. I think she may have been telling you what you wanted to hear a little bit as well. I hope you find what you're looking for, it's obviously not in this woman. If there are any updates let us know! I think it's called "mirroring". When a new love interest thinks everything you say is wonderful, has the same ideas, etc. and also "love bombing" where they want to do anything and everything to please you. And everything about you is just unique and amazing. And then they just sort of disappear.
Author coreydillon Posted March 20, 2016 Author Posted March 20, 2016 Well another 2 days of silence. So I texted her to find out her plan. She texted back immediately saying "hey I was going to call today" then texted "I miss my kid too much. I am going to work things it with him"
LivingDeadGrl Posted March 20, 2016 Posted March 20, 2016 Well another 2 days of silence. So I texted her to find out her plan. She texted back immediately saying "hey I was going to call today" then texted "I miss my kid too much. I am going to work things it with him" LOL. They were never split up. Did you respond?
Author coreydillon Posted March 20, 2016 Author Posted March 20, 2016 She sounds crazy. Now she is texting me that she actually returned 2 days ago and wants to see me. Wtf????? Saying she won't return to her kid until the end of summer. I was actually picturing her there with her husband and kid.
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